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I don’t think that today’s culture “wants everyone to be gay.” It’s more acceptable today, for good reason, but most reasonable people aren’t forcing others to be gay. However, there is small but very vocal minority of people that wants others to conform to their particular social/political viewpoints (SJWs, as they’re called). It can seem as if society “wants everyone to be gay” because these people talk over the rest of us rational LGBT people.
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@MichelleC23, right. while I am accepting and have been bi curious myself before, I just feel like not everyone deserves to be called a ‘homophobe’ for having different beliefs.
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@pancake, No, I don’t mean because I’m seeing it everywhere. I mean there are people who have literally told me “no, you’re gay.” When I specifically said I am not. I feel that this is the way a lot of people in our culture talk, but especially triggering for those who have HOCD.
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No, but it seems to want to force acceptance of the lifestyle, regardless of one's beliefs for or against active homosexuality...
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Thanks for clarifying. I do think that SJWs was what I was trying to get at, although couldn’t quite put my finger on it. It isn’t right to tell someone who they’re attracted to.
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Hi! Queer person here :). In my experience, society does not want everyone to be gay. It is pride month tho, in many areas, and sometimes that leaks into July. It is likely you are seeing a ton of gay themed stuff right now, as a lot of companies are pushing towards being more inclusive and accepting of all types of people. This is the first year where I noticed it, to the point where i was like "wow, we get it, rainbows everywhere." It is quite in your face. I can totally understand how this can be triggering to someone who has themes that revolve around the fear of being gay.
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@h56, you don’t if you have hocd, that’s the thing(
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I'm so sorry that people are so insensitive to you! Sending all the love to you, OCD is such a jerk!
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Does anyone else experience ocd around the topic of non monogamy and hookup culture and stuff? Im not hating people who are into these things, intact I thinks it great that people have ways of experiencing relationships how they want to and I will always support and advocate for that, but non monogamy and hookup culture is not for me. However because its not for me and I really don't want to partake in any of these things by brain keeps telling me things like: 1. Monogamy is toxic and fake and polyamory is the only real way to have relationships 2. I secretly want non monogamy and casual relationship 3. I'm experiencing these feelings because im a bigot 4. Everyone's involved in non monogamy in some for these days even if its things like open relationships, threesomes etc so monogamy will become rare and you will never have a relationship Those are just some of the thoughts but I have many more. Like I said I'm supportive of people who engage in those things, but I don't want it and I feel as though I can't justify my reasons why I don't want it and that I'm a fake or a bigot. I'm constantly googling "benefits of monogamy" "why monogamy is better" etc to justify to myself why I want what i want. My googling is so obsessive though and I'm up all night doing it and watching videos and things. I can't sleep because of my worries. Everytime I see anything, anywhere relating to non monogamy wheather that be open relationships, polyamory, threesomes etc I feel so sick In my stomach, my anxiety sky rockets and I just want to cry, it's how I am with seeing gay relationship and things with my sexual orientation ocd. (I feel the same when I things about hookups and stuff too). It's like a voice in my head is going "see it's working for these people, you actually want it, your lying if you don't". I have thousands of screenshots of articles and posts that's reassure me about my wants but my ocd always makes be doubt myself. I need some advice on how to deal with it, because im at breaking point and feel like a horrible person. I also want to know if anyone else is dealing with what I'm going through.
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Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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