- Username
- Meggylou
- Date posted
- 5y ago
My mom thinks the same way and in fact blames me : " you don't want to get out of this". My dad's supportive but telling him is hard because it leaks to my mom. I'm lonely too. I'm going to try to improve things but I think I really do need to work on your myself.
I think a therapist could be a great help to you. Also an in person support group in your area. You might be able to make some friends that understand exactly what you’re going through. Aside from those, how about joining some clubs or getting involved in a local activity? It’s great you have your bf, but it is important to build a support network that’s bigger than one person. Some books about OCD and workbooks on CBT could also be great if therapy isn’t an option right now. I’m so sorry you’re feeling alone. OCD can be very isolating, but just know: everyone here is feeling that too (to one degree or another.)
Look closely at your family members, it’s possible your OCD was caused by them or they trigger it at the least. True friends are extremely hard to find don’t let that bother you. Fair weather friends are everywhere but a true friend is an almost impossible find. My family was the same way until I got bad then I went to a therapist and read a self help book and my eyes became wide open to the psychotic house I grew up in. Once you figure out what’s causing your OCD and depression you will get your power back. There’s nothing wrong with you, this is a coping mechanism you have created to deal with the people in your life that are hurting you. They don’t even know their doing it. Good luck and do not doubt yourself, you are not the problem.
My family is the same way. I am a social work student and my mom thinks that I’ve just been self diagnosing because of my major. She said “well you’ve never had any of this before so idk why you think you have it now” My boyfriend is also supportive; however, it’s hard for some people to understand while not going through it every single day. I just joined this app today and I’ve found it very helpful. It is good to know that I’m not alone and support is out there. Feel free to reach out whenever :) good luck!
I’m feeling really down at the moment and I feel like it’s difficult to reach out to people. My parents assume it’s too much time on social media and with my boyfriend. My boyfriend listens to a bit then isn’t fully there. My friends say going out will do me good, rather than listening to the fact that I just want to stay in and talk about my problems with someone. Just feel a bit deflated
Hello dear friends. I hadn't been on this app for a while, I've been getting by. Today I just need to vent and to feel validated and understood. I have OCD, I consider myself in permanent recovery. It is an everyday job. I am ina relationship with a wonderful guy. I deeply love and care about him, but he doesn't understand anything about OCD. I've explained it to him a million times. I've directed him to online resources. I've talked him through what to do to help me get out of a loop without giving me reassurance. And yet, he never knows what to say or do when an episode appears. It is tiring to pull myself out of the loop and then having yo explain to him what just happened to me, over and over again. I think, in general, he lacks empathy for other people's feelings, but, when it comes to me, I can see that he tries but achieves nothing. I think I don't have ROCD, I have diverse thoughts. But the last few weeks this thought got into my mind: what if he has met someone else and they are texting each other and flirting and he's gonna leave me? (He left his girl to start a new relationship with me). And he are apart due to the covid-19 epidemic, so we didn't see each other almost at all during last year. Of course, I had been able to keep this particular thought to myself, buy yesterday, it just came out of my mind after him not picking up the phone. He was in shock. He reacted defensively (which I completely understand), replied that he had nothing to explain to me as to why he couldn't answer the phone when I called him and that we was surprised that I asked him such a thing (if the reason why he didn't answer me was that he was talking to someone else). I knew it was just an OCD thought of mine, but I just couldn't keep it to myself any longer. Of course, I apologized to him and had to explain it had been an OCD thought. He was supporting and understanding and told me everything was ok and to forget about it. This morning I feel sad that he couldn't recognize this for what it was despite all the explaining I have done. I have dealt with my ocd on my own, despite being in a relationship. I just needed to vent and would like to read your thoughts about this whole thing. Thank you in advance for reading and replying.
Hi All, How do people in this community deal with having no one to talk to when needing to cope with depression or anxiety? I’ve tried talking to my family and friends, but they’re all sick and tired of me and my OCD. Every time I try to bring up my concerns, they just shut me down with “Stop the OCD!”, “Go away!”, or just ignore me completely. I know this support group exists for this, but realistically, I can’t come here every time I have something I want to talk about. I’m not sure what else to try, I’ve lost all my friends and now losing family members. I’ve even tried warning them “what I’m about to say is triggering” but that just makes it worse.
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