Advice plz

Thankyou for this...right now I may not understand much but I will keep it with myself and will read it for the motivation that's what I really have to do then maybe one day I will be able to embrace it...

@R Byrd My pleasure

I have read this and actually trying but it's ocd not letting me...

@Anonymous Well it is difficult accepting uncertainty for sure. Even if some ppl do it effortlessly we all have strengths and weaknesses. What matters is that you’re doing it! It might feel like you are not but give it time. Would you like to share why you don’t understand it? Or what the OCD is saying about it?

@JordTheNord I am not able to face the uncertainity regarding my ocd thoughts...it says if I will accept it to be true or it can happen then that makes me a sinful person and that I am not able to accept...

@Anonymous What do you do to prove your thoughts are false then and do not represent your actual beliefs?

@JordTheNord I change them or force them to stop

@Anonymous What do you change them to? How do you force them? Also, are you a Christian?

@JordTheNord Idk my brain changes them in a way it seems logical to me...tapping on chest counting etc I do and no I am not a christian

@Anonymous Ok just was curious you used the word sinful but obviously and of course that doesn’t mean you are a Christian. Just wanted some background. So if your brain changes them into something logical do you feel like OCD is controlling you or would you like to stop compulsions or just have a better understanding of accepting uncertainty?

@JordTheNord Tbh what I want is to stop these thoughts from coming that is clearly not a right way to look at it I know so now I want is to get better to get out from the clutches of this ocd that is actually affecting even the simplest tasks off my daily life...each and every sec I have to suffer due to this...so I just want to get better and if embracing uncertainity is the way then I want to go for it...but I am not able to...it is not getting aligned with me...I feel I will be in big trouble if I would choose to do this bcz right now I have some other commitments that i have to give my best at but in both conditions it seems like impossible...

@Anonymous Yes the spiraling of OCD thoughts makes us feel helpless for sure. However you do know what it’s like to feel peace otherwise OCD wouldn’t have such an impact on you. So remember THIS IS NOT PERMANENT. What we all are working on is extending the peace. You already are making progress! You recognize that stopping the thoughts all together is not beneficial. That’s a great step. Because remember, ppl that are Non OCD experience these thoughts but let them just come and go (the thoughts) and don’t even care they have them because it does not shake their identity and the are able to grasp that they are just thoughts coming going in a grand device (our imagination) that will be infinite. Maybe one part of uncertainty you can understand or even already know is that we possibly can’t know everything. THAT is certain. So is it really uncertainty or just another part of the process. Also, accepting uncertainty is just one way to deal with OCD. It is not the end all be all. So maybe you can focus your energy into other ways of managing your thoughts. Also, every human has sinned. Does not mean it is all we are. We are not our mistakes or failures and or success. We are complex amazing beings that can not just be defined by one aspect that is a part of us. I would recommend on how you talk about yourself and your OCD. How you define your experience will shape it. You said “clutches, each and every second you suffer, seems impossible”. Not saying you don’t feel that because I been there myself. Your feelings are completely valid. Just maybe change the perspective of your experience. That was a lot. Thanks for reading. Ask more questions or explain more if you want I just want to hear from you before I just blah you to death. Or Maybe I can blah your thoughts away lol.

@Anonymous You are not accepting that the thoughts are true or that they can happen, you are accepting that you have OCD, the doubting disorder, and you you are accepting that you have uncertainty about these things. I went through some content that centered around God and actions in my past. I had to accept not that my thoughts were true, but that I had doubt and uncertainty and all the uncomfortable feelings that came with that. I had to accept that I was going to be uncomfortable for a bit without doing anything about it I didn’t try to rationalize, remember, figure it out. I wasn’t accepting I was a bad person, I was accepting I had doubt and uncertainty and I wasn’t going to try to figure it out.

@JordTheNord Sorry, maybe I slept last night and then got busy with the day...thanks for your suggestion...I also realized that I should work on it...when I will start acknowledging that this is not the end only then I would be able to pass through it...

@VGH That's what my brain is not ready to get but I will try my best...slowly slowly maybe...but I will reach this...