I had a miscarriage last week .my hormones have made my mental health very up and down. My ocd is fixating on compulsions to check my partners phone. I'm so so so annoyed and broken with myself yesterday he went to the car and the compulsion took over. Ocd intense intrusive thoughts about other woman and being cheated on led me to a compulsion. Please advise or give me any sort of help. I just feel so annoyed. Does anyone else have this theme ?
You don’t have to go into specifics but it’s okay to let him know what is going on with you. It’s okay to not tell him the specific compulsion, but just that your OCD has gotten especially strong
Firstly, I'm soo sorry for your loss. Take time for your healing right now. OCD lies we know so know u cant believe all ur thoughts especially when they lead to compulsions....this IS OCD game. Distract urself with other things and focus on your health and well being thats what matters now ..👍💞
I'm worried my partner will leave now because he won't feel trusted and I worry I've ruined the most amazing thing to happen to me x
@tannyt Yes I'm with you ....I appreciate you sharing what you are going thru .I'm here for you
I’m so sorry! Be kind to yourself❤️ understanding what your body is going through as well as the stressors is important to heal both emotionally and physically. OCD gets loud in times of stress, I agree with cmac1339, throughout my OCD journey when life gets stressful, being able to say to someone “I’m struggling” without getting into reassurance is helpful. I would say I’m not looking for reassurance, but maybe just support❤️. Hang in there, give yourself time, you’ve been through a lot.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have this theme and it was really tough. I had to resist my compulsion to check his phone, ask for reassurance, etc cuz it made my OCD stronger. I did ERP with my NOCD therapist and now it’s way better and I’m recovering from it.
It is tough. He's the best thing to ever happen to me , I think I have seeked alot of reassurance over the last few weeks and it probably has made it stronger. So I'm a bit annoyed at myself. How long have you done therapy on here for and how much has it helped ?
@tannyt It’s helped a ton. I was obsessing about him cheating basically every minute when I was awake and now I barely think about it. I love NOCD been with two therapists here (cuz I had to stop treatment due to insurance issues) and they’ve both been crucial to me improving my OCD immensely.
@Honeyshark Is it video sessions you have with your therapist?, Yeah I know right now my hormones are all over the place but the last thing I want is this ever coming in between us. The more I love him and the more happy I am the more the ocd wants to attack. Are you on social media or anything?
@tannyt Yup video sessions. Yeah OCD targets what we value. I’m not. I stay off of social media cuz it makes my mental health worse.
@Honeyshark So are you off Instagram and stuff ?
@tannyt Yup. I occasionally go on for ERP like once a month but otherwise I don’t go on social media.
@Honeyshark We're you checking your partners phone regularly before treatment?
@tannyt No, I was tempted but I didn’t. I did check his social media (thus the ERP) to see what he was up to when I couldn’t get a hold of him. I have checked an ex’s phone but that was only once. I’ve had the compulsion to check my current partners phone but haven’t done it.
Which therapist on here would you say was the best?
@Honeyshark
So I have been struggling with the same theme of ocd for 4 months now. My ocd centers around past events/false memories that ocd skews to make seem bad or it twists my thoughts on what my intentions were. this is related to cheating or being weird while I have been in my amazing relationship. I have never cheated on my partner and never will and I believe it is wrong. But my ocd is telling me other wise. I love my partner so very much and I would never want to hurt him but my brain is getting to me. I was getting better. I was trying “maybe I did, maybe I didn’t”, I have been back on meds and in therapy and I stopped confessing random interactions from years/months ago about 1.5 weeks ago and it really helped. But now I woke up this morning and feel the pit in my stomach again. I feel extra critical and like why would you do this? What does this say about you? What was your intention with this? And I’m just stuck mentally reviewing and ruminating on everything you could imagine. I know my personality and I know in the moment maybe I did find them attractive but mainly I was just being nice or funny or even just a good friend, but looking back now I’m like “was it flirting?” “Why did I still snap this person” “why would I even talk to them” and stuff like that. I feel this intense sense of guilt. I have told my partner everything that I keep getting stuck on and he didn’t care, he said he understands or “that’s a little weird but it’s okay” and hasn’t missed a beat. He said eveything I’ve told him is normal and I’ve heard that from my friends too. I just really need help. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so disappointed because I thought I was gonna be done with this, so why am I still so worried and caught up in this.
Themes constantly switching. I’ve been suffering with real event ocd the last year and am currently in therapy treating it. it’s nowhere near as bad as it was last year and it’s felt like a nice break. there’s days where it gets bad but i can’t compare it to the stress of last year. However i’ve noticed every time i overcome a theme a new one hits me out of nowhere. i’ve suffered with ocd since i was 9, and ive had multiple themes. i’m in a 2 year relationship with my partner and it’s amazing. she’s probably my second proper relationship due to the fact my first relationship gave me so much fear to get into another one as i was cheated on, and needed a few years to get over that. i kind of guessed that ROCD would creep in at some point as it just felt inevitable. anyways, i know my partner is not cheating on me, she’s beyond loyal, we are so so in love but i think due to that first relationship i had, being cheated on really messed with my head. it’s like my brain is telling me my partner has someone else even though i know in my heart nothings going on, and i trust her with my life. i also think because im in the happiest relationship of my life, anything that would indicate loosing her makes me feel sick and riddled with anxiety. and i know that’s completely normal for everyone. i think the most frustrating thing is, is knowing that my OCD has finally crept into my relationship which is something i never wanted it to do. this is a brand new theme and i have no idea how to treat this. i will speak to my therapist but if anyone has been through this theme and any advice in the meantime i would really appreciate it :).
Hi I'm new to all of this so I hope I'm doing this right. 5 years ago my 34 year marriage ended. My ex husband was a mentally and financially abusive, covert narcissist. All that is behind me now and I'm finally remembering who I am again. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy but the problem I'm having is relationship OCD. This has taken me by surprise really as I've had OCD from a very young age but never has it been about my relationship. I constantly check messages and go over and over conversations and convince myself my partner will eventually cheat. Almost every single person in his life I can feel threatened by and I hate this for him and also for me as I don't have any peace of mind. This is ruining the lovely relationship I know I could have so I really need to get a handle on it. Has anybody else experienced this and managed to control it?
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