phew99914
- Date posted
- 2y
I need help
I really need advice, i need help to be able to differentiate my feelings
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
if you get groinal feelings it’s normal. you could have other physical feelings like i remember someone said butterflies in their stomach. it’s just physical responses and doesn’t mean anything but since if you are worried ab that it adds value to it. if you really have feelings you probably like the person and who they are and actually are interested in them vs random thoughts ab a person who comes up. idk how to explain exactly
phew99914phew99914
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- 2y
@MattK i can’t differentiate my feelings for my friends. i don’t know if they are platonic or romantic and i’m worried they are romantic
phew99914phew99914
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK like i love my friends and care about them but i’m scared i love them in a romantic way? i had a deep connection with one of my old good friends and i’m scared it was to deep or intimate. i’m scared that i was actually into her
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@phew99914 again the uncertainty will stop the brain from ruminating those thoughts if you were into her. friendships can be deep or intimate but you were prob just close to her but it doesn’t mean you were into her. i don’t want to give reassurance bc it will lead into a cycle. it’s normal to love and care ab friends but it doesn’t mean you love them romantically, it’s if you would want to really be with them, or a future, your friends will always have your back but it doesn’t get that far. i recommend being “maybe it’s true maybe it’s not”. it stops those unnecessary questions that confuse you. if you know your values and what you want and don’t want, you know these aren’t your thoughts and are intrusive. being confused with feelings is really hard but it’s a part of what it is
ElleBellethegothghoulElleBellethe...
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK Sorry I was just skimming through and saw what you wrote ‘your brain wouldn’t ruminate those thoughts if you were into her’ and I’ve had fears I were in love with old friends of mine and the obsessions would come and go. Now I’m freaking out because the wouldn’t stay with me all the time but again come and go but they’d still freak me out and make me obsess.
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@ElleBellethegothghoul wait did i say that
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK i think i meant something else but i can’t remember at the time
ElleBellethegothghoulElleBellethe...
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- 2y
@MattK Yeah you said ‘again the uncertainty will stop the brain from ruminating those thoughts if you were into her’ 😅 that triggered me for a moment haha
ElleBellethegothghoulElleBellethe...
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK Or did I read that wrong?
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@ElleBellethegothghoul my bad if it triggered something. tbh i don’t remember what i meant, i think i was saying that the uncertainty will stop the thoughts of being into her but i just worded it bad
ElleBellethegothghoulElleBellethe...
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK That was my bad lol I misinterpreted what ya wrote lol
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@ElleBellethegothghoul np lol
MattKMattK
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- 2y
i kind of had that for a bit. i was worried i might have feelings but i let myself know that they are my friends and i treated them as friends and tried to just have fun around them and ignore thoughts of the possibility. you are probably just worried that it is, and it feeds into that, one way is just to tell yourself that it may or may not be true. things can feel real but uncertainty is a part of it.
phew99914phew99914
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- 2y
@MattK it just feels so real. it’s so frustrating and depressing to doubt myself
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
@phew99914 i know exactly what you feel like. just because it does feel real doesn’t mean it is. feeling doubt is what it does to you. just know no matter how frustrating it is no matter the hardships it’s possible but hard. if you try seeking reassurance that you are just friends or try to link things that you may have been romantically into a friend, it leads to more doubt. i’m sorry, it is a hard one being with friends but you got this and keep pushing through life bc there’s always a way out eventually.
phew99914phew99914
- Date posted
- 2y
@MattK thank you for your advice!
MattKMattK
- Date posted
- 2y
no problem i tried my best with this but i don’t exactly know what it’s like in your shoes, ocd is a thing that will tear you down if you give in to what it wants, it’s up to your reactions to those thoughts that can help or hurt tou
PubbywomwomPubbywomwom
- Date posted
- 2y
Throw the uncertainty in there. Maybe you love your friends maybe you don’t. Then go on don’t try to solve it
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- Date posted
- 13w
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