false memory rocd

anyone have any tips to deal with false memory cheating ocd? for example the worry if i did something bad in the past and my brain forgot about it or suppressed the memory. I always feel anxiety and guilt and on edge and always anticipating my next thought, wondering if it’s gonna be a “flashback” of me doing something bad such as cheating. i haven’t had any real evidence, just irrational things and false memories for the most part ive debunked most, but sometimes the false memory gets so extreme and bad and i can end up believing i did it if I don’t find hard solid evidence that I did not do it.

Username: dee012dee012

Date posted: 1y ago

it’s hard to enjoy my relationship, not cause of my bf, my ocd. it ruins everything. I feel like my relationship is bound to end because either im a cheater and it will come up or im a cheater and forgot or my ocd is just gonna get so extreme that it pushes him away. I just want peace. it’s a constant thought of the what if, sometimes it actually says I did it. and when I try and remember if I did, I get like a scared anxious pit feeling in my chest, and then my ocd says it’s because im forcing myself not to think about “what I did”… this sucks

Username: Anonymous39826Anonymous39826

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi there. First I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. I too have struggled with this before, although I noticed it would mostly only happen if I was drinking the night before or something (it can happen whenever so don’t worry). My best advice to you is to literally disregard the thought. Example: “what if I cheated? What if I did something and don’t remember?” Look at the thought and sarcastically say “yeah, sure ocd. Okay!” And let it go. I know it’s easier said than done, it takes a lot of practice but I promise it gets better. I used to worry about this a lot. It also really helped to have my boyfriend become aware of my ocd. I gave him articles to read on ocd and false memory specifically and it helped immensely to know he was supportive of me. I hope this helps!

Username: dee012dee012

Date posted: 1y ago

@fall.lover yea my bf knows about it, he even told me, bc i told him how i get urges to confess to cheating just for some certainty and stuff but if he asked when and what i did i wouldn’t even know how to answer, and he told me even if I “confessed” he wouldn’t leave me unless I actually remembered a time when I did. I try and do the sarcastic stuff, but it’s really hard. it’s literally immense shame guilt and anxiety whenever i don’t give into my compulsions, and even when I do I get relief for not very long at all. I love my bf a lot, but every positive or negative thought is interrupted by a cheating ocd thought. sometimes the false memory feels so real, like the other day it did but i found proof that it wasn’t, and it scares me knowing I will believe it and be convinced unless I have proof, so it makes me wonder what if my rocd gets so bad and I believe a super bad false memory, just bc there’s no proof that I didn’t do it? and my relationship is ruined? sorry for rambling this stuff is just ruining my days :(

Username: Anonymous39826Anonymous39826

Date posted: 1y ago

@cs223 Trust me, I’ve been and relate to everything you just said. I’m not fully recovered from ocd so I’m no expert, but I can tell you if you keep up the practice it truly gets easier. You know how they say time heals all wounds? It’s true for everything including ocd. It won’t get better right away and it won’t feel better right away either, but you have to stay diligent to disregarding.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Going through exact same thing, my boyfriends amazing but i constantly think i slept with someone and forgot at a party 2 years ago and i feel so guilty all the time

Username: Maureen

Date posted: 5y ago

How do you know it's a false memory/OCD and not something that actually happened? I feel like a terrible person. I'm a very creative person, and the more I stress about whether I did this bad thing the more it seems real. The worst part is is that I have no way of reassurance without sounding crazy. I have ROCD and I randomly started obsessing over the 7 months of our relationship whether or not I've cheated on him. Even though I love him more than anything and I would never do that! I'm constantly triggered by coworkers or classmates that I've previously found attractive or liked and/or I know they've liked me or flirted with me. I'm at the point now where I'm rereading simple texts/straightforward texts of these people asking me about school work or if I could cover a shift trying to find proof of something I can't remember. My partner knows about my OCD and is very understanding and supportive. I feel like I'm living a lie. When this first started my rational brain knew this wasn't real, but the more I become obsessed the more it becomes more distorted. I feel guilty for being happy. I just want to be guaranteed it's not real so I can move on with my life. It's moving to specific people now and it's scaring me how real it feels.

Username: noone800

Date posted: 4y ago

I’m pretty sure I have false memory OCD on to op ZOCD and POCD. I’ve had a few memories recently that I don’t know if certain parts in them were true or not, they feel real but deep down I don’t know and it makes me anxious. Anyone with false memory have any tips?

Username: LivingInMyHead

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Cheating OCD and False Memory

Does anyone have any recommendations of how to fight back cheating ocd / false memory rumination? I’m continuously ruminating over past experiences/events (struggling with false memory ocd too) and whether I acted inappropriately or did something bad. All revolves around cheating and feeling guilty that I did something wrong and don’t remember it or twisting up the story in my head. This rumination has been nagging me for months!! I have a very outgoing and bubbly personality and get worried if I come off as flirting to other men when I’m really just being myself and not trying to flirt. For context, I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for over 4.5 years and we recently got engaged. I love him so much and just don’t want to do anything wrong to jeopardize our relationship.

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