Can anyone share their experiences of relationship OCD & what they did to overcome it? I feel myself constantly wanting certainty & I don’t know how to gain it or be comfortable with uncertainty. I love my partner so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I can’t shake these thoughts
Mine has so many flavors of horrible - it can be a small nagging thought of “is this the right relationship?”, or feeling off about us, feeling 100% certain he’s cheating on me, not caring about the relationship and then freaking out, asking him if he loves me over and over again, testing him to see if he’ll text me back in a certain time as proof he loves me, and it goes on. I’m working with an NOCD therapist and using ERP - it’s helping but I’m not practicing it enough. Plus my meds have helped. My SOOCD was easier to get over. 😅
I deal with the same thoughts as you just about everyday. I’m currently working with an ERP therapist in addition to my CBT therapist and one of the biggest things that’s helping me is challenging the thoughts I get, like if I have a thought about “well what if I’m attracted to someone else?” Then I’ll challenge the thought by saying something like “maybe I am, and maybe we’ll get married while we’re at it.” It doesn’t work all the time, but I’m trying to implement it more. I’m also really working hard at practicing radical acceptance.
@healthybee What is radical acceptance?
@kmk01 It’s basically the act of accepting thoughts and situations as they are without judging them. If you get an intrusive thought, it’s okay to acknowledge it but you don’t have to engage with it.
My ROCD has been coming and going for years now. It’ll come in waves, and make me question “do I really think it’s attractive?”, or, “what if other people don’t think this person is attractive or a good person and then they don’t like you.” A lot of the time, I would only feel relief of extreme anxiety from ROCD by ending or cutting things off with the person. I just started with NOCD and I’m working through this but it’s definitely challenging.
@el-13 I’ve dealt with OCD for the last four years, and it’s may come to an end and it may not. It hasnt for me but all that matters is that we’re doing our best every day.
@el-13 Did you feel anxiety after cutting things off with the person or did you only feel relief?
@kmk01 I only felt relief, it was like I gave into the OCD
@el-13 So how did you know it was ROCD and not you just not liking the person?
Does anyone want to share their thoughts on Relationship OCD? I am new here and have obsessive jealousy (ie I obsess that my partner is always cheating on me and have to check on him constantly). It’s really been hard on me and my boyfriend and I’m struggling to do the exposures..
Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!
Anyone with Relationship ocd? Can you please share what it’s like for you ?
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