Does anyone find that when you meet a boy and start talking and start liking him that your OCD gets triggered because mine keeps telling me that I’m not attracted to him and makes me question everything. It also doesn’t help when it causes me to take conversations the wrong way I also find That my SO-OcD is more triggered during this and I hate it because that causes me to loose some attraction
Yeah it’s because you value this person, my therapist told me it’s because it’s a positive and beautiful time , my soocd didn’t act up at all while I was single I was thinking about wanting to hook up with that girl this girl that girl and as soon as I got with my lady now and actually was trying for a committed relationship all those fears showed back up.
@Iamtheonewhooverthinks It’s crazy isn’t it! But knowing it’s because I value the person will help me through it! It’s not called the doubting disorder for nothing!! Thank you!
I feel this 100% and this is what I'm going through right now. I've been dealing with this the last few months of my relationship with a really good woman and I'm at a point where I feel the only way forward is to have a discussion with her.... Whether it turns out in my favor or not, I feel like I can no longer shrug off the "what's wrong?" Questions coming from her and want to inform her.
@Sparker12 That’s a good idea! It’ll help to talk to her about it. I need to do the same with my parents x
@Sparker12 You should talk to her , everyone is different, but I told my lady all of my themes the soocd the rocd the harm ocd and she was there for me, still is, she’ll joke about my soocd and say I’m probably bi or pan, but I just laugh and we both laugh cause we know it’s not really true and I’m attracted to her to much and like her to much , but we also joke about my rocd she says if I run out on her she ain’t gonna let me, says she’s stuck to me like a barnacle so I ain’t going nowhere and that warms my heart big time, it warms my heart cause she’s there hears me knows me better than myself and supports me and doesn’t judge, ocd is a bitch and she’s learning about it more and more which is beautiful to me .
Omg gurl this exact thing happens to me too. And as a result, makes me lose attraction! Youre not alone, just focus on yourself and ignore the ocd as best as you can ❤️
@AyseTetik Omg yes!! I’m so glad I’m not alone!! Thank you for your advice 🤍🤍
@10493822 No problem! I know exactly how it feels to think that you are the only one to have certain thoughts - making things feel so real and isolating. Trust me, anything that makes you doubt, someone else has definitly experienced it with their ocd too! ❤️❤️
Relationships can be challenging for everyone. What are some ways OCD has come into your relationship and added extra struggles?
I am in a relatively new relationship (around 2 months) and it has been completely virtual due to varying circumstances. I have never been in a serious relationship before and my past “exes” have never been this serious or brought up any of these feelings. About a month in I started having tons of symptoms and thoughts I figured were due to an SSRI change (i eventually went back to my original med/dose) however, it has remained quite bad since. Thoughts include: -I don’t actually like my partner, I just like the feeling of being wanted -I have crushes on other people, including my partners friends who I barely know -I don’t feel butterflies so I must be losing feelings for him -I think he’s ugly/im just not attracted to him -I’m secretly a lesbian and I’m wasting his time by being with him -a general feeling of dread, wrongness, or needing out of the relationship -not being able to believe him when he reassures me about everything -all of the above is just my genuine feelings and I’m using ocd as an excuse These are obviously crazy things to think, however one of my biggest compulsions is confession and self sabotage so I have told my partner all of these things in detail. He’s really great and patient about all of it but I can tell it weighs on him. Hes even recently expressed feeling like it’s his fault and that he wonders if it wouldn’t be this bad if I was with someone else. I feel so miserable but i feel like I’d be miserable in any relationship but im scared that’s not the truth and my ocd isn’t real. When it’s good i feel the most romantic love for him I’ve ever felt toward anyone ever. He’s an incredible person but I just feel so alone and lost on what to do. I’ve literally tried to break up with him like five times and each time we’ve ended up wanting to stay together. I’m really really scared I’ll never get better or this is simply the wrong relationship for me.
Is anyone here going throughbSOOCD while being in a relationship? If yes, do you feel like “something is missing” even tho everything is great? My OCD keeps on telling me “you’re settling” or “yeah you’re happy with what you have but its nothing compared to what you would be feeling if you were with a girl, but you’re with your bf for society!” Im soo tired!! When I look at him I find him so attractive and handsome but i dont know if im attracted to him or if he’s just attractive!! And while growing up I was never “pulled by guys” but I thought that everyone was this way! I also used to look at girls because I found them Beautiful but I thought that everyone used to look at them this way! I think what truly bothering me is “comphet” and the “lesbian masterdoc”. Like I feel like I can relate to some points! Yes I used to choosw my crushes growing up but it felt like everyone used to do the same thing! As for my current bf, we started out as friend and then it turned into something else but now im scared I just agreed to being his gf because “that’s what I had to do” and im scared that he’s my “beard”. I particularly got triggered yesterday because my friends were talking about their celebrities crush and I couldnt think about anyone without forcing it! Instead I could easily think about kristen stewart or someone with the same vibe. All of this + my feelings must mean something no??? I just want to feel “in love” my bf is perfect!
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