i believe that i have real event ocd coupled with relationship ocd. the real event ocd, which includes several events throughout my life, is making me feel as though i am not worthy of the relationship i am in, which i understand is an irrational thought. how do you forgive yourself? how do you try to forget? and most importantly, how can i accept love from others if i’m not always happy with myself?
Gratitude
Hi, I agree, gratitude is a great tool, when the “what if” questions start to rob my joy, I look around for 5 things I am grateful for in the moment, the roof over my head, the sunny day, my husband, the refreshing glass of water in front of me, this community. It gets me out of my head and back into the moment. It’s a “practice” or a skill, a go to behavior that puts your focus in the world around you, not on yourself and the past. Remember OCD, even when you know and understand how it works, still wants you to be 100% certain, have it all figured out. Along with gratitude, I did work on my values ( for so many years my only “value” was doing compulsions). I had to figure out what my life was going to look like since I wasn’t spending my entire day and night doing compulsions. Here is a great article that helped me get clear with my values https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/ocd-tries-to-separate-you-from-your-values-heres-what-you-can-do.
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