how do i live my life with the past real event on my mind every second of the day i'm disgusted by it and regret and shame and just can't seem to forgive and move on 😣 i just think it's so bad what happened and can't move on
I have an advise There is something you could do Just tell your self hey that something that I did in the past and I can't change it So it not worth thinking about Like for example you bought a set of clothes but now you tell yourself why did I buy them they are not my style and I wasted my money In this situation tell your self I already bought them so I cannot return them now. And just keep telling your self it dosen't matter what I did in the past because I can't change it But you can do things now that you like and have a new life Imagine everyday of your life as a new chapter of a story or a new book You don't have to be the person you were in that last book chapter Just think like it is what it is and you can't change your past but you can live your life now the way you like Detach your self from the past And if your thoughts bother you so much just agree with them like they are true tell your self yeah that's true I am a bad person for doing that that so cool It might sound crazy but it works your brain will be like what? And then your brain won't bother you with same thought anymore because you taught your brain that those thoughts are not important and they don't mean anything It's like a bully if you listen to them they will keep harrasing you more but if you ignore them or them what they're saying is right they will stop bothering you it's the same thing I hope I helped you All the love 😊
@Maryam995 thankyou i wish it was something so small like that but it's not it's something i'll never get over it's something bad in my eyes and i just don't know what i'm meant to do
If you hurted someone in the past you could apologize to them Don't think that it's over for you You are still alive so can change things after you apologize to those people you can then maybe feel better and if your brain keeps bothering you agree with and remind yourself that you did apologize so at least you tried to fix it And also you can tell someone you love what your struggling with I am sure that if you talked about it you will feel better because you released it from your mind Don't give up hope you will be better You should tell someone trust you will feel so much better And after you've done all of that at least you could tell yourself hey I tried to fix it and now I am gonna live a new life and be happy and forget about the past And I also wanted to tell you that after a while nothing we did or do will matter What matters is how we are living now I remember myself before I used to also have intrusive thoughts about what I did before But now I realized at this moment it doesn't matter what happened in the past Because it's gone and I only have now so I try to not give my intrusive thoughts the power that what I did mattered I hope you will be okay And don't sit and not ask for help because someone will help you I am sure of it I hope you will be better All the love 😊
@Maryam995 thankyou it's nots actually to do with me or that i've done something it's that i was there a remeber i try and tell myself it haas nothing todo with you but it's that feeling in my belly that i just can't seem to move forward with my life, i would say but don't want it to possibly trigger anyone if they read it
Hii I wish i could make you feel better I think maybe you should go to therapy and try taking medication I mean recently I am taking antidepressant for my ocd and anti anixty medication and it helps a lot But honestly that thing that helped the most is CBT I hope you will be better and if you need help don't hesitate to ask for it I wish you all the best 😊
@Maryam995 thankyou i'm currently in therapy but had to put a pause on doing cbt and erp as the medication i'm on isn't working and i couldn't do my tasks that were set, i have a review with a psychiatrist next month to hopefully find something to help me, i think i've found what is keeping me in the loop which is uncertainty and that i feel i need to know in order to know if the past event was bad as i'm thinking it is, if this one thing didn't happen i'd be able to deal with the event but if this one thing i'm unsure on happened i think it's game over
i feel like i have been posting a lot about this and i will try to stop since now but i just don't know where to start or what to do, and i can't take therapy right now either. my event is about something that did actually happen; i had a boyfriend and we had a 1.5 age difference (i know this sounds stupid) but the thing is that we both started to sext a lot since he was 14 and i was 15. we shared audios videos pictures ect and i don't know how to just let this go, even when i know that i never really forced him into anything and i was always constantly worried about him being comfortable, when to stop and ect. the memories keep coming back to my mind and the guilt is eating me up slowly because i keep thinking that i'm a predator or a groomer or something like that. i don't know how to deal with the what ifs either, lately i haven't stopped thinking what if i sexually harassed or sexually exploited him or something like that. how do i deal with the cycle of guilt and constant what ifs if i also feel like my event is worse than others i've seen? please help me with this. it's getting a lil tiring and even if somedays i know how to deal with this, i still get really triggered sometimes. this wouldn't even bother me before, i wish i could just get back in time before this theme popped into my mind. my life has been a hell since then and i live constantly scared and suicidal.
My real-events are terrible. I'm plagued daily by multiple awful things I did as a child / teenager (please don't downplay it.) I've grown into a better person, but the memories won't let me see any progress. It feels as if my insides are dying from grief and shame. How do you go day to day not picturing yourself as a monster?
my real event is so bad today. has anyone got any support. i’m in therapy, ive been on meds, but yet i can’t stop feeling guilty for what i did when i was 11-13. the fact that i cannot remember exactly what age or exactly what happened, how many times or anything, im 20 now, and it makes it worse im trying not to ruminate but im constantly trying to figure everything out. i get these intrusive thoughts that tell me if i was 13 then it’s worse, or that i don’t deserve a good life. but i can’t remember and the guilt consumes me. i remember what i did. just nothing else about it and it honestly is eating me alive.
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