I’m new to the app. I’ve bene struggling with intrusive thoughts that my boyfriend will leave me. It leads me to contact him while he’s working and frantically calling him to get reassurance. I’m trying to manage my emotions but the thoughts are constantly there and he doesn’t give me the responses I’m looking for such as don’t worry I’m not. So I am in constant fear
I know this is probably so hard fo you when he doesn't give the responses that you want but it is actually good ERP! The more you allow the hard feelings to be there without having to get reassurance the more your brain will learn that you can handle tough emotions. I am so glad that you found this community! Have you been formally diagnosed with OCD and had any ERP?
I hear ya ! I do the same ! This app helps a lot ! Hang in there ! Let’s stick togather
Welcome to the app! I think you will find a supportive community here. Ocd can be a very cruel disorder and attacks is where we are most vulnerable. Does your boyfriend know you have ocd? If he does - am I am assuming that he is aware that providing you with reassurance will only make the ocd stronger. We have to sit in the middle when intrusive thoughts strike and that is not easy by any stretch of the imagination- but it is the way to us controlling the ocd and not the other way around. I would encourage you to get erp therapy if you have not already as it is the gold star treatment for ocd. We can never cure ourselves from ocd but we can live life without ocd always being in control.
Hey! I have also experienced something like this - I would constantly need to ring my boyfriend because I thought he would never come home, I thought he would die and sometimes i thought I would never see him again whenever he would go anywhere or simply go to sleep (I have also had this problem with family members aswell) I always rung him and spoke to him as much as possible and he simply didn't understand. It's so hard but it gets better with time and as you grow up.
Hi, welcome! OCD is the worst and so sorry you are going through it. Every time you text him seeking reassurance, the OCD grows and gets stronger. It’s hard but you have to try and sit with the thoughts and discomfort and to not react. Just let the thoughts say whatever they want and try to just ignore them or even agree with them. By agreeing with them you’ll throw OCD for a spin since you are done being scared of the thoughts. I know it’s hard but you have to tell yourself “maybe my bf will break up with me, maybe he won’t. I can’t know for sure so I’m going to move on.”
Hi 👋 this is hard because I know that it feels real, and the feelings are so difficult to sit with because they scream that we need to act on them, but to get through OCD, we have to sit with the hard feelings until we are at a place without all the horrible anxiety and can think more clearly. Try to breathe, you are going yo do wonderful 💗
Does anyone want to share their thoughts on Relationship OCD? I am new here and have obsessive jealousy (ie I obsess that my partner is always cheating on me and have to check on him constantly). It’s really been hard on me and my boyfriend and I’m struggling to do the exposures..
I am new to this app so I really appreciate any feedback on this post! I suffer from what started as intrusive thoughts which has now escalated immensely over the last few years. I feel like I am not in control of myself, when it comes to being around my pet, other humans and worry about several things and more. Another one is a worry that I will betray my boyfriend who I love. Sometimes I have intrusive thoughts so strong that it almost becomes like a ‘feeling’. And I know I love my boyfriend but it’s almost like I’m so focused all the time that I feel exhausted, so sometimes I’ll get let the thoughts in about my boyfriend and being with him, and then it comes so strong that I almost believe the intrusive thoughts about him. When I’m out of this state of mind - I then feel extreme guilt and worry that I’ve done something to betray him like cheating. I’m so confused by this and so distressed. What I’ve wrote probably doesn’t even make sense, but if it does to someone, could you please shed some light on this x
Hi guys. I’m struggling because I obsess over things I feel I’ve done wrong and I fear my boyfriend will break up with me over them. I never cheated on him but it’s things like responding to a compliment wrong, feeling like I said something flirtatious when I wasn’t trying to seem flirtatious. I’ve told my boyfriend about some of my fears and he hasn’t broken up with me but my compulsion is to tell him my fears so he can reassure me that the thing I’m obsessing about isn’t a deal breaker. However it’s really not healthy for my relationship to tell him everything I feel I did wrong and I feel like I have to tell him every little detail of every conversation that bothers me. Does anyone else have thoughts like this?
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