Hey man, I hope you're doing alright, I find that while you have to be kind to yourself, you kind of have to kick yourself in the butt. Holding yourself responsible for the ruminating is the most important part. If you find yourself ruminating, it's ok, but you've got to relax and try to stop. Getting out and doing things are also super helpful. Have you ever not wanted to go somewhere, but someone made you and you had a great time? It's the same concept here. You also have to be willing to take the "chance" that they aren't ego dystonic and that they're true. Because if they were, you'd be relaxed with it. It's like stepping on an elevator, the crack getting on is tiny but if you stare at it long enough, you can convince yourself that it is a big and dangerous hole. Also, I find that having interesting conversations outside of OCD are really helpful. Even if it seems impossible, you have to be able to talk about something and connect with another person regardless of OCD. Gotta show yourself that you're still a human outside of OCD. Sorry if this is kind of erradic I'm just trying to help, and obviously that's just my opinion and what I try to do.