Chellie
- Date posted
- 6y
ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 6y
I'm on a waiting list for a therapist but that takes at least 3-4 more months so... that's not really an option for quite a while
ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 6y
I don't hate my parents but I hate how they deal with my OCD and threaten to kick me out and all that
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
How are your panic attacks disturbing them? Can you excuse yourself when you’re having one and go deal with it alone? Is it the fact that they have to reassure you every time that they don’t like? If you can find a local support group for families dealing with mental illness, it could be really helpful for them to join you for it. They could get advise on how to cope and hopefully learn a little more about what you’re going through.
ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 6y
Oh they're not open to such things whatsoever. A therapist of mine suggested family therapy once and they were really mad about the suggestion even being made because in their mind it's just me who is the problem. My disorder definitely is a problem, don't get me wrong, but these kind of threats really don't help... It's mostly when I cry/hyperventilate which wakes them up. I really can't control it though even though it sounds pathetic. Even meds don't work at times (benzos)
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
I think not talking to your parents isn’t a solution. I have similar issues- my parents do not and are not willing to understand what it’s like to live with OCD. They get upset, blame, and avoid me. I am 32 and have no choice but to live with them. Homelessness is my last resort. They have been mostly supportive up until a few years ago, so it’s difficult to accept. I have a therapist and a psychiatrist, but I need a support system and do not really have that in my home. I bought a book on understanding family members living with OCD and am hoping one of parents will read it. Do you have friends you can talk to? Extended family members? I live with contamination OCD and have major trust issues, so I have no friends. My parents are my only support system and it’s been falling apart for some time. I encourage you reach out to your therapist’s office again and see if you can get in sooner due to an emergency. If that isn’t going to work, ask about a cancellation list. OCD is cyclical, you get stressed, you ritualize, you get stressed. I have found ways to get through moments of anxiety and stress by leaving the house, going into my room and locking the door, listening to music, depending on apps like this one, watching a show, and meditating. I am not a therapist, but I welcome your conversation. We are a group sharing similar struggles and we are here for you. <3
ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 6y
Hey, I'm not a fan of not talking either, I think communication is important. I also have contamination OCD so surely you get why I'm terrified of living elsewhere. I honestly mostly do compulsions to avoid panic attacks to avoid upsetting my parents and having them kick me out. I have friends but lost contact with most because of OCD. Some I still speak through texting though and they are supportive. Online friends are nice too. Thanks.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Wow- we have a lot in common. Yes, not living at my own apartment has been hard for me. It’s weird how we both do our compulsions to avoid panic to avoid upsetting our parents. I used to have friends but have also lost contact because of the OCD. Hang on to the ones you text with! Do you think there is any way your parents would read a book about living with loved ones that suffer from OCD? Let me know and I will get you the title and author.
ChellieChellie
- Date posted
- 6y
Unfortunately I doubt it. :( I'm gonna go to bed rn but thanks for the talk.
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- 20w
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- Date posted
- 19w
Issues with my parents
Hey all this is my first post so i’m kind of nervous. I’d like to hear feedback from outside sources and people not directly in my life who might be biased. I am not sure if this is an OCD thing or maybe just an anxiety thing but I would love some advice. I am a night owl and the rest of my family is not. I’m an adult who still lives with my parents since i’m saving money to move out. Every night I stay up until around 12:30 in our living room to relax and wind down with a quiet house (like my own me-time) and then go to bed. My parent’s room is right off the living room and they close their door while I’m awake so they can sleep. They told me not to be up past midnight since their room gets “too stuffy” with the door closed. I haven’t been doing well with midnight but try my best to shut everything off by 12:30 at the latest. They got mad that I don’t listen and now say I am not allowed in the living room after they go to bed. So when they go to bed I have to confine myself to my bedroom. I like my routines and thinking about trying to wind down (by reading or crocheting) in my bed feels wrong because my bed is “for sleeping” only. I feel like I don’t have a comforting safe place to relax before bed now and when I have tried to explain that to them they don’t care and say i’m disrespecting them. I’m curious what you might think about the situation and would appreciate feedback, regardless if i’m in the wrong or not. It makes me wish I didn’t live here but I don’t really have anywhere else to go.
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