Question. Please help

Come on lady, this girl is alone and without professional help, she just wants to feel a little bit better you think telling her that she's looking for reassurance help her with something? I know reassurance is not good but the truth is telling people that are in the middle of anxiety episode that they are seeking for reassurance doesn't help either, they already know that

@Perzibal And what are you doing to help expect complain about my advice? Nothing. So until you start actually helping people and giving the best advice possible when you aren’t a licensed professional and doing it all the time, then get back to me.

@Perzibal And yes, it does help people. You only make things worse by giving them reassurance and people often don’t even know what they’re doing IS reassurance and it’s bad for them. So, again, get better information next time before replying. Or, block me. Either way works for me.

@Nica With all due respect, can I ask a question? Is reassurance always bad ? Is it ever allowed with ocd ? I fully agree I need to stop asking for reassurance but it’s so hard. Just a question, is reassurance ever allowed ? Or is it always perceived as bad ?

@Dothewalkoflife. Yes, it is always bad. Reassurance doesn’t stop your OCD nor help your OCD because it will NEVER be satisfied. It is called the, “What if?” Disease for a reason. No matter how many times to seek reassurance, do a compulsion, ruminate, or check, it will just get worse. There is no satisfaction that will please OCD. And it’s the same for any other mental illness. That’s why ERP, staying in the present by practicing mindfulness, and not giving into your OCD are the keys to recovery. I was down this whole road for most of my life. I was in intense therapy for my mental illnesses—6 total—for 6 years. But I recovered and healed from all my mental illnesses and I absolutely love my life. I never give into my OCD; I do the opposite of what it wants me to do (if it wants me to do something physical or ruminate) and I let my intrusive thoughts, feelings, and urges be as they are. They only last for a second or two because I simply don’t care. If you don’t care—TRULY don’t care—then your brain/OCD knows to move on.

@Nica Thank you. Congratulations on your recovery 🤍

@Dothewalkoflife. You’re welcome and I know it’s hard, but you got this!

@Nica - Sorry I was a jerk, You are right, I can't help her, I only make her worse

@Givenup But do they have to be intrusive? What even counts as intrusive?

@Dothewalkoflife. A thought that you hate

@Dothewalkoflife. It's making me think that this anonymous woman I was talking to on an 18+ website was secretly a guy. We didn't do anything but I really wanted to... multiple other people in the chat room said she was a girl tho... I don't ever want to ever be homosexual at all...

@Givenup Yeah I have thoughts I don’t like. But I thought intrusive meant it comes out of nowhere ? I don’t think I have that. I feel like I kind of make the thoughts happen in a way?

@Dothewalkoflife. It makes me feel like that too!!!!

@Givenup How long have you been suffering with this theme ?