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- 2y
Isolation
Can OCD try to isolate you? Seems like all my current themes are trying to drive me to push everyone in my life away out of guilt and fear of doing something that will make me feel guilty
Can OCD try to isolate you? Seems like all my current themes are trying to drive me to push everyone in my life away out of guilt and fear of doing something that will make me feel guilty
Sometimes I wonder if my brain developed this from some part of me that believes they can’t or shouldn’t be loved. It’s almost like a barrier to intimacy. A self sabotaging system built to keep me in a cage by myself. Going right back to what you said. Isolation.
Maybe the answer is to keep convincing ourselves that we deserve what we have so our body will stop fighting it
Or maybe its to challenge the OCD as hard as possible, by sitting with the uncertainty of "maybe I don't deserve this" and let it burn itself out. Its just so hard, it seems so easy to push everyone away but in reality, that's the last thing I want
@OCDoesntcontrolme I do everything possible to avoid sitting with the thought I’m afraid of. I think you’re right, it will tire itself out if it’s not fed. And pushing them away in reality is just another compulsion. It won’t solve the problems our OCD is telling us about. It will only validate them into reality.
Only 100% of the time
I feel a constant urge to end relationships because they cause me so much anxiety and I hurt people so much with my confessions
Which hurts because those relationships give me the most joy, even if my OCD tries to convince me otherwise..
@OCDoesntcontrolme That resonates with me. I feel like I’m being so ungrateful for the joy and fulfillment they bring me. I’m too busy focusing on the negatives and letting my ROCD blind me to what I actually have
@Leenabean25 You are so right. And even when you're feeling great, someone OCD will throw a shitty feeling in there and try to ruin the good time. Just more opportunities for CBT and ERP I guess, but its still scary knowing your own brain can do these things to you and try to isolate you from your loved ones
We just have to trust that we fell for our partners for a reason, and no matter what OCD can tell us, there is no perfect person out there, so all of our person's flaws are things to love them for, and the grass isn't greener on the other side. I remember thinking before I got with my GF when I was single, things aren't amazing right now, the single isn't that glorious, and I did that to try and fight these current thoughts of being in a relationship and wanting to run
@OCDoesntcontrolme Reflecting on life before them is a great exercise. I was really lonely, desperately wanted a partner to depend on, someone to support me and spend time with me. And now that I have it I keep thinking how smothered I feel and how I’m losing my independence. But if I stop and evaluate, what I call independence was just loneliness. None of the thoughts I have are rooted in reality it’s all just rose colored glasses. I struggle with finding flaws in him in every situation over even the tiniest things. My OCD wants me to believe these things are important. But why would I feel love for him and want him in my life if he was as awful as my mind wants me to believe? I think maybe we should start trusting our hearts instead of our minds
OCD can be an incredibly lonely experience, especially when people around you don’t understand the thoughts and fears you’re facing. But you’re not alone—others have been there too. What’s something about OCD that makes you feel isolated or alone?
I remember reading a comment someone had made to one of my posts on an OCD subreddit and they told me how they believed their OCD symptoms got worse during a time in their life when they were socially isolated. Reading this comment made the brightest lightbulb go off in my head because it basically summarized most of what I’ve been going through. In addition to OCD, I also struggle with depression and social anxiety. I feel like these three things and the profound sense of loneliness I’ve felt throughout my years in college (undergrad) feed off of each other. I know that OCD can manifest in so many different ways regardless of what your social life looks like, but I can’t help but feel like the lack of relationships (specifically friendships)/community in my life has something to do with my mental health and the delay in my recovery. Side note: I’m still relatively new to NOCD, but I’m happy to say that I’ve been making some good progress in my therapy sessions <3
Guys, does isolating yourself from society make OCD worse? Because I go out these days and I feel like my questions are illogical. Because it seems that alone, everything becomes bigger. It seems that we disregard everything. So something that you would or wouldn't do doesn't seem to have an answer because you don't consider the other. Is this real? Because for example, one question is whether I would take advantage of someone. But the question is, does that someone exist? It's not something that's in my head. In real life, we're all human and you see them that way. So your debt is answered with no. Because that's how you are, when placed in society. You would only do some harm if you didn't consider this, but that would be your values, right? So OCD asks some questions that disregard things, right?
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