Feeling like I have to confess

So while I was washing the dishes and my mother came into the kitchen I decided to tell her about OCD and when I talked about it with her she said something to me that is now worrying me and I can’t stop thinking about. She said “what will your boyfriend think about it? He’s probably gonna think you’re too problematic and leave you” now I feel pressured to tell my bf about the OCD I may have but at the same time I’m worried that he’ll want to leave me and think I’m too sad for him. I don’t know what to do. 😓

Username: Rage against the machineRage against...

Date posted: 1y ago

Confessing every thought can become a compulsion. But maybe if you’re comfortable tell your boyfriend that you’re struggling. When I struggled with ROCD, I told my boyfriend that I had OCD and that I was struggling. He was so kind. I didn’t tell him about my specific ROCD thoughts until like a year into our relationship, only when I was comfortable sharing that. That way, he still knew that I was having a hard time but I wasn’t ready to tell him the extent of the thoughts. It worked for me, and I think it was healthy.

Username: Emma_OCjustdon’tEmma_OCjustd...

Date posted: 1y ago

I think that whatever your mother’s intentions with that comment were (probably good) it’s not a helpful thought. What I mean by that is that it’s not something you needed to hear. It’s unfortunate that she brought it up and now it’s in your brain but remember it’s just a thought about a possibility. You can tell your boyfriend whatever you want to on your own timeframe. How he reacts will reflect much more on him than it will on you. And if he’s a person who’s worth being with he will react with support and kindness. 💕

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I think it’s important to follow your heart. When you tell anyone your inner struggles especially with OCD there seems to be a misunderstanding. Unless you have it yourself it could be really difficult for a person to interpret what it is like for us on a daily basis. I think that if the opportunity presents itself and you feel safe and comfortable sharing that with your boyfriend then that is YOUR decision. I also have to add that my boyfriend has been a huge support to me in my journey with OCD and can understand some of my triggers. He is very sweet and helpful. So you never know what may happen when/if you decide to tell him. Again it’s ultimately your choice, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. We are complex, beautiful humans with powerful brains that need a little coaching sometimes 💖

Username: Fr0ggy Fr0ggy

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you this means a lot! Although I will say that when I told my bf about my anxiety and depression and how I was going to therapy for it he kinda was just like “okie you got this!” And nothing else after. Not to mention he’s a very dry texter and I noticed he’s been distant with me and I feel like it’s cause I would tell him about almost every intrusive thought I had. When it was intrusive thoughts about the relationship he would sometimes say “I’m sorry love. If we have to take a break we can” I do think that was sweet of him but obviously I don’t want a break I honestly just wanted a hug from him. When I mentioned about me having intrusive thoughts about my sexuality he felt bad for me and didn’t know how to help me which to be honest I don’t expect him to know what to do I just sometimes don’t know who to go to and I feel safe with him so that’s why I tell him these things. But since I kept telling him about these thoughts I feel like he worries about me everyday causing him to feel sad and which could be why he’s being distant from me.

Username: Siiri

Date posted: 5y ago

How did you tell your partner about your ocd? I’ve never been in a relationship but I am scared to death just thinking about having to tell a future boyfriend about my ocd. I feel weird and alone and like no one will ever want to be with me. Especially if they find out about my mental illness. I’m 23 now and feel like I will be alone forever.

Username: rosecoloredgirl

Date posted: 3y ago

need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months

Username: kmorigz

Date posted: 3y ago

Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.

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