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- 6y
Play this for them. https://youtu.be/HeYjDbRmAsM
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 6y
Hi there! I don’t have very good advice to this part; I’m struggling just like you. I just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone. My parents don’t really “bEliEvE mEnTaL iLlNeSs iS a ThInG”. It’s hard when I go to therapy and they ask me when I’m going to get better. I don’t know. You’re not alone.
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- 6y
What about printing some articles about it for them to read so they would understand it better? Maybe it could help them see that you’re not just a weirdo if you show them that it’s not just you suffering and that OCD isn’t what many people assume it is?
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- 6y
I told all the people that I’m close to and it makes you feel better when you realize even if they don’t understand. My mom never experience mental health either. Wen I told her everything she googled it. And she helped me.
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- 6y
What a great question. I completely get it, it's really hard. I would ask why you feel the need to tell someone to have OCD. If it is because you want to have some kind of specific support, then make sure you let them know what it is, otherwise probably they won't know how to help you or how to approach it. My das got upset because ai mentioned some of my intrusive thoughts out loud; so, as other people have mentioned, be ready that some people might not know how to support you. If the only support you know you need is hugs, then let them know.
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- 6y
Awesome video
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- 6y
thank you so much each and every one of you, that video is sooooo helpful and true. I don't even know why I want to tell them in all honesty, I feel like I owe it to them? Besides medical professionals, I'm the only person who knows I have ocd - which feels wierd. I guess I'll talk when I'm ready and when/if it's right for me. Thank you again everyone I value this community so much !!!!!!
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- 6y
There are books out there for OCD that are targeted at family members. Maybe buy one and just let them realize it's real and there are more people out there struggling.
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"What can family and friends do to help? This chapter is addressed to anyone who has a relative, close friend, or partner with OCD. (We use the term ‘relative’ in this chapter as shorthand for all the possibilities.) Having OCD can play havoc with relationships and place an enormous burden on those who live with or love a person with OCD. This strain can lead to frequent conflicts and, occasionally, there can be violence on both sides. If you have OCD and are also reading this chapter, then the last thing we want to do is to cause you to feel yet more guilt, shame, or fear; but this is yet another example of how OCD can pretend to be keeping you or people you care about safe from harm, when the reality is far from it. Relationship stress and conflict are a consequence of this debilitating illness, and not the result of something defective in the person with the illness. In this chapter we give examples of the sorts of conflicts that commonly occur and their consequences. We also raise some difficult ethical issues for which there are no easy answers. The chapter is rounded off with some general guidelines and solutions to the problems you may encounter."
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- 6y
Chapter 9 in here, was $5 for Kindle – "The Complete Guide to Overcoming OCD: (ebook bundle) (Overcoming Books)" by David Veale, Rob Willson.
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- 21w
I am married and neither,my husband or children understand what it feels like to have OCD. I have had it for some time now. Sometimes ig gets better while other times it acts up and feels just awful!! During these especially awful times I worry more, voice what I am worried about, and just feels depressed. I got even more depressed whwn my family members insult me because of my ocd. I know I should not voice my worries etc ask I am thinking that is a,compulsion but sometimes I do. I regret it afterward,cuz nothing food really happens as a result. More often I am judged, called names and then I really get depressed!!!! It sometimes tanes me days to feel better acter one of those wpisodes! I guess besides not viucing my worries what can I do in a family that does so ma y things that upset me....and it would wvwn if I did nit have ocd!!! I meant WE all have to live together and trust me....there are things they so that for sure woyld have bothered me way before I had o d! ,They would bother the father and son on the TV show Sanford and Son!!! How so I just,live in same house,all the,whike pretending those things,don't bother me? I meant I am the mom. Don't I get some say so without being called names etc?
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- 11w
LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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- 4w
How do you tell friends and family about ocd? Like it makes me so anxious and I feel like such a terrible person. A lot of my intrusive thoughts are on my kids. And I hate every single thing that comes into my head.
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