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Yes, definitely. I have called my boyfriend randomly and apologized for a small event months prior lol. The rumination cycle, whether one has ocd or not, only keeps you in the past, which nobody has any use for. Learn from mistakes, and try to keep in mind how you don’t like to act vs. how you do going forward
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I also wonder if ruminating about mistakes in our relationships also have to do with our attachment style. I know I’ve had deep fears of losing my marriage and my relationship but I’m learning to get comfortable with the uncertainty of my relationship not lasting and that has made it a little easier to face exposures
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@Anonymous876 I totally get that and it’s so hard. You can do this and work through it ❤️
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I identify with this too. Lately I’ve been trying to tell myself “if I ruminate about X , will this help me become closer to the kind of person I want to be?” Over the past couple of days, it helps me delay the rumination and yes I have to sit with discomfort. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s not easy. I hope we all get better
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Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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