false memory rocd

Sounds like ocd is trying to really mess u up dw you prob didn’t do it after it’s just ur ocd messing up

I’ve wondered if ocd does cause some memory issues too, because of how it interrupts thought patterns. But I think the fact that you’re trying to cooperate with your bf on this shows that you care though, and that speaks volumes. Plus it’s super easy to accidentally run into an ex’s story if it ends up next to a friend’s story too. It happens, you guys are being brave about the ex topic as is

@kp96 well basically, before we were dating, we were viewing like people from our pasts stuff, like off fake accs and whatnot, i ended up hearing him do it otp and got upset it was a fight and we came to an agreement to not view people from our pasts story, and we had a big talk and things were good. but i had worried if he was still viewing hers, so i would ask occasionally, it came to a point when he asked me the same back and i said no but the more he asked and the more time went by, the more thoughts i had of”what if u did after u guys agreed not to” and then it turned into extreme anxiety and guilt then to false memories.. sorry this is a lot LMFAO

@cs223 I’ve been there before lol and those facts (about people from their past) can be difficult pill to swallow while attachments/feelings are already so intense for someone. But in hindsight, I found that those difficult feelings are just feelings, and it’s normal to ruminate. But ultimately it’s up to us whether we should act on those feelings or not (about exes on their timeline, or a bf’s engagement with ex’s feed). I found that it can also be okay to allow the protective/scary feelings and to try to not change the person or control the presence of content from exes. It can be okay to not be okay (especially if he’s not going back to exes or being sketchy). I don’t want to tell you what to do here but that’s what I’ve learned after bringing up exes (and having heated arguments about feelings because I was scared of abandonment) with a previous boyfriend. It’s a touchy subject for sure though, but worthwhile learning experience obvi

@cs223 I wish you luck with everything though! This isnt easy stuff

@kp96 is it okay if i pm you? you seem like you give good advice lol but i have questions like regarding my relationship if ur fine with that

@cs223 Yeah for sure! And thanks lol i honestly relate so much with your experience, I couldn’t help but mention what mentality I thought helped me grow past that stuff

Yes understand but it sounds like ocd. A good thing abt ocd is that none of the stuff that ur worrying abt are real!!

Hey i started a gc on snap with people struggling with ocd if you’re interested add my snap kaylaaajenae let’s help eachother get through this :)

@KaylaJenae I added u:)!