Hello! I’ve been with this guy for about a year and a half. He has OCD. I very recently found out that I do too. My compulsions are largely hidden, so he never suspected and has no idea how my OCD manifests. I’m still figuring that out for myself as well Is anyone else on here with a relationship like this? I’m open to any and all helpful advice or resources to help us navigate this together.
So i am in a relationship and i can't relate fully but half. I have horrible ocd but my boyfriend does not. But you guys have to remind yourselves that your ocd isn't you. You can't let it control you guys because you are stronger than it is and at the end of the day you want to be the winner over the ocd.
Hi, yeah my partner and I both have been diagnosed with OCD and both are aware that the other one has it. The hard part is not setting each other off or giving each other reassurance. We’re managing ok on that front, though of course there are slip ups where now and again we’ll cause each other to spiral but we’re trying our best to support one another and be understanding. I think that’s an important aspect - to try and be there for your partner and he for you when either one of you is having a rough moment. As I say, the not giving reassurance is the trickiest but just try and know that you will likely slip up and give in. When you do, it’s fine because you’ll be able to give it another go next time and not give in. What I’ve also found helpful in determining whether what I want to do or say is a compulsion is just to ask myself “will this give me a bit of relief?” If the answer is yes, don’t do it. Sorry you and your partner are going through this. I and everyone else on this app know exactly what this feels like so you’re not alone. All the best to you.
@tomek.p thank you. im glad you guys are able to find a way to work through it and make things easier.
yes, I have OCD, and my boyfriend has ASD which has bits of everything. At times it’s gonna be difficult, but don't worry! I’m not gonna tell you of advantages or disadvantages, because it's impossible. Trust your heart, and look into the now and the future without planning anything. Every relationships have ups and downs. Support them as you would, and they will do the same. I wish you two happy life together!
On a somewhat related note: has anyone here dated/been in a relationship with a partner that has OCD. I'm starting to realize just how important it is to me (as someone who has never been in a relationship) to eventually be with someone who will understand this condition. Humanity though, being what it is, tells me that I will only find that in someone else who sufferers from the same condition. Is a relationship between two people with mental illness (and a similar one, at that) possible?
Those will a long term partner or spouse, how do they handle your ocd?
Hello, I do not have OCD but my boyfriend does. We’re both in our early 20s, we have been together for almost a year. I’m making this post seeking advice , thank you for taking the time to read. He’s always had issues obsessing over my past and asking me questions and things of that nature. I talk to him about it and answer when he wants to ask me stuff, but the problem is i don’t want to talk about these things because it’s really traumatic for me. He tends to obsess over my past romantic history which brings up bad feelings for me (SA, DV trauma etc) I want to help him but it’s VERY hard to stay patient when it’s triggering me. Every time he asks me about these things i either end up having a panic attack or getting so upset with him which ends up making him feel worse because he can’t control his obsessions and it’s a really hard cycle for both of us. I don’t understand much about OCD and it confuses me how one minute everything is fine and the next he is upset. and he hasn’t been diagnosed yet but is working on getting into therapy. He has his own trauma which i think is where this all stems from. But in the meantime I want to find better ways to help but also keep my own mental health in check. I’m willing to do whatever I can to help him with his issues. It’s also really isolating because it’s a difficult situation and i’m having difficulty finding anyone who relates and can help. Thank you for reading this. 🥺 And anyone who has advice would get greatly appreciated.
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