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I’m the exact same way! Hopefully someone can give us some tips
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10 months, nothing comparing your 5 years. But these 10 months have been the worst of my life. Now Im just grateful that I'm feeling better than I am first, but still, the thoughts sometimes seem very real and disgusting.
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Yeah I’ve had mine for about 8 months now and the first couple of months were terrible, but at this point I am feeling better but some days are very confusing. I’m not diagnosed so my ocd likes to latch onto that a lot so that confuses me even more. I don’t want to date girls, and I don’t like girls so I wish it would stop.
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It seems really real . Its crippling and drags you down . Talking about it is important. Dont keep it in I talk to my parents and my fiance they all give suport. I would always have great sex with woman and one day out of the blue I hit a brick wall when my best buddy has to use the washroom in the woods . I picture him with his pants to his ankles and I said what the f**k did I think that for . From then on iv been on a roller coaster ride . I hear theres hope and that its fixable
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I had a nightmare with a hocd thought. That's the moment where it al atarted. Hope it will get better, for all of us.
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If a thought comes up in my head, I take a deep breath and answer 'Okay Whatever', and move one from the thought. I do this all the time but I don't know if this is the right method to do, bc I don't know exactly what to do to get rid of the thoughts. Hope you can help me
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That’s perfect! And doubting you’re doing it right is just part of the process. Keep it up!
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We are all in here togetter . We have to suport each other. In research I found that 75% of the population at some point have a bi-curious . It's just that for someone who dont have OCD wont fixate on it where we fixate it build more anxiety and the brain is powerful if I sences that somthint cause discomfort it will hit harder . We are all human and we need to accept that it really doesn't matter what "thoughts" are in our heads .
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I'm 32 and at age 27 I hit this type of OCD and still to this day struggle . It's never easy to get threw . How long have you been dealing with this ?
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Mine started when I was at a volleyball tournament. This girl on my team was bisexual and she was talking about it, I was sitting by her and she just kept talking about it and I guess it made me question myself. So then I was worried why I questioned myself. Then I worried I liked that girl and I wouldn’t talk to her, I thought if I didn’t say anything to her my thoughts would go away, but guess what they didn’t!
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I’m sorry you’re all suffering! I had and overcame SOOCD a few years ago. Not analyzing the thoughts is hard. It takes a lot of vigilance and that can feel exhausting. It does get easier the more you do it. I think using mindfulness as a tool for watching the thoughts helps. I also think humor helps (if you can laugh at the thought, it loses all power.) i think it’s also important to write down a reminder of why you’re resisting that you can tell yourself when it’s tough. “Analyzing this thought is tempting, but it won’t give me more certainty, it will only create more doubt. I already know the answer without checking because the answer is always I don’t know.”
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Thanks for your response, it helps me so much.. ? God bless you
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I’ve been stuck in this cycle for the last month or two and am not sure how to get out of it. Basically, I will work on ignoring the thoughts and not responding or engaging plus limiting/completely eliminating compulsions. After a week or two of constant work, the amount of intrusive thoughts in a day goes down. The anxiety each thought causes also goes down with some, but not all, thoughts passing without notice like they would for a normal person. The thoughts that do stick cause anxiety and make me want to ruminate or do other compulsions but I make sure to limit them. After a bit, I’m in a pretty good head space. This is usually when it goes down hill. I’ll start to question if I even have ocd because some of the thoughts (once again not all) pass without notice. The difficulty resisting compulsions goes down and so does the anxiety, only increasing the questioning. I spend a while questioning if I’ve ever had ocd in the first place and then something sets me off or the questioning itself becomes a trigger and I get stuck back into the same ocd cycle with constant rumination, anxiety, and other compulsions. This lasts for a week or two before I know I need to stop and try and work hard to get back to ignoring the thoughts. And the cycle just restarts over and over again. Does anyone have any tips to stop this from happening? It’s really harming my recovery as every few weeks I dive back into the same negative place I was.
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Hey everyone, just wanted to post an honest update on where I’m at in my HOCD recovery. Right now, I'm stuck in what feels like a 24/7 spike — nonstop thoughts, intrusive sensations, identity doubts, and hyperfocus. The worst part? It feels real. Like I’ve “lost,” like I’ve accepted it, like I am gay. The thoughts don't feel like anxiety anymore — they feel like truth. I’ve been trying to do ERP, but the spike has been so constant I don’t even have to “do exposures” — the thoughts, feelings, and sensations are just there all day long. It’s like living inside an exposure. And it’s exhausting. BUT — here’s what I’ve been doing (and what I’m sticking to now): I say once: “These thoughts and feelings are welcome to stay for as long as they want.” I let the doubt, the feelings, the hyperfocus exist. I don’t check, test, or analyze — even when it screams at me. I live my life anyway — folding clothes, watching TV, eating, walking — with the storm in my head. Even when it feels 100% real. Even when I’m fully focused on it. I’ve stopped trying to feel better. I’m letting it all burn — and just not fixing it. It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel like progress.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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