I hope this isn’t reassurance seeking but does anyone understand why my anxiety spikes when I think good things about my partner or think about being with them in general and my anxiety calms down when I think bad things about my partner or don’t think about them at all?
Because you're anxious lol otherwise you wouldn't be writing here as you wouldn't be worrying about it.
I know I’m anxious just usually I had anxious about the negative thoughts I had about my partner now it’s the opposite. It’s confusing
I understood that. But the thing is, it doesn't seem to me you're having a nice time with the bad thoughts about your partner. If you did you wouldn't even be with them anymore (and wouldn't have had a hard time accepting that).
@Lavander Ohh okay I understand that now. It just made me nervous or confused because I assumed it was my truth but you’re right I would just accept it if it was. And I definitely don’t want that. Thank you for you’re reply!
I think it's because the doubt that's there makes you feel that you're lying or not allowed to feel/think positively about it. If that makes sense? My theory anyway. I've had a similar experience
@OoOcCdD66 Sorry for the late response but do you mind telling me what techniques you did to get past this experience?
@Anonymous Think those loving thoughts and be sweet despite the anxiety and doubt. Don't give into compulsions while doing so!
Yeah that makes a lot of sense actually