- Username
- jordanpaulson
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Gurl it’ll be ok!!! It’s ok to miss someone, but you don’t need him to be in your life because you should get out there and try to find someone new that won’t break your heart! Maybe this is God’s way of saying that there is someone out there who is so much more special and supportive of you and your heart! ❤️ The Lord works in mysterious ways! Wishing you love and happiness! ??
When we’re missing someone we tend to idealize them a lot. His faults now seem less important, his strengths more admirable. You’re not really even missing the real him, but the idea of him and all the things he represented. Whenever you miss EVERYTHING about a person, you know you’ve got on rose colored glasses. Something that may help you is writing out a list of his qualities and trying to evaluate them in a more rational way. Double check the good stuff: was it that good? And try to remember what used to bother you. Write out the stuff that used to spark fights and disagreements. And any doubts you had while in the relationship. The point isn’t to take him down or make him seem like a terrible person. It’s just to give you a more accurate view of what you’ve lost so you can grieve rather than ruminate. And so you can let go knowing you’re also letting go of all the things that really didn’t work in that relationship. I’m sorry you’re heart is hurting. Be kind to it! Surround yourself with loved ones.
Apologies are one thing. Showing someone that you actually wouldn’t take them for granted again is another. He gave you an apology: that’s great! That doesn’t mean he wouldn’t do it again. In fact, he probably would. Try getting that perspective I talked about. It’s important for you. It will give you clarity and set you up for better relationships in the future, whoever that may be with.
@pureolife thank you so much for saying all that it really means so much to me and I know you’re right, I’m definitely just thinking about the good times. I know it doesn’t change what happened but he’s apologized for all of the things that went wrong and even said he admits he took me for granted and that just makes me really hope that maybe things will workout for us in the future but I really doubt it will. I’m just so confused
@pureolife thank you again so much I really appreciate everything you’ve said thank you❤️ accepting all that just hurts more than anything has ever hurt more. Being taken for granted and losing someone really important to me has really hurt my heart
My boyfriend of almost two years just broke up with me. I’m hurting a lot and the ocd has skyrocketed because of it, especially since I haven’t been feeling the best already. I also always have a physical reaction to stress, and have been dealing with feeling sick all night. Does anyone have any tips or advice for how to deal with this?
My boyfriend just dumped me because he lost feelings and thinks we’re too hard and it’s because of my anxiety and ROCD:(( I’m a mess rn guys. I love him and I lost the best part of me. Does anyone have any advice for breakups
I just went through my first breakup. My ex and I dated for almost 5 years and the breakup was mutual but it still hurts so much. I had ROCD throughout our entire relationship that I’m sure took a toll on us both but what led us to the end was completely separate—he hurt me in a way I couldn’t get past after it happening multiple times before. Even though the breakup was mutual and I know we need this to move forward either with or without one another, I am in so much pain. We both are still in love with the other and it’s making this breakup 10x harder because I am freaking out over whether or not I overreacted and I am throwing away something amazing just because of my ROCD sabotaging everything for us. It wasn’t the only issue but I guess I’m freaking out thinking it could’ve been the root of many of my frustrations. I just feel nauseous and depressed and exhausted (I can’t sleep). I guess I just need some guidance here. I have no idea how to navigate a breakup, let alone one where OCD is involved.
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