Incel OCD

Both. But more of the latter. I WANT to date and have flings with women but I feel as if there's something wrong with me that prevents that and this does affect how I interact with women. I get really scared of approaching sometimes out of fear of rejection.

@Anonymous Maybe you just need mentorship to feel more confident as a man. I'm not knocking your OCD but OCD will latch on to the weakest part of us. If you fortify your character maybe that may help with your treatment and help you be more confident with how women perceive you.

@Asdfjklz I agree that I have self-esteem issues, but the thing is I have tried multiple ways to make myself more confident. I started lifting 6 times a week, going out to parties and drinking every weekend, making more friends, improving my career, yet I still feel the need to reassure myself that I won't die alone using research while ruminating on my thoughts.

@Anonymous Friends are great, but what you sound like you need is a mentor. Someone to learn from who has already been there and someone who can push you on the right direction. I have several depending on which area of life I'm working on. Maybe get friendly with some old-timers at the gym or go to a PAX-led workout somewhere.

@Asdfjklz What direction do I need to push myself in? I mean I can obsess and think about this all day long but I am not really sure if this is what I need. Many people don't seem to have mentors and seem to get into relationships just fine.

@Asdfjklz I appreciate the advice but I do think your thoughts are already causing rumination. You're implying that there's something I do not know about relationships that will all of a sudden cure my inceldom. I have been researching this topic for MONTHS and I have done everything I can to help this out. Meanwhile there are fucking 15 year olds getting into relationships who knows fuck all about life and they're somehow superior to me

@Anonymous Okay. I think I see now. So if OCD also takes that thought of "what should I do to improve myself?" and causes obsessions and compulsions then you need to respond to the feelings with apathy. "I don't know, I guess the worst will happen since OCD pretends to know it all". That is what ERP dictates one with OCD should do. Also be careful with research. If you feel OCD coming on then don't do it. That would be a compulsion. I hope this clears it up.