I can’t stop thinking about the guy who I loved who broke my heart. Don’t know if it’s a heart break or if it’s my OCD that’s making me obsess over every little thing. Or if it’s both? Either way this is torture! I would much rather be suffering from my other themes because I am constantly thinking about him and it’s so so so distracting. I can’t do anything.
I relate to this so much!
I used to have this friend and I thought I actually liked her and thought about here like 24/7, months after I realised it was probably my OCD obsessing over something. Idk if this has anything to do with what ur going through but I think OCD can make you obsess over people.
@Dragos9898 I am obsessing over him and rereading messages and even stalking his ex girlfriend on social media and their dog 😭 (they had a dog who has an instagram account) I check these accounts every day out of habit
I'm like obsessed with the memories or the person and then my memories of thinking about that person in places it didn't make sense and then I get mad at myself that this person is in my memories that they weren't involved in cuz they were in my thoughts. It's exhausting.
@Anonymous It’s exhausting! It takes so much of my time I wish it didn’t because I could be using this time for myself
depends… but from similar experience its most likely just your ocd!! because lets say that he had done absolutely nothing to have you obsessed, then thats just your ocd clinging on to him… thats if he didnt give you a reason to be obsessed. if he did give you a reason, then you do miss him, and thats normal to a certain extent …!!!! and what i mean by that is, missing someone should be just but some sadness and reminiscing… and in unhealthy cases can also consist of you beating yourself up or holding up your life. but please dont beat yourself up over someone who clearly did not deserve your time. i dont know what else there is to this situation… but if he broke your heart, then just think of it like he wasn’t worthy. thats what i do to get over my obsessions… also remember, obsessions often turn into disgust.
@yeojin I hope they turn into disgust soon because I’m tired of constantly thinking of him and all the what ifs…these thoughts have distracted me. I was supposed to apply for school but these thoughts overwhelmed me and now the deadline is a week away and I have nothing. I feel so stupid for admitting to that
Just seems weird to think about someone I dated so long ago every day. There's definitely trauma tied up in it but it's like I kept going back to that wbags wrong with me or had I not gone back to that this time this time this time I wouldn't have these triggers or I wouldn't still be thinking about this 5 years later. It's hard it gets jumbled up like real memories vs memories of memories
@Anonymous I don’t even think about the memories I just think about him or if I do think about the memories I think “maybe I should have said this differently or done this differently maybe he would have stayed then”
the most debilitating ocd flare-up i’ve been having for the past few months has been about the guy i used to talk to. we weren’t dating per-se, but whatever was going on between us was very confusing and unclear, and it ended up with me being very hurt. he was basically leading me on, and couldn’t commit to me. it’s been months since we’ve stopped talking and i still can’t stop thinking about him. i don’t even care about him that much in an objective sense, but i am genuinely obsessed with him. everything i see reminds me of him, and my mind is constantly running through thoughts about him and our situation — why did it go the way it did, what did i do wrong, does he still think about me, etc. it’s honestly so humiliating and makes me feel pathetic because i know he’s probably moved on by now, and i still can’t handle the thought or sight of him. i just wish i could stop ruminating, because it’s gotten so bad that i can’t focus on school or anything else in life. it’s so constant to the point where, when i bring it up to my friends (which is very often), i’m met with concern and even frustration rather than sympathy. how can i cope with the rumination? it’s genuinely exhausting, and i can’t sleep at night because my brain is just running like a motor. i have dreams about it almost nightly as well. anything helps!
Hi everyone! I have been having a rough time. So my boyfriend talks to his ex still as friends and I’ve been struggling with it lately and I can’t tell if it’s OCD or not but it does feel so distressing. She wasn’t texting him for about 2-3 months as she got into a relationship with this guy and they broke up. She had messaged him saying that she has no one else to talk to and needed to vent to someone. At first I felt okay, but my intrusive thoughts took over and it seemed like she was trying to get with him after the fact. It’s probably just my intrusive thoughts talking but he looks on Discord (the app where the message) constantly now and my intrusive thoughts convince me that he’s still in love with her. Then yesterday I saw one of his BeReals (a little photo app that shows a photo of the day) and I saw that he was watching one of her streams as she is a streamer. I struggled to talk about it because it made my worst thought feel like it came true where he is still in love with her. When we talked he gets a lil mad that I don’t tell him right away like straight up what I’m feeling but it’s hard to process because my thoughts flood in of all the worst things and I don’t want to come off as toxic at all and I know relationships are built on trust and I want to trust because this is literally the only thing that makes me nervous about him. It also doesn’t help that I’ve been cheated on before so I’m trying to protect myself but I’m lost. I get so depressed and so anxious because I feel like I have to grieve the relationship and it’s just so dramatic. I’ve never loved anyone like this before and I don’t wanna lose him by bringing this stuff up constantly when something occurs with his ex. I don’t know why I get triggered so easily and I just wanna heal from it and be the good girlfriend I’m supposed to be 😭
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
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