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Is anyone else scared to have children because of their ocd? Because I used to want to have kids before my ocd hit me like a freight train.
Is anyone else scared to have children because of their ocd? Because I used to want to have kids before my ocd hit me like a freight train.
Please stay strong. Pregnancy was so terrifying for me too. But my 3 kids are the best thing in my whole life-truley. They are worth fighting for, never let OCD take away that joy. It's life changing in the best way.
Yep. I’m pregnant right now and cannot go through because of this theme I have
I’m pregnant right now and I can honestly say this is the worst my ocd has ever been. My hopes are once the baby is here and my hormones begin to stabilize things will improve. 🤍
@Anonymous987 Are you taking meds during
@artsygirl I am actually. I’m on Effexor and was put on abilify yesterday to help augment because it was getting worse.
@artsygirl This same topic is what has me currently in a spiral. I want to get pregnant but I have a heart condition. The idea of not having access to clonazepam has me very scared. We were supposed to try this month but we won’t be with how I’m doing. I’m frustrated because I know this is what I want but getting my mind on board is really hard.
@artsygirl Sending you so many hugs🤍 I think of this quote from a movie I watched as a kid “never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” I know in some cases depending on circumstances doctors with allow clonazepam during pregnancy.
@Anonymous987 I know people think you probably shouldn’t have kids when you are on clonazepam or how could you possibly but for me, it’s the fear of my heart and it’s also the stress and anxiety with ocd. I know I can be a good mom. It’s getting there.
I wouldn’t have OCD stop you from having children. Unless you really are confident you don’t want them. I struggled with harm OCD after having my first baby. I didn’t know what this was. Why it was happening. But one thing remained constant, I loved my daughter more than anything. While people with OCD have a lot of fear. It’s rooted in a deep love. You’re scared because you love this child so much. I reminded myself that a lot. I still struggle. She’s one now. But not nearly as bad as when she was first born because you’re hormones rapidly drop after a baby. If you have a therapist in place, a support system, maybe even a psychiatrist if you’re on meds. You will have all the tools you need to get through it. Also keep in mind some people with ocd experience nothing after having a baby. They’re able to bond right away. All that good stuff. And some people experience ocd. I know someone who has ocd who didn’t have any reaction to her first child. But the 2 after she did. It all depends.
@Kilo2001 Hi, did the harm OCD get better? Did you need medication? I’m dealing with this now:(
@Anonymous Yes it did but it took over a year and I started therapy really late but my diagnoses made me feel a lot better. I didn’t know I had ocd and truly thought I was going insane so to hear a name put to what I was going through helped. Turns out I always had it. Just never experienced harm and. That’s been the worst by far. I tried meds and hated it. I think I’m better off without them.
Is it common for children with OCD to have intense fears of certain things? For example, I was extremely afraid of tsunamis – I was constantly dreaming about them. Then, I became afraid of ghosts, robbers, war, the possibility that someone close to me might get sick or die, that I might develop a tumor, that our house could catch fire, or that I would grow up to be a drug addict. I even thought about getting a tongue piercing when I was older and was scared of doing that without having control, which now seems kind of funny. There were periods when I had different fears, but I always needed to ask my parents if these things would happen, and they would always reassure me. Although I don’t remember everything clearly, I know that throughout my childhood, I constantly had such fears. I remember ehen something was wrong with me (for example: i had headache) I immediately thought of the worst case scenario and I was extremely anxious. And another thing is that I couldn’t let go of a past as a child (still actually) Now I’m wondering, is this something every child experiences (even those without OCD), or is it more intense for children with OCD?
So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭
I have HOCD and my biggest dream is becoming a mother. However, with my intrusive thoughts/images I’ve stopped trying to conceive. Is there any other people that has been going through this same fear?
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