Is this still ROCD?

My ldr Partner and i have Ended things three days ago, I removed him from ig but we’re still Connected on Twitter and Snapchat. Although I don’t use Twitter as much as I used to anymore, including Snapchat. Our saved pics/ vids and conversations are all deleted so it’d be easier to move on and so I wouldn’t keep rereading as well. I didn’t want to un-add him, but I removed his name from the chat feed. So far, I’ve been doing fine with moving on but I still think about him. I let myself feel all the sadness and hurt, just to let it all out. Somehow, I keep having this nagging Talk at the back of my mind. Saying I’m not moving on if we’re still friends on snap and Twitter, that I’m not making any progress. That I should remove him completely. I still don’t want to, I haven’t been having any urges to Text hin as well, at least not for now. Is this nagging feeling still rocd?

Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y

IDR partner? Also, if it’s not too personal, why did the relationship end? Was ROCD behind it?

Acrasia

Date posted: 2y

@Brendan =] Ldr- Long distance relationship And it ended cause he couldn’t handle ldr, he wanted to enjoy his youth more and was always busy. He knows that I have rocd and was understanding about it, he just couldn’t take with the Arguments and making time for me. We’ve only been together for 4 months

Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y

I see. I read the “l” as an “i”. Sorry. I wish I had more advice instead of questions but here goes: Why is it you don’t want to just remove him? Are you still hoping he will change his mind? Are you hoping to see what he’s doing or is up to? To see if he’s with someone else? Is there something you want to know? Is it just a residual attachment and grief? As someone who is still dealing with horrendous ROCD and having an awful day, I’m probably not doing what’s best by even responding, but maybe look into these questions briefly and don’t judge or ruminate. Maybe these are bad questions and ones people couldn’t answer after 3 days. Maybe it’s bad advice. Use your best judgment. I’m looking to help but I know I’m in a rough spot. Also, I would really watch out for attempting to find meaning in everything you’re doing or not doing, thinking or not thinking, feeling or not feeling. Big or small. This overthinking and over-analysis isn’t going to bring you peace or comfort. Lastly, acknowledge that you’re grieving and that you can give yourself some time and patience for healing and self-care. Be gentle with yourself and go out of your way to be kind and compassionate to you, your mind, and your body. You deserve it. To me, and maybe this also isn’t wonderful advice, the real thing to decide is whether to be permanently done or try to reconcile. And even that is not something I think needs to be done right now. Its probably not wise to attempt to answer that right now. It’s hard to know how you’re really doing from your short post, but again really watch out for rumination. I’m really thinking of you and wishing you well.

Acrasia

Date posted: 2y

@Brendan =] We ended things sort of peacefully, the last time we called- I asked him if we’re gonna unfollow each other after. He said that we don’t have to, that he’s always gonna be there when we check on each other, that is when I’m ready to talk again. So far, I’m not expecting anything if we’d reconcile or he’d change his mind. Hes the Type of Person that wouldn’t change his mind once he’s set on something, at least what I knew. I’m sorry to hear about your day, but I’m thankful you responded to my post.

Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y

@Acrasia I’m really sorry if I made it about me. I don’t at all want to take away from your situation. We’re here for you. =] It sounds like you’re doing okay. I’m sure there’s still pain and hurt, but there always will be when a relationship end and it just takes time. This could be an opportunity to start fresh, if anything. Give yourself time and what you need and permission to feel. It sounds like you’re doing that. I wish I had more. =]

Acrasia

Date posted: 2y

@Brendan =] Thank you, it’s no problem at all for you to rant. We’re all going through something awful. I am still in pain from a relationship ending, but it was for the best. He started to care less after a couple of months, despite him saying otherwise. I’ll give myself time to process and go through with it. I just hate this nagging feeling that I’m not making any progress of moving on if I’m still friends with him in some social media.

bmaria

Date posted: 25w

Rocd?

My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts

Chibee

Date posted: 15w

Should I cut contact w this guy friend

Long story short he’s one of many subjects of my ROCD intrusive thoughts (i’m in a committed relationship) but we were once decent friends in college. We’re mutuals online bc we’re both artists. I recently ran into him while visiting campus, tried to reach out to catch up and got ghosted after expressing that I can sense he doesn’t care for the friendship (he kept flaking and I’m worth more than that lol). Told my bf, he seems indifferent . But he also doesn’t know how bad my ROCD can get. Should I just cut the dude off? I feel that’d provide a quick temporary relief from the ROCD problems, but I also am sad for the friendship. He helped and supported my bf and I’s relationship when no one else did. Plus he’s not the source of the ROCD, my brain is. Cutting out every trigger won’t fix it.

Relationship OCD

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Date posted: 13w

Has anyone ever felt like this I’m freaking out

I have had ocd in my relationship for a while now. When I originally met him it was like this insane spiritual soulmate feeling and we just clicked instantly and he never judged me. I’m scared cause when I picture breaking up with my boyfriend I see myself being ok and being sad but moving on which I never was able to see before doesn’t this mean that this is what would happen or I don’t know till it happens? I still can’t imagine what life would be like without him but I just feel like I have lost feelings that I never wanted to lose. plus that’s also when I just picture knowing how people move on and how I’d just have to move on without letting myself picture processing the losses of all. I’m just really scared cause I used to think of wanting other things in someone else and what it would be like but I just thought how nice it would be to have it and not actually meaning it bc every time I thought about it I got upset and now it feels diff. He knows I have ocd but I never explained the ROCD because I thought it would have offended him so every time I went through a flare up I never told and acted like I was fine and it kept happening and OCD kept getting worse and worse. Maybe that’s part of the issue cause I haven’t been feeling like myself. But this is a feeling I never wanted to feel ever with him. I have gone through the feeling of numb but not like this. And he has a lot of positives but I can only see him overall as negatives and I’ve been told that’s ocd but it’s affecting how I feel. And yes there are legit actual things in the relationship that upset me but ocd has been affecting the way I look at him also. I keep being told my judgment is being impaired but this time it rly feels like not. And I’m Scared why don’t memories and things affect me like it used to doesn’t that mean I want this. Has anyone experienced this or is this the end 😭

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