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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
It's not about being arrogant and self-righteous. I can be patient any time of the day, believe me, I am a teacher in real life. -- It is the frustration of seeing how a tool that is supposed to help is being used to feed this horrible monster that is OCD. --- It's like a recovery clinic for drug addicts being used to sell and trade dope.
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- 6y
Unfortunately, my friend, that philosophy is not very welcome here - ironic ... An app that is supposed to help with OCD.
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- 6y
Yes sadly, and I can see that by the amount of likes I got. Unfortunately some people here do not take good advice that will actually help them in recovering. They want to recover but do not want to go through the short term uncomfortableness they have to face (lets say anxiousness while doing ERP) to recover. They just want something magical to happen to get rid of their obsession all of sudden.
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- 6y
Yes, I understand you. That is why I always return to this app to give the same advice even though I know it might not be taken seriously at that time. Maybe, just maybe my advice might be helpful to someone at some time when the reader will finally realize that it might be helpful to take a different approach or just try out to see if it works. I have been through this same journey, journey of constant fighting against the uncertainty until you finally break and collapse and realize you are not winning and then you not only accept the defeat, but surrender yourself and allow your fate to be your master. The moment you stop fighting is the moment you start living.
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- 6y
I really needed to hear this today, thank you so much.
- Date posted
- 6y
Everyone's at different points on their unique journey. Some people learn quicker than others. That's ok too. It might take 20, 50, 100 people tell someone how it works before it finally sinks in. Sometimes we have all the information but it takes reach our personal threshold of pain where we decide we can't take anymore, and that we are done. Of course when the pain of staying in ocd becomes greater than the percieved pain of stepping into recovery and doing the work of erp, maybe that's when we truly are ready to hear good advice. Rather than get frustrated at these people, try practicing patience, humility, and compassion. These are better than becoming self righteous.
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- 6y
Great post btw
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- 6y
I applaud you. Thank you.
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- 6y
Yes me too brother x
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- 6y
Thank you, I applaud you too and all us for being there for each other. I wish I could have been part of a community like this during my dark days.
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- 6y
Thanks for posting this. I needed to hear this.
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- 6y
Well they done hand out methadone to heroine addicts where I'm from...
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- 6y
Its not an attack and I'm sure you're a patient teacher. Us lot with ocd are often extremely capable and talented in our fields. I'm just saying we cant control how others use the tools provided. Say the serenity prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.
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- Date posted
- 19w
As a 20+ year OCD vet and OCD conqueror. I wanted to share some tips and tricks that help me. 1. A thought is not the same as a belief. You can think something, and not believe it in the slightest. 2. Thoughts DO NOT represent ANYTHING. They are not indicators to who we are as people, they are pop up ads for the brains computer. 3. We DO NOT control our thoughts! The average person has about 60,000 ( yes, 4 zeros) a day! NONE of which are controlled. 4. We DO have control over which of those 60k thoughts are important. i.e. thought A. I could murder my entire household- survey says? not important ( because yea, sure, you could, but you probably don't really want to) thought B. i need to do my laundy-survey says? important... unfortunately, i hate laundry. which brings me to number 5. 5. Emotional reasoning ( where you let your feelings impact your decisions) is a COGNITIVE DISTORTION. It is a flawed thought process and should NEVER be used. "wanting to do something" does not mean you SHOULD do it, same and sometimes NOT wanting to do something doesn't mean you shouldn't do it ( picked what is important) my brain might tell me i WANT to break up with my husband, ( unimportant) and it might also say i don't want to get up and go to work in the morning ( important). 6. YOU-ARE-IN-CONTROL. Not to be confused with HAVING control. We don't control our thoughts, we control which ones are important, we don't control our feelings or emotions, but we control how to react (or not react) to them. We don't control our OCD, but we can control how it affects our lives, and that can mean that is has all the power, or none. 7. If the action you want to do ( confess, get reassurance, check, analyze, avoid, re-do) are to gain relief from anxiety, IT IS A COMPULSION. DO NOT DO IT. Sit with the anxiety and train your brain to realize its not dangerous or important with ERP ( this takes time, but practice makes perfect) 8. Know your enemy. NOCD has a HUGE amount of articles and information on ALL subtypes of OCD and how to respond and how to treat them. OCD is MUCH easier to combat when you understand how it works. 9. BE PATIENT. BE KIND to yourself. Prioritize healthy habits, a healthy body is better equipped to handle OCD. Good sleep, whole foods, sunlight, social interaction, exercise ( walking especially). When the mind feels weak, make the body strong. 10. You are not alone. OCD is classified by the World Health Organization as one of the top 10 most distressing disorders. Reach out to people, seek medical help. Medication is not evil, it can be life-saving, TALK to people. Bonus Tips * if the question is " What If" its OCD. * Total certainty does not exist, be content with 99%* *"But this feels different, this feels like its not OCD, that its real*- emotional reasoning... its OCD. Hang in there. You got this. Im here for any advice, questions, or support. Today is a great day to have a GREAT DAY.
- Date posted
- 18w
more advice for sexual/pocd sufferers I read somewhere that if you hyperfocus too much on your body's reactions to intrusive thoughts, you're unwillingly just making it intensify the sensations. Your body, after enduring severe anxiety and stress from sexual obsessions, will now just react to anything sexual that comes into your mind, whether forced or randomly. It can happen in any way. OCD makes anything possible, and is driven by fear. Knowing this I realized, it doesnt matter at this point, and to let it happen. And you guys should too. Remember what your real values and desires are. It can feel as real as it gets, but it is still not you.
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- 14w
Remember thoughts are just thoughts, feelings are just feelings. We generally cannot control our thoughts or feelings, and even groinal responses. No matter how much you want to, they just happen and they 100% happen more when you’re worried about them happening, instead except it. Say “that’s just my silly thoughts again” or whatever it may be, say oh it’s just that silly thing again. Don’t try to work it out, don’t try to ignore it, allow them to come but don’t solve them. Just expect that they’re there . The best advise I was ever told is OCD is like a drunk person, they start to say silly things such as “omg I’m such a silly person” or “Ong you’re so great you’re the strongest person alive” you don’t actually believe what they say because they’re speaking nonsense, but you most likely will reply with “oh yes you’re right” because you’re trying to just please them, but it doesn’t mean you agree with them. You’re just trying to “shut them up” basically. For example if you kept saying “no I’m not” “not that’s not true” “no don’t be silly” the drunk person would carry on saying “no yes you are” etc etc… this is the same with ocd, the more you try to argue with it and say “no this isn’t true” the more it’ll say “yes it is” however if you just say “yes okay you’re right” (even tho it’s not) it’ll start to show ocd that you aren’t picking a fight anymore, you’re just excepting it and it’ll start to get easier. Trust me you aren’t alone in this. Ocd is scary. But you can do this. Some other techniques that have helped me massively is this… When you’re getting these unwanted thoughts etc, name 5 things you can see around you, 2 things you can smell or 2 things you like the smell of, 3 things you can hear and 5 things you can feel, such as touch your hair etc and describe how it feels, etc. this is a way of just distracting yourself. It’s a very good technique for ocd and I went from getting 20 showed a day due to my ocd down to 3 showers a day…. From using this. It works!!! Or take deep breaths that also helps people You aren’t a bad person, you’re just suffering with ocd and that doesn’t make you a bad person
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