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- 6y
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- 6y
Gurl it’ll be ok!!! It’s ok to miss someone, but you don’t need him to be in your life because you should get out there and try to find someone new that won’t break your heart! Maybe this is God’s way of saying that there is someone out there who is so much more special and supportive of you and your heart! ❤️ The Lord works in mysterious ways! Wishing you love and happiness! ??
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- 6y
When we’re missing someone we tend to idealize them a lot. His faults now seem less important, his strengths more admirable. You’re not really even missing the real him, but the idea of him and all the things he represented. Whenever you miss EVERYTHING about a person, you know you’ve got on rose colored glasses. Something that may help you is writing out a list of his qualities and trying to evaluate them in a more rational way. Double check the good stuff: was it that good? And try to remember what used to bother you. Write out the stuff that used to spark fights and disagreements. And any doubts you had while in the relationship. The point isn’t to take him down or make him seem like a terrible person. It’s just to give you a more accurate view of what you’ve lost so you can grieve rather than ruminate. And so you can let go knowing you’re also letting go of all the things that really didn’t work in that relationship. I’m sorry you’re heart is hurting. Be kind to it! Surround yourself with loved ones.
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- 6y
Apologies are one thing. Showing someone that you actually wouldn’t take them for granted again is another. He gave you an apology: that’s great! That doesn’t mean he wouldn’t do it again. In fact, he probably would. Try getting that perspective I talked about. It’s important for you. It will give you clarity and set you up for better relationships in the future, whoever that may be with.
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- 6y
@pureolife thank you so much for saying all that it really means so much to me and I know you’re right, I’m definitely just thinking about the good times. I know it doesn’t change what happened but he’s apologized for all of the things that went wrong and even said he admits he took me for granted and that just makes me really hope that maybe things will workout for us in the future but I really doubt it will. I’m just so confused
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- 6y
@pureolife thank you again so much I really appreciate everything you’ve said thank you❤️ accepting all that just hurts more than anything has ever hurt more. Being taken for granted and losing someone really important to me has really hurt my heart
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- 23w
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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- 20w
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
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- 16w
I’m struggling a ton rn and would love some insight from people. My bf and I broke up bc my OCD got to the point where it was extremely damaging to my exes mental health. We’ve been on a break for the last 2 months while I get therapy and help and he wants to try again in August. We talk everyday and fall asleep on the phone but I’m miserable anxious about what he’s been doing during the break. My mind is flooded with the idea that he might follow new girls on Instagram or he flirting and talking to new girls. It’s KILLING me. I’ve made up an entire situation w no proof. And I’m scared it’s not my OCD talking but a gut feeling. I know we aren’t together but it’s not fair to emotionally invest in each other if he’s not being loyal like I am. I’m just losing my mind and need help honestly.
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