aloe
- Date posted
- 6y
FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 6y
You are actually unto something - Our brains are wired for survival. Since we "need" society to survive, social rejection is seen as a major threat by our brains. The hot or taboo topics in society will always be a "hot topic" for our OCD brains. That is, we want to make sure we are safe and have never done anything or will never do anything of the sort. So - If media says: "Being in denial of your sexuality is unacceptable" then off we go looking for certainty about it, even though we never questioned it before. The search for that type of certainty, however, is futile since human sexuality is way more complex than that. Same thing with pedophilia - the truth is that many people do have those preference and they didn't choose it and they can be nice people and never harm anybody but media tells us otherwise.
FernandoVFernandoV
- Date posted
- 6y
I don't think there is much to do - even people without OCD are paranoid about it. However, it can help us be more lenient with ourselves and have more self-compassion.
ale74ale74
- Date posted
- 6y
Hello, i red it from the following link, i think it can be interesting: https://medium.com/@samanthaengelbrecht/self-diagnosis-of-ocd-needs-to-stop-ca966beb0db4 Over the years I feel the media — with it’s uniformed opinions of what OCD actually is — has made it ‘fashionable’ or ‘trendy’ to be diagnosed with this condition. Which in turn minimalizes the severity of what it means to suffer from OCD. We are living in an age where the internet has a massive influence on society’s perceptions and ideologies. With that in mind the media should be a bit more responsible about the information it distributes — but then again this is the media we’re talking about — anything for sensationalist story right?
aloealoe
- Date posted
- 6y
Unfortunately the link sends me to a mailbox but yes I agree and the mixture of it all is triggering for people with ocd and sexuality ocd I for one in a way thank social media bc tahts how I was able to realize that I had ocd through self diagnosing and while that may not be the best option it led me to getting better even if I haven’t been formally diagnosed
aloealoe
- Date posted
- 6y
Yes exactly thank you you worded perfectly what I was trying to say. We understand that society standards and constructs gave a huge effect on our triggers and idk if there’s something we can do abt it to change or that’ll help ever change that I mean we can try but it certainly helps knowing and understanding that the pressure of society has much to do with what we’re dealing with
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Mt2019
- Date posted
- 24w
Question about HOCD
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
geodrimilis
- Date posted
- 20w
How to counter hocd (in my opinion)
Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
geodrimilis
- Date posted
- 18w
I need this to end.
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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