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So I need to keep doing this basically?

@beckalouise No, don’t give the ocd attention. Let it be and sit with the uncertainty. It sounds like your ruminating on the thought and trying to solve it. You don’t have to, trying to solve it is only going to keep it around Use responses like: maybe, maybe not And try to leave it at that

@Jojo💕 It's more feelings I feel now?

@beckalouise Let it be, they will pass

@Jojo💕 Thankyou!

@Jojo💕 Mine is creating scenarios as well, and it’s not like i feel “intense anxiety” rather just it’s always thoughts revolving around it… I’m assuming do the same thing, just leave it at maybe maybe not?

@Michael F Yes ocd craves certainty, saying maybe maybe not can work for any theme

@Jojo💕 Fair point, appreciate this!

@Jojo💕 I always just say “eh whatever ok if that’s what you think Brain…l and I laugh at the thoughts. My ocd used to be out of control. If there’s hope for me there is for anyone. I know what it is now so I’ll play with thoughts sometimes in my head and turn it into a joke instead of something to be feared. 🤷‍♀️

@Amber3993 That’s actually brilliant, whenever i go down the “well you want to date same sex” or whatever it may be.. i get really depressed

@Amber3993 Mine is feelings, I think it's anxiety but I've shut my emotions off so I can't tell anymore. How is the best way to shrug all of this off?

@Amber3993 Yes!!!!! This is the best solution ! Making it a joke! I get some pretty random intrusive thoughts that are just like what in the hell? Why would I think that ? I got a beautiful woman who loves me and I like feeling her and touching her.. but when I’m not in my head and it passes I think back to when I was in it and I just crack up .. like that was funny bro to my brain .

@Anonymous Why does it matter if it gives you anxiety ?

@yoyo22 - Whenever I get the anxiety I feel as tho it's true

The problem is, I'm hardly ever anxious anymore!

@beckalouise Hey, so that’s perfect! Why are you worried about not being anxious ? being anxiety free is really nice, it means you are giving less attention to the thoughts! now, don’t fall in the cycle again, stop trying to look for an answer, because there aren’t any, life isn’t meant to be thought about about but lived! Try and sit with the uncertainty

Can I just say this actually helped me out big time and I was having a really bad day about it all thank you so much

@yoyo22 The problem is the thoughts have calmed down. It feels like I feel feelings and then it's real? I also feel like I've shut my emotions off too? Does this all make sense?

@beckalouise It makes sense, yet you are still trying to understand, which means you are still stuck in the loop (according to me). Don’t try to make any sense of the feelings or the thoughts, they are just there. See, when you are hungry, do you wonder “why am I hungry, is this just a thought ? Is it a feeling ? should I absolutely find out now? what should I eat” and so on… you are saying that it is a problem that the thoughts have calmed down, to me, it’s not something negative or positive, it just means the thoughts gave you a break. So, what if it feels like a feeling now? it doesn’t matter, just ride the wave, just like when you’re hungry, you won’t go into a full cycle to really wonder if you are hungry or not. The problem doesn’t reside in the fact that you are or are not hungry, but rather in the loop of analysis that you get into once you start feeling hunger. This could be applied to any feeling/thought/emotion or whatever. Some people fall in love for 3 days, then it disappears, some people think about killing their mother in law and never do it some people feel love one day and hate the next towards the same person, some people feel gay one day then straight the next, some people don’t identify, some people feel gay their whole life, others have a crush on a specific person, most people are a mix of everything. The only difference between us being on this app, and other people is that others don’t nearly give as much attention to their worries as we do. I wish you good luck on your journey and assure you that everything is going to be ok, I think you are brave for sharing to strangers :)

@yoyo22 @beckalouise