might be a big trigger for hocd but why do some lesbians say they were boy-crazy before. like what does that even mean , if you have never liked men then how have you been boy-crazy ?

For me a lot of it came from heteronormativity and wanting to fit in. Also any boys I did like had very feminine qualities and actually many of them turned out to also be gay. I struggle to fully understand HOCD but from what I know, in my experience, looking back it was very obvious from a young age that I wasn’t straight and any anxiety came from wanting to fit in and the potential to be rejected rather than anxiety over actually being gay, as is the case with HOCD. Hope that makes sense!

They weren't, maybe they were pressured by society to like them because they were taught their attraction to women was wrong. But if you don't like boys, you never did like boys. People who are bi/pan have a more fluid sexuality and maybe there was a time were their attraction was mainly more directed towards one gender. But if you are lesbian, gay, straight you like one gender and that's that

thanks girls for your answers !

oh , im pretty sure every straight girl had a crush on troye and eugene .

personally not me , not my type of guys

@hocdgirlsummer don't google that, it's a compulsion. I did it and I had the biggest anxiety surge but you can do that too cause it doesn't apply to you. Crushing on men who have a more "feminine" look doesn't mean anything. I like guys with big lips, that doesn't make me a lesbian cause big lips aren't a female thing only. I totally feel what you're feeling but hey everyone has a type, lesbian can be attracted to masculine women and that doesn't make them straight. Liking feminine guys doesn't make you gay either

I’m so sorry you sound so distressed @hocdgirlsummer! What stands out to me is you’ve said you can’t believe it’s you who is typing this... well it’s not, it’s your OCD! And you are allowed to tell your OCD to back right off and leave you alone!

Thanks for the support girl! I truly appreciate it soo much!

Kinda triggering. Ive also liked boys on the feminine side. Omg. It feels like all my crushes were pressured now. Idk ive also like straight boys a lot like a lot of straight boys but im stillfreaked out now. I for example liked troye sivan and also eugene from buzzfeed recently came out the closet but i also had a crush on him. Im not even going to google wat heteronormativity means because ik 1000% i will be triggered for life and scared that all my crushes in the past were fake. I never even used tk think about being gay as a child or something.

I know but damn hocd is at it again. I dont knownif its hocd anymore like what the hell. I knowni feel anxious but i cant stop my mind from thinking thst the anxietyy is because im scared i wont fit in, because im in denial or that all my crushes were fake in the past. I havent felt that in a long time. God i just need to feel something for a boy again. I just want to fall in love with a boy and everything will go away but hocd will never let me. Attraction is completely gone i feel like im asexual now or something. I cant believe this is me who is typing this. If i saw myself typing this message 2 years ago i would laugh, its so unfair to ke how everyone lives their life so comfortably while everything i do feels anxious and uncomfu

I have a friend who identifies as a lesbian and she told me that even though she had ‘crushes’ on guys, they were never actually romantic. She just wanted to be their friend and to be considered one of the guys.