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- 6y
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My mom thinks the same way and in fact blames me : " you don't want to get out of this". My dad's supportive but telling him is hard because it leaks to my mom. I'm lonely too. I'm going to try to improve things but I think I really do need to work on your myself.
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- 6y
I think a therapist could be a great help to you. Also an in person support group in your area. You might be able to make some friends that understand exactly what you’re going through. Aside from those, how about joining some clubs or getting involved in a local activity? It’s great you have your bf, but it is important to build a support network that’s bigger than one person. Some books about OCD and workbooks on CBT could also be great if therapy isn’t an option right now. I’m so sorry you’re feeling alone. OCD can be very isolating, but just know: everyone here is feeling that too (to one degree or another.)
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- 6y
Look closely at your family members, it’s possible your OCD was caused by them or they trigger it at the least. True friends are extremely hard to find don’t let that bother you. Fair weather friends are everywhere but a true friend is an almost impossible find. My family was the same way until I got bad then I went to a therapist and read a self help book and my eyes became wide open to the psychotic house I grew up in. Once you figure out what’s causing your OCD and depression you will get your power back. There’s nothing wrong with you, this is a coping mechanism you have created to deal with the people in your life that are hurting you. They don’t even know their doing it. Good luck and do not doubt yourself, you are not the problem.
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- 6y
My family is the same way. I am a social work student and my mom thinks that I’ve just been self diagnosing because of my major. She said “well you’ve never had any of this before so idk why you think you have it now” My boyfriend is also supportive; however, it’s hard for some people to understand while not going through it every single day. I just joined this app today and I’ve found it very helpful. It is good to know that I’m not alone and support is out there. Feel free to reach out whenever :) good luck!
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- 25w
This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.
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- 24w
My pocd makes me feel really lonely. I have friends who I love but they also struggle with mental health too, and when I'm there to listen and support them sometimes it's just too much and I feel like a bad friend. I can't help but feel like it's not the same, I know you can't compare your struggles to others but sometimes when my friend is telling me how they feel a lack of motivation and depressed I honestly wish I was just dealing with that instead of that and fearing that I'm a pedophile ontop of it. Like at least the thing you're dealing with isn't something that will make 90% of the population despise you, you know? I know that sounds bad and isn't very mature but I'm always the therapist friend for other people, and I'm the only one actually seeking help and trying to get better and I arguably have the worst thing to deal with. I feel like my friends only want to talk to me when they're depressed or need advice and I'm so tired of it.
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- 19w
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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