Hi!!

Haven’t posted here in a few weeks. But just had an aha moment lol, glad I’m able to identify when it’s my ocd speaking for myself and not me, but at the same tike I been having this question in my head, curious if ocd or any other mental health disorder can cause you to push away your partner when they about to kiss you, or show love to you. To add on to this, this is something i already identified as part of my ocd, and it’s in regards to the FUTURE, oh boyyy… the future scares me so much, because i keep thinking we not going to have a future together, or that we are incompatible. This can affect you so much! Imagine your partner telling you all the plans for the future and you just sitting there fully triggered.

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

Yeah OCD likes to get us all worried about future problems, many of which never happen. I keep reminding myself to be in the present and try to accept that the future is uncertain. For specific future issues a worry script helps me.

RuminationSt...

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P What’s a worry script??

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@RuminationStation It’s where you write out what you fear and how you feel and then read it. It’s really important to use “may” as in XYZ may happen instead of “will happen” and not include any solutions or planning just fears. They can be hard to do but they have been helpful for me.

RuminationSt...

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P Ah! Okay I do this too. I just call it something else. I like “worry script” though!

Danielle Carter

User type: Member advocate

Date posted: 2y

I have certainly been there for sure! It is difficult to try to enjoy your relationship when you're constantly stuck in your head. OCD can make us doubt any and everything. I'm so glad that you are able to differentiate between those thoughts now.

Anonymous

User type: Staff

Date posted: 2y

This can be so hard for sure. I think that when you have OCD and your mind is running rampant with so many different worries and fears it can be super difficult to remain present in the moment. It can also be difficult to look towards the future when you are struggling in the here and now. Try and give yourself self-compassion, you are doing the best that you can. It can get easier.

sabrinaindigo

Date posted: 2y

i feel like this too you are not alone , i started listening to this podcast called the anxious love coach , she helps. and i find it helpful to just take things day by day.

Uypvqcm5

Date posted: 23w

ROCD

For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..

Holliea12

Date posted: 15w

Feelings

Hey everyone, I wanted to come on here today to just share this post because I’ve been struggling with this recently. I just wanna know if this is a common thing in relationship OCD. So last Friday me and my boyfriend had a conversation that was important, and my emotions were high and I got a little emotional about something he said and we had a long talk about it, the conversation went great and afterwards everything was okay. On Saturday I was so excited to see him after work and I was overflowing with feelings of happiness and excitement. Sunday was great and we stayed on FaceTime just enjoying the day together after he went home that morning, and then came Monday. I remember getting a thought like this, “What if I’m losing feelings for him and I’m just leading him on?” And even this thought, “I don’t really feel anything towards him right now, does that mean I fell out of love with him?” And then the anxiety came, I could literally feel myself breaking out in cold sweats and I could feel the pain in my chest after these thoughts crossed my mind. But what bothers me so much about this is on Saturday and Sunday I felt so content and happy with him and I was so happy and I didn’t have any anxiety whatsoever, and then Monday came, and I had those thoughts and I feel almost numb and I can’t feel anything else except the feelings of worry and fear and my anxiety has been at a all-time high and I keep feeling this pain of guilt and hurt in my chest and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced the same. Because personally one thing I hate is that one day I can be so happy and energetic and then the next day I can feel numb and feel absolutely nothing towards my boyfriend. I’m not sure if this can correlate with my menstrual cycle as well, but I’ve heard that that can also make your relationship OCD worse and cause you to feel differently about your partner. Just wanting to see if anyone has dealt with the same!

shopgirl

Date posted: 13w

New relationship and OCD spike

I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?

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