Hello everyone. I just wanted to know is there anyone with soocd that is in a relationship?? How do you cope and be happy or content in your relationship??
I do. And I have a realllllly tough time
I do! I also have rocd. Its hard but I’ve gotten ok at telling myself “maybe I am maybe I’m not” and just doing to the opposite of what I want to do because of ocd. So say I want to avoid giving my boyfriend a kiss because I dont want to start questioning whether I liked it which would lead to me questioning my sexuality- I kiss him anymore. Say I have a compulsion to look at a girl for a long period of time to see if I’m attracted to her- I resist the questioning and tell myself “maybe I am maybe im not.”
@hiitsemmy Anyway* not “anymore”
I am so sorry can I ask one more question Thank you for responding as well. Have you ever had the thought it may be because you haven't experimented with the same sex that is why you don't know??
@Anonymous Yeah I used to have that thought too. I am bisexual and I’ve had a girlfriend! Having a girlfriend didn’t make the thoughts go away. I still feel the way that “well maybe I just didnt do enough sexual stuff with her to truly know if im gay” but when I find myself thinking in black and white like im either gay or straight then I know its ocd. I also know its ocd when I feel urgency to figure out the answer or I get so scared im going to have to leave my boyfriend if I find out im gay. I try my hardest to accept the thoughts and to remind myself to just say “maybe, maybe not.” Also dont apologize for having questions! it really helps to talk with someone who experiences the same things
@hiitsemmy I know you weren't responding to me but oh my god, what you were saying about Black and White making you know it's OCD... as a bisexual with brutal SOOCD who always feels like it has to be one or the other, thank you
@hiitsemmy Thank you for answering my questions I keep having thoughts that I should experiment and if I did I would know even though I don't have genuine desire or want to do so. I just want the questioning and doubts to stop even though I am happy and fulfilled in my relationship.