Acceptance

Absolutely, before I knew I had ocd I was trying to break up with my bf (my now husband) because I thought I would be sparring him the pain. I think suppressing the vicious cycle of asking for reassurance is definitely the best thing to do and it does get easier. But you also have to habituate to that uncertainty feeling of them leaving you or not and realize that that is also your anxiety/ocd talking. At least for me it was. You can't control others or the way they think or feel so you have to sit with that uncertainty feeling.

At least thats how I've been handling it and what my therapist told me to do.

@Casey558 This is good advice. Did your boyfriend ever get annoyed or it or tired tho? I think mine does, and I take his lack of enthusiasm as another ‘sign’ we are doomed and we need to break up etc and so the cycle begins again :(

Thank you so much. Yes- I really go down the rabbit hole sometimes asking for reassurance and it just makes it worse. I notice that I do it a lot and feel like a failure. But perhaps it would be helpful to keep track of the times I don’t ask for reassurance rather than focusing on shortcomings! Just thinkin… Getting back up after a lot of reassurance seeking feels exhausting so it’s probably good to focus on positive!

Absolutely! Always celebrate your wins! Some days I can only delay asking for reassurance and other days I can suppress the need to ask at all. I've been slipping lately do to a bunch of stress but I'm trying to get back up on the horse. Thank for reminding me to celebrate the wins as well ❤️

Yea! Of course! Thank you for sparking that idea🙌🙌🙌

Learn to live with uncertainty. You just don’t know who and how long someone will be in Your life. Next time you need reassurance resist asking it