I need help

@MattK i can’t differentiate my feelings for my friends. i don’t know if they are platonic or romantic and i’m worried they are romantic

@MattK like i love my friends and care about them but i’m scared i love them in a romantic way? i had a deep connection with one of my old good friends and i’m scared it was to deep or intimate. i’m scared that i was actually into her

@phew99914 again the uncertainty will stop the brain from ruminating those thoughts if you were into her. friendships can be deep or intimate but you were prob just close to her but it doesn’t mean you were into her. i don’t want to give reassurance bc it will lead into a cycle. it’s normal to love and care ab friends but it doesn’t mean you love them romantically, it’s if you would want to really be with them, or a future, your friends will always have your back but it doesn’t get that far. i recommend being “maybe it’s true maybe it’s not”. it stops those unnecessary questions that confuse you. if you know your values and what you want and don’t want, you know these aren’t your thoughts and are intrusive. being confused with feelings is really hard but it’s a part of what it is

@MattK Sorry I was just skimming through and saw what you wrote ‘your brain wouldn’t ruminate those thoughts if you were into her’ and I’ve had fears I were in love with old friends of mine and the obsessions would come and go. Now I’m freaking out because the wouldn’t stay with me all the time but again come and go but they’d still freak me out and make me obsess.

@ElleBellethegothghoul wait did i say that

@MattK i think i meant something else but i can’t remember at the time

@MattK Yeah you said ‘again the uncertainty will stop the brain from ruminating those thoughts if you were into her’ 😅 that triggered me for a moment haha

@MattK Or did I read that wrong?

@ElleBellethegothghoul my bad if it triggered something. tbh i don’t remember what i meant, i think i was saying that the uncertainty will stop the thoughts of being into her but i just worded it bad

@MattK That was my bad lol I misinterpreted what ya wrote lol

@ElleBellethegothghoul np lol

@MattK it just feels so real. it’s so frustrating and depressing to doubt myself

@phew99914 i know exactly what you feel like. just because it does feel real doesn’t mean it is. feeling doubt is what it does to you. just know no matter how frustrating it is no matter the hardships it’s possible but hard. if you try seeking reassurance that you are just friends or try to link things that you may have been romantically into a friend, it leads to more doubt. i’m sorry, it is a hard one being with friends but you got this and keep pushing through life bc there’s always a way out eventually.

@MattK thank you for your advice!