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- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You are actually unto something - Our brains are wired for survival. Since we "need" society to survive, social rejection is seen as a major threat by our brains. The hot or taboo topics in society will always be a "hot topic" for our OCD brains. That is, we want to make sure we are safe and have never done anything or will never do anything of the sort. So - If media says: "Being in denial of your sexuality is unacceptable" then off we go looking for certainty about it, even though we never questioned it before. The search for that type of certainty, however, is futile since human sexuality is way more complex than that. Same thing with pedophilia - the truth is that many people do have those preference and they didn't choose it and they can be nice people and never harm anybody but media tells us otherwise.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I don't think there is much to do - even people without OCD are paranoid about it. However, it can help us be more lenient with ourselves and have more self-compassion.
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- 5y ago
Hello, i red it from the following link, i think it can be interesting: https://medium.com/@samanthaengelbrecht/self-diagnosis-of-ocd-needs-to-stop-ca966beb0db4 Over the years I feel the media — with it’s uniformed opinions of what OCD actually is — has made it ‘fashionable’ or ‘trendy’ to be diagnosed with this condition. Which in turn minimalizes the severity of what it means to suffer from OCD. We are living in an age where the internet has a massive influence on society’s perceptions and ideologies. With that in mind the media should be a bit more responsible about the information it distributes — but then again this is the media we’re talking about — anything for sensationalist story right?
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- 5y ago
Unfortunately the link sends me to a mailbox but yes I agree and the mixture of it all is triggering for people with ocd and sexuality ocd I for one in a way thank social media bc tahts how I was able to realize that I had ocd through self diagnosing and while that may not be the best option it led me to getting better even if I haven’t been formally diagnosed
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes exactly thank you you worded perfectly what I was trying to say. We understand that society standards and constructs gave a huge effect on our triggers and idk if there’s something we can do abt it to change or that’ll help ever change that I mean we can try but it certainly helps knowing and understanding that the pressure of society has much to do with what we’re dealing with
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- 25w ago
Hi everyone, Lately, I’ve been feeling confused and anxious about my sexuality, which has been challenging to navigate. I’ve always identified as straight and am currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend. However, I’ve recently started questioning if I might have some attraction to women, which has caused me a lot of anxiety. To be clear, I’ve never experienced romantic or physical attraction toward women in real life, but I have watched lesbian porn in the past. Now, I can’t help but worry that this might mean I’m attracted to women after all. On top of this, I’ve noticed a decrease in my sexual desire for my boyfriend, which only intensifies my concerns about both my sexual orientation and my relationship. This confusion is something I’ve never dealt with before, and it’s starting to take an emotional toll. If anyone has experienced something similar, I would really appreciate any advice or insights on how you worked through it. What helped you find clarity? Someone mentioned that my anxiety might be OCD-related, though I’m not familiar with OCD in this context. I’d love to hear from anyone with experience in navigating these kinds of thoughts or anxiety. I’m open to any personal stories, resources, or guidance on how to approach this situation, both for myself and in communication with my partner. I want to better understand what I’m feeling without being overwhelmed by fear. Thank you in advance for your support!
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- Date posted
- 23w ago
The thoughts still exist. For the last couple months I’ve been able to say I don’t care and lean into the comfort of being uncertain. Im having a tough time with some things personally right now and guess what decides to show up… Anyways, I’ve been trying to get used to the fact that maybe I’m bisexual with a romantic preference for men (I’m married and love my husband) but when you start going through your compulsions it’s soooo easy for everything to blur out. To my knowledge I’ve never had a crush on a woman but I’ve most definitely watched same sex porn and have thought women are hot and beautiful, then come the thoughts about comp het and how I’ve never been an overly sexual person so that MUST mean something. Ugh idk, just looking for someone to chat with I guess!
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- 22w ago
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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