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- 2y
help with ROCD
My boyfriend has two daughters with two different women, he doesn’t get to see them very often due to custody reasons. His first ex moved 8 hours away with his daughter and things ended very badly with his second ex and she won’t let him see his daughter (he went to court and everything). Anyways I love him more than anything in the entire world but I can’t stop thinking that what if they come back and they want him to get back together with him so they can be a family again or something like that happens where they’ll only let him see his daughter if he gets back together with them. He has told me in the past that we are a family and that he loves me and wants to be with me for a long time but I just can’t stop having these intrusive thoughts. I am not at all bothered by his daughters and if at any point he gets fully custody I would treat them as if they were my own and care for them but I’m worried about his ex’s trying to manipulate him into coming back. He loves his daughters and he’s a great dad, I just cannot stop with the intrusive thoughts that one day one of his ex’s are gonna come back and manipulate him and then he’ll leave me. I just don’t know how to stop these thoughts and I hate asking him for reassurance because I don’t want to make him feel like I don’t trust him or annoy him. If anyone has dealt with this situation please let me know if there’s anything you did to help calm down the thoughts, I’m still in therapy and on medication but lately I’ve been having really bad ROCD. :(