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I have ROCD, too. Some of my mental compulsions are: • trying to find the answer to whether we will last forever/whether he is right for me • analyzing his facial expressions, tone of voice, body language, words, text responses, whether he says "I love you" at the end of a phone call in order to check if he really loves me. • ruminating and worrying anout scenarios that might happen in the future • checking how I feel when I'm with him & without him • comparing our relationship to others--both real & fictitious ones
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Fir me a compulsion is just thinking about something that is bothering me over and over and trying to understand it or figure out what went wrong. I also have Dermatillomania and so I pick when I am stressed.
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Ive avoided songs,movies and friends because Ive felt they could trigger me too
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I used to have ROCD, with my doting husband, of all people. ??♀️ I would say "I love you," just to hear it back. I would check his phone and laptop. I would question my worth and if he loved me. I would check to see if he was really paying attention to me when I talked.
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- 6y
Yes, that can be a compulsion. Often times when we do that thinking over and over thing, we're trying to problem solve. Problem solving isn't effective for OCD.
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Creating scenarios to see how Id feel, checking how I feel if Im with him,if he tells me he loves me, if I tell him I love him, when I look at him, going over a thought to try to understand why it came to my mind in the first place, analyzing different events in our relationship to see how I was feeling and so on
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I know your pain-I have sesorimotor OCD,and Derealazation-It sucks
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Seems like you have pure o. If it pops in your head so much that it interferes with your life then that is classed as pure o
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- 6y
I have Pure-O and pick at my skin until it bleeds.
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- 6y
I’m up right now should be having fun at the lake with my girlfriends and I’m in bed and just can’t fucking sleep it just keeps popping in my head that I don’t love my sweet boyfriend and I have convinced myself I’m unhappy and he’s the funnest person in the world. I love his quirky side. So a compulsion can be just thinking about what bothers me? Like over and over? Trying to find guidance in this time so terrified it’s just how I feel and I don’t wanna believe that
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- 18w
My boyfriend is staying the weekend at his parents house for his moms birthday and my ocd was quiet for most of the day and then I had the thought of my off has been quiet so I must not actually love my boyfriend which then just kept spiraling. I did resist compulsions to the best of my ability. I think there’s some mental ones I do as well but idk what they are. Anyway how do you guys resist mental compulsions what could some mental compulsions be?
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So I've been working to address my OCD for about a month now. So far, I haven't been working on it with a therapist and have instead been trying to create my own exposure exercises. The primary obsession I'm working on is the fear that I'm somehow flawed or invalid on a fundamental level. The best way I can describe it it is that its similar to the feeling you get when you have germ OCD and you feel contaminated, except my whole existence and being feels contaminated, so to speak. I've identified a list of triggers, and a list of compulsions (pretty much all mental) that I've noticed myself performing. I started out by doing imaginal exposures and scripts where I'd write out triggering fictional scenarios and read them over and over, combined with mindfulness techniques to focus on my breath and bring myself back to the present when I noticed myself performing compulsions mentally. At first it worked to some extent, but eventually I started to feel like the stories I was writing about this obsession weren't triggering any anxiety anymore or a very low level. So I stopped reading them and focused solely on improving my ability to stay present and identifying compulsions as I perform them, and disengaging. Now, I'm at the point where it seems like my general anxiety levels throughout the day are lower, and the triggers I've identified are producing noticeably less anxiety. But that makes me wonder if somehow I'm just secretly doing mental compulsions without knowing it? Is only a month of rather disorganized and unstructured ERP enough to produce this much improvement? To avoid giving me re-assurance, I'd appreciate if you guys don't directly answer those questions, maybe just provide some possibilities or your own experiences so I can get a better idea of where I'm at. Any info would be appreciated. Thanks!
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- 16w
Hi! It’s pretty difficult for me to get the courage to post this but I’m really struggling to figure out if what I’m experiencing is OCD or Anxiety or neither. I think I have the “pure O” type of OCD where most of my compulsions take the form of ruminating and trying to figure out something all in my head. When I hear this talked about in forums or online the intrusive thoughts don’t really match mine- I worry often about things that seem more “grounded” if that makes sense. A common one for me is my own identity- i will spend long amounts of time stuck in my head trying to figure out my feelings (often sadness or other real emotions I have and patterns I have) and why I feel that way and what in my life caused that and how it’s impacting other things in my life. I also think often about which parts of my personality are the real me and which aren’t. Sometimes this takes the form of strictly ruminating and sometimes I have fake conversations with people I know. It’s intense and I feel I have to figure it out but with no specific intrusive thought that says something like “you have to figure this out or all of your loved ones will die” but it’s very intense. I think also often of all of the decisions I need to make in the future and how they’re going to affect those I love and care about as well as how much I’ll regret them. I imagine all of the ways I think my actions will emotionally hurt others and how to make the least harmful decision, but to me this feels like a valid concern but go over and over and never come to a conclusion. I often just get scared and never make any move because I don’t see an option that doesn’t hurt someone somehow. But again I’m having a hard time identifying the intrusive thought behind it. But I also don’t choose to think about these things most of the time. This is almost all decisions but especially big life decisions. It’s such a struggle because they are things I eventually do have to make decisions about. There is so much more to it that would take too long to explain but in general a lot of my fears revolve around pleasing others/ understanding others emotions to ensure they’re okay, my own identity and personality, and work/school performance. Someone mentioned OCD to me because in my head it feels like I have to solve these things and will go over and over them but I seriously can’t figure out if it’s anxiety, OCD, or none of the above. It’s all very disruptive to my life. I am never not thinking or not trying to figure something out and I feel as if I have no control over it Anyone have any insight?
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