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Yes, definitely. I have called my boyfriend randomly and apologized for a small event months prior lol. The rumination cycle, whether one has ocd or not, only keeps you in the past, which nobody has any use for. Learn from mistakes, and try to keep in mind how you don’t like to act vs. how you do going forward

I also wonder if ruminating about mistakes in our relationships also have to do with our attachment style. I know I’ve had deep fears of losing my marriage and my relationship but I’m learning to get comfortable with the uncertainty of my relationship not lasting and that has made it a little easier to face exposures

I identify with this too. Lately I’ve been trying to tell myself “if I ruminate about X , will this help me become closer to the kind of person I want to be?” Over the past couple of days, it helps me delay the rumination and yes I have to sit with discomfort. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s not easy. I hope we all get better