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Intrusive thoughts
HELP!! Does anyone have any tips for intrusive thoughts I have been having some really bad ones lately.
HELP!! Does anyone have any tips for intrusive thoughts I have been having some really bad ones lately.
Try to accept and watch them. I know it’s so hard and our gut instinct is to panic and resist them because it isn’t us, but what helps to overcome this is acceptance. “oh here is an intrusive thought, and I just observe what the thoughts that are coming into my mind is” An exercise I will do is pretend there is a door way in my brain and that’s where thoughts come in, I watch them enter the doorway and then I place them in a chat in the imagined room. If there is a thought I want to interact with and think about I can pick it up and think about it, but I am choosing to allow the thoughts in the doorway, and placing them in the chair.
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@Anonymous 99 Thank you this really helps🫶🏻
i havent started erp therapy, i start at the end of this month. but one thing that has helped me, is i tell myself that the intrusive thought is not my fault. that helps me. i dont argue with my OCD as to why i am not my unwanted intrusive thoughts, because that can become a compulsion for me, but I say once to myself, in my mind, that unwanted intrusive thought is not my fault. For me it helps me not feel bad about my unwanted intrusive thought, and I can let go of the thought easier. I don't know if other people with OCD have ever felt guilty for having unwanted intrusive thoughts, but I did. I felt guilty for having unwanted intrusive thoughts, because often the thoughts I have go against morals and values, and the thoughts are of things that I do not want to do. Now that I have accepted that it is not my fault that I have unwanted intrusive thoughts, and that my unwanted intrusive thoughts are not secret desires that I have, they are thoughts in my mind that could have come from anywhere, things I've heard from others, things I've seen on TV, things I've heard in the news Etc. Wherever my unwanted intrusive thoughts come from, I know they don't represent what I think feel or believe is right, and I accept that the unwanted intrusive thoughts, can never make me do anything that I don't want to do. And since I don't want to do what the unwanted intrusive thought is, I can accept that it is just a thought that I will never act on and I can let it go. Now it has got to the point to where I don't have to always tell myself that the unwanted intrusive thoughts are not my fault, because I know longer blame myself for having unwanted intrusive thoughts. I believe the guilt I used to feel for having the Unwanted intrusive thoughts, made my OCD worse, and the guilt made me think more about the unwanted intrusive thought, and caused me to have even more unwanted intrusive thoughts. I still have OCD and I still have unwanted intrusive thoughts, but they aren't as often and when they come into my mind, I don't feel guilty about them anymore, because I know I did not invite the unwanted intrusive touughts into my mind. It is hard for me sometimes, to not feel guilty for having unwanted intrusive thoughts. But I try to not feel bad myself about things that aren't my fault, and unwanted intrusive thoughts are not my fault. This has been my personal experience with my OCD unwanted intrusive thoughts. I hope me sharing my personal experience of OCD with you helps. Take the parts of this message that helps you, and just leave the rest.
@SunJade Thank you this really helps🫶🏻
@SunJade thank you so much for this.
correction, i meant to type... often my unwanted intrusive thoughts go against MY morals and values.
I also meant to type... I no longer blame myseld for having unwanted intrusive thoughts. I typed know instead of NO.
Remember with ocd, you are not your thoughts! Best of luck!
@Anonymous Thank you
I’m having a very bad evening with my intrusive thoughts. I was doing really good dealing with them but tonight one hit me hard. I’ve been having a lot of different intrusive thoughts but I’ll have one occasionally about hurting my mom or my dog who I love and they’re the only family I have in my life. They’re my world. I was helping my mom put away the dishes and I had the big kitchen knife in my hand and my intrusive thought was you could stab your mom. And then my brain said I had a twitch in my hand and that meant I wanted to do it. Let me just say that I wouldn’t hurt a fly. I actually caught a fly in a glass and put it outside instead of killing it this evening before this intrusive thought happened. I’m such a gentle and compassionate and caring person and these thoughts instantly cause me to have a panic attack. And I have no one to talk to them about. I know they’re hard for my mom to hear and I don’t want to be any more of a burden than I already am. I do desperately want to tell her and have her reassure me that I’m not crazy or a psycho. Then my thoughts wander to if your hand did flinch could you be a psychopath. Is hurting someone in you. I know it’s not but I feel like my mind is out to get me and hurt me. I’m working so hard and I thought I was doing so good but I need to know why I have these thoughts. They’re not ok. I need someone to help me make sense of why. I know we aren’t supposed to ruminate but I shouldn’t have thoughts like this about people I love and care about the most in the world.
I am starting to come to grips with intrusive thoughts, reading how your brain will think of the worst thing / or make you think of something that really distresses you. BUT, I’ve got something I need to get off my chest, not looking for reassurance but just to know I’m not alone I guess? I remember one time, I saw a girl I follow on Instagram go on a marathon, and then went straight out for dinner after without showering and I had the passing thought of, gosh she must smell, even worse, she must smell down there. That has got to be the worst intrusive thought EVER, and because it affected me so much, I have the urge to think of this horrible horrible thought most times I look at people. Wondering if they smell!!!! It’s disgusting!!!! :( I don’t know if this is because I also have contamination ocd and I do obsess about feeling and being clean.
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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