- Username
- Chellie
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I'm on a waiting list for a therapist but that takes at least 3-4 more months so... that's not really an option for quite a while
I don't hate my parents but I hate how they deal with my OCD and threaten to kick me out and all that
How are your panic attacks disturbing them? Can you excuse yourself when you’re having one and go deal with it alone? Is it the fact that they have to reassure you every time that they don’t like? If you can find a local support group for families dealing with mental illness, it could be really helpful for them to join you for it. They could get advise on how to cope and hopefully learn a little more about what you’re going through.
Oh they're not open to such things whatsoever. A therapist of mine suggested family therapy once and they were really mad about the suggestion even being made because in their mind it's just me who is the problem. My disorder definitely is a problem, don't get me wrong, but these kind of threats really don't help... It's mostly when I cry/hyperventilate which wakes them up. I really can't control it though even though it sounds pathetic. Even meds don't work at times (benzos)
I think not talking to your parents isn’t a solution. I have similar issues- my parents do not and are not willing to understand what it’s like to live with OCD. They get upset, blame, and avoid me. I am 32 and have no choice but to live with them. Homelessness is my last resort. They have been mostly supportive up until a few years ago, so it’s difficult to accept. I have a therapist and a psychiatrist, but I need a support system and do not really have that in my home. I bought a book on understanding family members living with OCD and am hoping one of parents will read it. Do you have friends you can talk to? Extended family members? I live with contamination OCD and have major trust issues, so I have no friends. My parents are my only support system and it’s been falling apart for some time. I encourage you reach out to your therapist’s office again and see if you can get in sooner due to an emergency. If that isn’t going to work, ask about a cancellation list. OCD is cyclical, you get stressed, you ritualize, you get stressed. I have found ways to get through moments of anxiety and stress by leaving the house, going into my room and locking the door, listening to music, depending on apps like this one, watching a show, and meditating. I am not a therapist, but I welcome your conversation. We are a group sharing similar struggles and we are here for you. <3
Hey, I'm not a fan of not talking either, I think communication is important. I also have contamination OCD so surely you get why I'm terrified of living elsewhere. I honestly mostly do compulsions to avoid panic attacks to avoid upsetting my parents and having them kick me out. I have friends but lost contact with most because of OCD. Some I still speak through texting though and they are supportive. Online friends are nice too. Thanks.
Wow- we have a lot in common. Yes, not living at my own apartment has been hard for me. It’s weird how we both do our compulsions to avoid panic to avoid upsetting our parents. I used to have friends but have also lost contact because of the OCD. Hang on to the ones you text with! Do you think there is any way your parents would read a book about living with loved ones that suffer from OCD? Let me know and I will get you the title and author.
Unfortunately I doubt it. :( I'm gonna go to bed rn but thanks for the talk.
Anyone got advice on how to explain to my parents/friends that I have OCD and need help, I can’t cope alone anymore. I need support from someone.
So I'm kind of fighting this baddle alone in my head, I feel like I'm going crazy now that I actually think about it, let me explain. So I think I have ocd but I'm confused, during the day it barely ever bothers me to the point where I barely notice it , but at night before I go to bed I feel like everything has to be in it's place. Nothing out of place, nothing out of place , nothing out of place. Everything has to be perfectly straight EVERY THING. Certain things I have to do a certain amount of times. Some things I MUST do everyday. I've tried to talk to my parents about it, but they just blow it off saying it's no big deal, they don't understand what I'm going through ,just to go to bed is at times like a warzone. I sometimes walk from my bathroom after brushing my teeth with my eyes closed so I can't see anything out of place because if I do it's like Domino's I see one thing after another that's out of place, some things idk why they look out of place and I spend a lot of time just moving them back and forth and back and forth till my brain finally sais it's fixed. I asked my dad if I could stay in his and mom's room for the night, because I am less urged to stay up all night cleaning when I'm distracted by other people or when I know "Hay if u stay up cleaning their going to be Mad at you". And it sounds wierd coming from your 14 year old daughter to ask such a thing, at this age you should be old enough to manage your own nightmares you know what I mean?? He told me to ask mom , mostly because he was half asleep and ready to go to bed. That eavning when me and Mom were sitting across from each other , I couldn't come up with the courage to ask , it was too wierd , too stupid, too crazy of a consept to even try to explain. So I went outside on the back porch and cried , she came out and asked me what was wrong and I said nothing, after trying to explain to dad I just wanted to be alone. Of course she wouldn't leave she asked again till I finally told her, " I, I think I have OCD and I , don't know how to handle it, I mean" I continued," I stayed up till 3:00 last night fixing things I thought were crooked or out of place" I couldn't talk any more without choking ip so I stopped. She said to me " well OCD isn't bad , it has it's benifits you know" I shrug , wondering how such an annoyance could be helpful in any way. "Well I was just making sure you were ok" she said going back into the house. I wanted desperately for her to stay out there with me talk about it and possibly go over some stuff that could help, bit we didn't. Now don't get me wrong my parents are amazing they love their kids very much and are always there for us, they just don't understand. So after a late night of reaserch , joining an ameno, joining this app ,and of course YouTube , I am already feeling better. It's only been 2 days or less but I realized that giving in isn't helping and am taking it day by day, I feel crazy yes , sometimes I question if I'm just going crazy but. I know I can do it. Please share your tips on this desease?? I don't know what the technical turn for it is. But tips would be greatly appreciated. Also thank you for listening to my rant.
i'm sorry in advance for how long this post is and if it's to much information. i'm undiagnosed but have been struggling with compulsions and intrusive thoughts since i was 7 or 8. My worst intrusive thoughts theme has been about p*d*phil*s. I've been dealing with it since my freshman and sophomore year but these thoughts didn't become debilitating until June of last year. I had a panic attack and confessed to my parents about these intrusive thoughts. They were obviously shocked and share. I felt so ashamed and like a monster. After talking with my dad he said we would see a therapist about it. Sadly we never did the first appointment we were late and missed are spot and the second appointment i sprained my ankle the night before so instead i was in the hospital. After that i closed myself off i tried dealing with them on my own using sources like NOCD and stuff. I did try to bring up going to therapy to my parents. Every time they would ask me if the intrusive thoughts were back and I would lie saying "no i just would like to go to therapy" I was so scared they'd be afraid of me and stop loving me, especially my mom. Eventually after awhile my parents forgot about it and I tried ignoring these intrusive thoughts because I was so focused and stressed from school. I decided I could just wait till I turn 18 and schedule myself into therapy. recently though my intrusive thoughts have gotten worse. I recently had a convo with one of my friends who has intrusive thoughts as well and she's encouraging me to talk to my parents. I'm asking y'all what should I do. As much as I'm scared I want to get help because I'm sick of living and feeling like i'm day away from acting on my intrusive thoughts.
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