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- 2y
Answer please?
Why does my ocd seem to be geared towards my older son? He’s a great son, ect, love him With my life, why does it seem I think stuff about him the most, and he’s named after me, I don’t get it?
Why does my ocd seem to be geared towards my older son? He’s a great son, ect, love him With my life, why does it seem I think stuff about him the most, and he’s named after me, I don’t get it?
I am sorry that you are having a hard time. Ocd is distressful and it takes all that we have that is dear to us and tries to destroy it. Since you clearly cherish your son, ocd will definitely attack him. If you didn’t value your son, ocd would not choose him to go after. It sucks but keep in mind OCD is a liar. Period.
Yes true, my saving Grace is it comes and goes, o know it’s not true, and GOD knows the real me , thank you for the reply
I’m sorry your OCD is latching onto your son. You are definitely not alone. It’s so tough when our obsessions surround our loved ones…it may help to remember that there’s often no rhyme or reason to our obsessions, beyond what Jeffrey said about OCD attacking our values/things that are important to us. This is just OCD’s way of trying to get your attention! The more we obsess about “why” this is and try to resist the thoughts, the more distress we’ll feel in the long run. The best thing we can do in these moments is to remember that that’s just the name of the game with OCD, and the fears themselves aren’t the issue. How we respond is the issue. We can respond with non-engagement no matter what the content of the fears! Are you working with an ERP therapist already?
Killian, thanks for the response, I’ve never been to a doctor about OCD, maybe I just have weird brain circuits, lol, but I’m pretty sure it’s OCD. I’ve always had tics since I was a kid, I’m 60, those little things are no big deal, but thoughts eat me up, especially knowing they’re the opposite of who I really am. They come and go, and I can feel when they’re here, and when gone… just strange …I’m very lucky my wife is great, she’s the most understanding one in this world , that’s all I have for now lol
I've suffered with OCD for 50 years with many different themes. SOOCD is my primary theme, and no matter which theme I may be in the middle of it always comes back to SOOCD. I'm back in therapy because after a couple of really good years, I've been in the middle of a flare up. My new therapist with NOCD, recently asked me what my core fear about homosexuallity is. I can't seem to answer that. The only answer that I can come up with, is that it is just egotistic. I'm a heterosexual man who loves my wife and raised three great kids. My question is, have. any ofyou ever been able to answer that question. I would appreciate any thoughts on this question. Thank you and have a great day.
So basically I didn’t know till my hocd started. But looking back at my life I had ocd since I was a kid. Like 6-7 years old. First time happening I remember that when I was doing stuff many times I had to say something like a little poem in my head to stop it. Then I had this thing were if I felt my left foot touch the floor 5 times I had to do the touch the floor with my right foot too. Then I had something I guess contamination??? Basically after washing my hands I had a sensation on my hand like I could still “feel” the germs and I had to wash them again. Then I started having thoughts of my family members getting hurt. I had intrusive thoughts about me hurting my dog. Then I had this obsession that a guy who used to be in my school is looking for me to beat me up. And how it’s this obsession about my sexuality even tho I never doubted or questioned it before. Is that possible??? Like can you be born with it? I’m pretty sure both my parents have it too. At least at some level. Take my father for example he had an obsession that he was going to die the moment he turned 30.
My son has Pure O religious/scrupulosity with GAD and Bipolar. My son was diagnosed with Pure O religious OCD two years ago. He has to complete a task so that God doesn’t send him to hell if he doesn’t do it. These tasks are dangerous like doing multiple back flips on concrete, or jumping off balconies three times, doing MMA slams on his back three times. The thoughts are telling him if he doesn’t do this he will go to hell. Or he is so worried about blaspheming the holy spirt and loose his salvation. He knows this is his OCD. He knows the scripture and that God is one of peace and love. Been there and done that on quoting scripture and reminding him he is saved. I can see the torture he is going through and it is painful to watch. He also needs to be stuck next to me at all times cuz it makes him feel safe. This is impeding on my life as I feel I have a toddler again, he is 24 and a former 4 star football player. He wants this to stop, he is in therapy and working on it. He was free from these thoughts from November 2023 till April 2025. He is dealing with narcissistic trauma with his father and this triggers the OCD. My question is what can I do to support and help him through these episodes and not agitate him and to help him heal?
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