NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 1y

Romantic feelings??

I never had romantic feelings for same gender, since ocd started feelings for women have diminished quite a lot and some of them have disappeared. I'm struggling a lot with these because now if a romantic song shows and I picture a man with me it feels like I get those romantic feelings I had for women, there are feelings I don't even remember if I had for women because I've been numb for so long that I can't quite remember. What happens next is that after I stop fearing it exposing to it long enough I stop feeling them for men. But why would I even feel them in the first place? And is it possible to feel stuff with men in your thoughts that you never felt before for opposite gender because of ocd?

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Also have a good book for you to read if you are interested.

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 1y

Sure thanks

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Once you get some sleep, get a good therapist, and begin exposing, it will become so much better.

Fruitsnacks

Date posted: 1y

Without providing you with reassurance, I also have had the romantic thoughts when exposing myself to romance songs that I’m trying to envision my girlfriend but end up envisioning an old friend i have intrusive thoughts about. Just remember that people can have these same thoughts but are able to quickly diminish them. Us on the other hand, need to figure it out and make sure it’s 100% for certain we are not gay. I struggle with this a lot since I have intrusive thoughts a lot. Thankfully my girl knows about everything and she’s supportive and not judgements but i still feel the sense of guilt and shame because I want to just love her. I want to be attracted to women my whole life and have a wife and kid. I don’t want to “cross over” or have any type of romantic relationships with same sex persons. This girl is extremely special to me and I love her. I continue pushing through no matter if OCD says i’m lying to myself or makes me feel in denial. Once OCD latches onto something, everything you once knew about yourself is gone. You will never be certain again. That’s why it’s important to not question your thoughts. They mean nothing. People have sexual thoughts about things that they would never do. Why? That’s just how the brain works. But for us, it’s a bully. You think of something that your brain perceives as a fear, OCD takes that and runs with it

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 1y

Thanks a lot, but for you it seems like it's just thoughts for me it's like it actually mimics romantic feelings. I've seen that my ocd can create feelings out of nowhere but even if they feel real they don't feel natural if that makes sense. I just want to be able to love my girlfriend only like before and this is stupid because love and romanticism isn't something that I can feel out of nowhere all my life I've fell in love with women and those feelings are constructed with memories and many other things that made me feel so good so happy, this on the other hand makes me depressed and anxious.

Fruitsnacks

Date posted: 1y

@Grm2 Try not to compare people symptoms. Just because I may not share something you go through, doesn’t mean you’re a special case, it doesn’t mean you’re the “exception”. That’s ocd lying to you. Give yourself grace. Everyone is different and ocd attacks them in every way possible. Continue pursuing women even if it feels like you’re lying to yourself. OCD wants you to avoid and it’ll make things a whole lot worse in the long run

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Are you sleeping my friend?

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 1y

Not because of these doubts

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Grm2 You need to get something to help you sleep. It will help bring clarity. I went 5 months with no sleep and developed psychosis. Seroquel really helped me.

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Grm2 Until you know different, just recognize they are just doubts. They cannot hurt you, just like any other thought.

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 1y

@Jtremain1988 Thanks a lot m8 i'm able to sleep sometimes but i don't rest, it's like i'm sleeping but having nightmares related to my ocd. I haven't tried using something to help me sleep yet because I fear I won't wake up in the morning for work

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Grm2 Seroquel won’t do that. Talk to a doctor. 25mg is subtle, but effective.

trapped

Date posted: 1y

@Jtremain1988 Is 25 mg what worked for you? My OCD is awful, especially postpartum. I take 60 mg Prozac and am starting 25 mg of Seroquel. My doctor said 25 in morning and 25 at night. Curious if you did this or something else? I don’t want to be a zombie. I just want to enjoy life and stop obsessing over “what ifs”

JPT1988

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@trapped in my thoughts Hey! I apologize for the delay. Been off the site for awhile. I take 25mg of Seroquel in the evening. For me, medications only do so much. I have found a more holistic approach has been the most effective. Exposure in the am, meditate or yoga once or twice a day, and change my thoughts from “what if” to “who knows” 🤷🏻‍♂️.

trapped

Date posted: 1y

@Jtremain1988 Thank you. That’s helpful. I typically don’t make enough time for meditation or yoga. I know I have to prioritize that, but it’s hard when you feel so low. What book do you recommend? I appreciate your response and I’m glad you’re doing well

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

anyone else?

So I’ve SOOCD since I was in 8 th grade and it got really bad when I had an intrusive thought as to what if I was bi. And ever since then I’ve had self destructive behavior to where I would think the thoughts on purpose or about women and checking them out and flirting with them. ( I identify as straight) and over time these thoughts and self destructive behavior hasn’t bothered me and now they feel apart of me I know apart of it is ocd but also it’s me like me willingly looking at women and me wanting to have sexual thoughts or feel aroused and in reality if I never had ocd I would never think this way I could live without women and never sleeping with them I do have a bf and I love him and am attracted to him rn thought bc of what happened last night with a women it’s hard to feel that can anyone relate?

Mags2002

Date posted: 17w

Soocd: need some response , is this even ocd?

I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real

What is happ...

Date posted: 16w

Does false attraction change?

When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.

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