How can I feel beautiful in myself or accept compliments from people when they don’t know the morbid sexual thoughts I have? I love socializing and I don’t feel like myself anymore. I obviously can’t confess to every person I come across but idk how I can do self compassion with my type of thoughts
I have dark, violent and sexual thoughts that I don’t want. It’s been a struggle for months. But those thoughts aren’t me and they’re not my fault. Just like they are not yours. You don’t like them. You don’t agree with them. You are not them. I know how you feel but it’s not your fault. Infact everyone has intrusive thoughts, of all kinds. Ours just happen constantly because we obsess over them. You are one of millions who struggle with them. We are all deserving of love and acceptance. Accept that those thoughts are there and they’re gonna keep popping up for a while. Stop fighting them. They will go away once you change how you react to them. They become less and less and when they do pop up. They won’t affect you like they do now. Recovery is achievable.
@Brooklyn_99 I know everyone has intrusive thoughts but mine are very different. I feel like people who do not have ocd say they have thoughts but they’re like “what if I swerved into traffic.” “What if I jumped off a building” those are all “common” in society but mine are definitely not talked about and they’re very creative. I’ll say that
@nomocdplz True
@taboo_brain19 I’m right there with you. Mine are dark. Twisted. Serial killer type stuff. I stuggled with POCD for a little bit and that was terrifying. Something I was told by my counselor is that your OCD is not special. There’s no emotion, thought or theme that your dealing with that hundreds of others haven’t. If you’ve thought it. Others have too. You are not alone.
@taboo_brain19 Yeah that’s a little weird but that’s just ocd. That’s not you. My ocd told me to kiss my gay coworker 😂. Bruh I’m married. Feel free to add me on Snapchat. My user is djbridgewashere. If you ever need to talk or your feeling overwhelmed and need some advice I’m always open to helping. I’ve been stuck in really dark place for a long long time and I’m finally coming out of it. So I want to help others along the way.
@Brooklyn_99 Alright I’ll add u!
@Brooklyn_99 I get those same ones about randomly kissing someone or these compulsions to do something I don’t ever want to do. But I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend. I feel bad for him but I know I can’t control those thoughts. Sometimes I feel like I don’t deserve him because of my thoughts. I don’t want to hurt him but my intrusive thoughts try to tell me otherwise. Of course I don’t act on them and never will. But that still doesn’t stop me from feeling like a bad gf. I have multiple types of ocd and it’s hard to manage. I get so exhausted and feel like I can’t live a normal life anymore.
@Anonymous Bro. I’ve started having intrusive thoughts about a coworker and now I don’t wanna work shifts with him but that’s just giving into the OCD. We gotta stay strong. These thoughts ain’t shit. OCD is just a little bitch tryna ruin our lives. We’re not going to let it!
Honestly same, It makes me feel guilty bc I feel like I'm hiding this "dark side of me" from them, and I worry they'll leave me in the end once they find out somehow
@05kuromi_ 100% this.
@05kuromi_ I know exactly how you feel 💜. Sometimes I wish someone close to me understood instead of brushing it off when I tell them I have ocd. I feel like I have a dark side too. But these thoughts are just thoughts. They don’t determine you. You are determined by your actions. When you have these thoughts. They are opposite of what your heart wants. That’s why we fight them and ruminate
I can attest that I have pretty messed up thoughts and images but the way I'm different is that I personally don't care about these thoughts... So, the reason I'm saying this is because I'm sure most normal people have these thoughts but they pay no mind to them, they might not even remember them, I believe that you not deserving others' acceptance is OCD's way of telling you should care about these thoughts but screw that, honestly, OCD is just wrong about making you feel this way. You deserve compassion.
Hey everyone ❤️ I need some tips: When I’m feeling guilty and hate myself for my thoughts and things I’ve done in the past, what can I do to have compassion for myself, or like, self care tips for that? Thank you dears ❤️
I feel like I'm harboring a horrible secret, or that I'm a monster, because of my OCD & I'm struggling a lot to let myself make friends and have deeper connections with others because of it. I know it's OCD, and I would never feel like other sufferers' are their fears - but when it comes to me, I just can't disconnect my intrusive thoughts with the idea that they mean something about me as a person. There's someone I'm starting to like, in a serious way I think, but it gives me so much anxiety to let him get closer to me or consider things becoming romantic in the future. And I hate it, because I know that if I didn't have OCD I'd be overjoyed with how much he seems to enjoy my presence - but I feel like a liar, like by not telling him all of my intrusive thoughts I'm hiding my "true self." I know that it's an OCD thought, and I need to not engage with it, but it's hard. I don't want people to care about me just for me to end up being the monster my OCD warns me I am. I can't afford therapy - so any responses are welcome, tips & tricks or just comfort that I can get through it. 🥲
One thing that I’ve noticed about my OCD is that it makes me feel very regretful and embarrassed at the end of every day. I reflect on every interaction and every conversation and any thought that I’ve had throughout the day. As a result, I feel more and more ashamed of the way that I act, even though it is probably normal for some of my age to act and see the things that I say. Earlier today I flirted with a guy and then as soon as it ended I had so much religious and moral guilt about it. Does anyone have any advice on how to not feel so ashamed after doing the typical activities that people in their 20s do? I feel like these thoughts are making me want to isolate from everyone else so that I’m not put in the position to do and say these things. I feel comfortable with myself when I don’t talk to anybody but I’m noticing that that can’t be normal . I don’t want to lose friendships and potential relationships out of fear that I’m going to say something wrong. I don’t know what to do.
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