- Date posted
- 2y
My OCD Story ( LONG STORY )
When I was growing up in my early twenties and involved in drugs and a criminal lifestyle, I ended up in prison for something I didn't do. The first nights in jail made me reflect on my family and the mistakes I had made, feeling disappointed and ashamed. I found solace in a newspaper which I used for sexual gratification, and after three nights, I was transferred to a detention center where I spent a month. Feeling disappointed and overthinking, I started to regain sobriety and realize the gravity of my actions. Anxiety started to consume me, and I continued the sexual behavior as a coping mechanism. Everything felt new to me; I had never been away from my family for such a long time. I overthought and felt uncertain about my future. A few days into detention, around one week in, an intrusive thought about my mother entered my mind. It was a sexual thought/image, saying that I desired to have sex with my mother. I couldn't comprehend where this thought came from and became frightened, desperately wanting to get rid of it. I overthought and engaged in mental rituals, pretending as if the thought didn't exist, but it persisted and plagued my mind. This led to more intrusive thoughts. This is when HOCD (Homosexual Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) began, and I started having homosexual thoughts and images. Incestuous thoughts emerged, and even pedophilic thoughts. I couldn't understand these thoughts because I had never had them before, but I tried to minimize and suppress them as if they didn't exist. However, they were constantly present, causing more insecurity and confusion. I started saying "I love my mother" and similar phrases to reassure myself that I hadn't become a terrible, evil person. I also believed that once I got out of prison, all of this would vanish. It was just the result of the prison environment and wouldn't carry over to the outside world. I was wrong because as soon as I was released from prison, the thoughts remained. This made me even more anxious and distressed. I genuinely believed that this was shameful and it affected me tremendously. I lived with shame and guilt. The thoughts multiplied and became more shameful and immoral. It began to revolve around pedophilic thoughts, homosexual thoughts, and incestuous thoughts, all of which I strongly opposed. I thought that I had become evil and burdened, and that I needed to live with this burden and endure it. My anxiety became increasingly extreme, leading to moments of isolation. I avoided certain social situations, and even when I was social, the feeling of shame was almost always there. I didn't even consider talking about this for two years. How would people understand these thoughts? What would people think of me? I began to think that I was a terrible person. How could I truly be a Muslim and have these thoughts? Where is my dignity and honor? What kind of man have I become? I cried and prayed to Allah, seeking refuge in Him. I started performing my prayers, believing that Allah was my only hope, as I had no one else to turn to. During these years, there were only a few days where I experienced immense and positive energy, usually in the evenings. I became super active and social and wanted to utilize it by interacting with girls, among other things. During this time, I met some girls, and on the days when I was extremely anxious, I ended up at Thai massage parlors where I sought sexual release. It provided temporary relief, as it confirmed that I wasn't homosexual. However, the thoughts and uncertainty returned immediately afterward, sometimes even during the act itself. I wanted to find a solution to this problem but didn't know where to turn. I tried to improve my daily life and live in a healthier and more favorable way, but it was challenging for me as anxiety took the better part of me. I took action and reflected on how I felt shame and anxiety. Deep down, I always knew that this wasn't me. This was something that had recently emerged, so how could it define me? There was a strength within me that fought against these thoughts every day, knowing that it would eventually pass, even though the feeling of hope wasn't always present when the thoughts and anxiety attacked. I began to understand that my last hope in this situation lay with my imams (religious leaders). I received a revelation from Allah, and I knew that I would soon travel to Iraq. I wasn't extremely excited since I would be traveling with these thoughts, but I had hope that I would return healed. After my pilgrimage, a few months later, I found an OCD program that I purchased. I listened to it, and the speaker explained all my symptoms, and I could relate to the entire program. It was such a relief to understand that this was a psychological illness and not something that defined who I truly am. Knowing that others suffer from this was the best feeling. Since then, I have decided to recover and become completely free from it. I have stuck to my daily exposure exercises, and recently, I have started meditating for about a week or two. Since my recovery journey began, I have been feeling much better, although some days can still be tough. However, I now know how to counter the thoughts and emotions. I see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I know that I'm on the right path. This experience has influenced my life by driving me to seek more knowledge about my religion and faith. I'm trying to get closer to God through knowledge because I know that the closer I get to God, the healthier I become. I have been regularly exercising and haven't given up on it since I don't want to risk feeling even worse. Recently, during my recovery journey, I haven't been meeting girls because I don't feel the same need for it right now. I haven't been intimate with any girls, but I have been meeting them, although not as frequently. I still have some uncertainty about whether I still like girls and desire men. This has resulted in a reduced sense of attraction and desire for the opposite sex. Furthermore, during my exposure exercises, I have experienced erections several times, which has caused extreme anxiety and unease. I have become insecure and sought answers. I understood that it was part of HOCD, and it reassured me. However, I still experience uncertainties about it and whether my HOCD is trying to figure out its true meaning regularly. Nevertheless, I now know how to counter these thoughts through acceptance and ignoring them, letting them exist without giving them power. Now, 2 months into my rehab, I feel like I've come a long way from where I was, and I almost feel completely healed. By that, I don't mean that thoughts and feelings never arise anymore, but rather that I know how to control myself and how little power they have now. It's almost as if they don't exist at all. I want to conclude on a positive note by saying that if I could overcome this, so can you. I lived for 2 years without even understanding what it was, and yet here I am today, feeling a hundred times better. Keep fighting, soldiers!