Can someone please share their story about their experience with ROCD during dating, and the transition from dating into marriage? What was it like? How was the wedding day?
there’s a woman on tiktok who has ocd and is engaged , her posts are really great & i think you’d appreciate her content her tiktok is @phebelou
I did ERP therapy and I know I can be independent on my own but I don’t WANT TO because I love my spouse even with his faults. Relationships are about compromise and it’s work. But that’s life in a nutshell too.
I’d be curious to hear this too! I know my brother has ROCD and his wedding day was lovely. He and his wife had a whole dance routine for which they changed into chic tennis shoes. The vibe was happy and they’re still married! Over 10 years now! I also have ROCD.
That's awesome ❤️
Hey, I’ve attached a really useful link for you to have a read over if you like. OCD loves causing doubt and questioning our moral values, so anything that should be happy and amazing like a wedding can be like sugar to a baby for OCD!!! I would highly recommend ERP prior to your wedding day to help you take some control over your OCD 😬 Relationship OCD- https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-ocd
I'm not engaged but am in a long term relationship and am considering marriage in the future
Hey I'm new here... Married for two years, not formally diagnosed with OCD but over 25 years, I've dealt with obsessing over my sexuality, then it has shifted to obsessing over my relationships. In my first marriage, I would notice other attractive men and at one point I started to obsess over one man at my church. Eventually it went away but I divorced for other reasons. Fast forward 15 years. I meet my now-husband, but we break up twice while dating. I was terrified. I have learned I do struggle with fearful/avoidant attachment, but I made it through to get married!! But now, the obsessing over other men is happening again. I work with a lot of men. If I notice one who may be handsome, all of a sudden I feel weird sensations in my body, my mind races, and I fear I want to cheat, or wonder if I'd be happier. It has happened with a guy at my church, several coworkers, my husband's best friend...so I know there's a pattern. But as of late, it has gotten worse with one coworker. I have to see him every day. The thoughts are loud. They feel real, like they're how I feel (I like him, he has nice eyes, I love you). I am a Christian, and when I pray about it, it's almost like something inside me says, 'don't fix this, this isn't OCD, I want this guy' blah blah blah. I feel awful, like a whore, like a cheater, like a double-minded person. And I feel so far away from my husband. I've dealt with feeling the need to confess everything early in our relationship. I've gotten better at not doing that, but I feel like I carry this private pain that no one understands. It really hurts. I guess I just needed to vent and let this out. Sometimes it feels so lonely. I feel crazy. I'm in my 50s, I have a full time job, I take care of my home, yet I feel paralyzed by this sometimes. Thanks for reading.
I wanna hear you most extreme feeling you had from ROCD please I feel like I’m going insane
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
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