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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
relatable?
does anyone else have ZERO libido or get immense anxiety when their partner tries to initiate intimacy because of SOOCD or ROCD?
does anyone else have ZERO libido or get immense anxiety when their partner tries to initiate intimacy because of SOOCD or ROCD?
I feel this way whenever a guy shows interest in me bc I get so fixated on not being attracted to men more than anything else. It ruins the whole experience!
@blazed Omg meeee!!!!!
YEP! Can relate 100000%
if i dont get immediately grossed out or overwhelmed i always end up crying. i've kinda just had to step back from sexuality as a whole
@erikataylor Right there with ya. You’re not alone
So can ocd make it harder to find attraction to guys ? I’ve just been going through this thing where like I know a guy is attractive but like I can’t feel it. If that makes sense ?
@jocd Okay thank you !
Whenever my gf kisses me i get a Ball in my throat Does that count?😭
@Michael F definitely
@Anonymous Then yea, I’m in the same boat. I’m not doing well currently:(
@Michael F I thought did Erp for this theme and recovered :( I’m sorry this is bothering you again
@Anonymous Oh i have, but maybe not well enough
@Michael F Did you recover??
@Anonymous I’m not sure tbh 😳😂
and my fear of failing and not being able to please will feed that, which will keep me from the experience even though I want it and I know it will be hard to get out of it unless I have the opportunity to regain trust with a girl who has patience with me
@Carlos A Not the best situation 😮💨
@Carlos A Ironically that was my original fear not being able to get my thing up and if i didn’t what did that mean?
@Carlos A I get it
@Michael F Yeah, It can actually happen to anyone and I think most men have, but when you go through what can be hocd, it's fuel for the fire.
@Carlos A Sexuality has always been weird to me tbh. Was always a trigger as young as i remember, idk how old you are but i remember this being triggering early
@Michael F 26 now, like 6 and a half y, but for me now it is a frustrated desire, being afraid of not working
@Carlos A I get it. Sorry bro. You got a friend here if needed
@Michael F we have each other on instagram lol yeah me too bro
Yup more so when I had SOOCD
@jocd It’s all about ERP and meds for me. ERP worked really well and I’m finding it’s not an issue for me right now.
This was me yesterday!! The woman I ‘m talking to was being extra flirty and it was making me SO anxious. I was so turned off because it felt like she was coming on too strong and that since I was turned off, I was going to end up hurting her. It was a terrible cycle of fear in my mind.
Yes. It’s horrible!
so damn relatable..
Unfortunately
How long have you suffered from so-ocd 🥲
Yasss!!!
Do you perhaps experience things like being so frustrated and numb because of how much your ocd drains you ? Then you are naturally caught up in a compulsion where you’re “physically testing” yourself to lets say something you watched years ago that is usually against your orientation?? If you know what I mean ? Even though you know you are (your own sexuality) and are in a very loving relationship and you really love your partner but does anyone experience this ?? And then they’re faced with more thoughts about how they’ve betrayed their partner and how their partner will leave and if you also struggle with scrupulosity ocd you feel like you’ve committed a huge sin and betrayed your faith ? Again I get all of this goes against values and that the human body may still react to things we naturally may be against but anyone still falls for the testing and then has this awful reaction afterwards? And does that really mean I betrayed my partner ?? Thank you so much for your time and I would really love your insights as this is something that popped up with me out of the blue …
Ive been with my partner for 2 years. I haven’t had sex with my partner in a pretty long time. I feel like it’s been so long now that the idea of having sex is really causing me anxiety. I also don’t want to kiss or makeout as much. When he brings up sex or making out more or anything intimate it gives me anxiety. I feel like I truly don’t want to do those things, and that scares me. When we started dating I don’t think that this gave me anxiety, I think I was excited about it. But now it’s something that I find I’m almost avoiding. I want to be excited to kiss him and be with him but I’m just not, and I’m worried that that means the relationship is over. I know that the honeymoon phase isn’t forever but is this really what a relationship is supposed to feel like? This has gone on for so long now that I’m almost scared enough to admit to him how I feel rocd wise. I wanted to add that I’ve been on antidepressants nearly my entire life and i definitely have low libido anyway, so not being intimate doesn’t really bother me. Sometimes I can’t figure out if that’s the case or if it’s just because I don’t find my partner attractive anymore. I really don’t know what to do. I don’t want to force myself to be intimate but I think he’ll catch on that something’s wrong if I keep telling him no. If anyone has any advice, or relates at all, id really appreciate it, thank you.
So my bf and I did the do tonight (it’s been a while I couldn’t keep my hands off him) but for some reason when we went to actually have sex I was not super wet like I used to be/it hurt when there was penetration. But I wanted it so bad. Like I know I do. I think maybe I’m in my head worrying it’ll hurt so it ends up hurting lol. Idk how to let my body relax it’s been kinda wonky since OCD started and also I’m on birth control (nexplanon, since last October, idk if that changes much tbh.) How do I let myself relax?? We use lube usually but didn’t today cuz it was a quickie Also how do I know if I’m actually enjoying sex with my partner and not just tolerating it? I feel like I’m thinking that instead of actually being there having sex with him. It’s kinda the crux of my ROCD and soocd “if you don’t enjoy it/don’t feel butterflies, you’re gay and don’t love him” sums it up. But it feels great, I feel good. I feel loved and save and turned on when I’m with him and afterwards (when he’s not rushing to leave like today lol) we stay and cuddle and I just feel.. good. Not cuz I did smthn for him but cuz it felt good for me cuz I am with someone who genuinely loves me and cares if I enjoy things yknow? I do love doing things for him but he also makes sure I get my fun too lol. I want to touch him. I want to initiate. Very clearly. Not gay. I’m worried my lack of butterflies during sex means smthn idk why. Help🥲✌️
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