My thinking is going crazy

So I just picked up the guy I’ve been seeing from a night out, he was having a farewell drinks for his mate who’s off back to uni. I offered to bring him home since he didn’t have a lift, was an excuse for us to see each other and I always wanna make sure he’s safe. I’ve never seen him in this drunk state before and it was really cute and funny, but now I’m thinking too deeply about it. Basically one of the bartenders is someone he knows, she’s female and I know her as well we used to work together, but the entire ride back to his he kept going “and that fucjinf *her name* the cunt she kept giving me drinks she shout have. The bicth a year ago left my snap on read the bitch” and just kept talking about her and now I’m worried like do I have something to worry about with these 2? Is it stupid for me to bring it up? Or is it literally just me being jealous? Idk but I’m just a lil concerned he just kept brining it up. As well as a couple of other things I heard the same stories several times and I know he was hammered so I should stop thinking it but it’s hard when I’ve fallen so heavily for him and I’ve been worried for Days fhag be no longer feels the same way as me. I’m not sure what to do without coming across as a psycho. I’m stressed

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Totally understandable from your side too, you seem like you really care for him, just ask him whenever you see or text him next see if he remembers any of it, or maybe bring it up in a joking way, but if he was drunk perhaps he may not remember much, hope this has helped a littke

stuckonathought

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous I do I really do, and I’ve had guys lie to be before and leave me for the girl I wasn’t meant to worry about so now I’m beyond freaking out. I’ve already been so stressed out that he’s gonna leave so now it’s beyond a worry. I brought it up in a joking way to see what he says, I don’t wanna look like a psycho but the amour of times he brought it up I was like okay ouch, one or two I understand but this is not funny anymore. You did help thank you! Just so worried

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Ruminationstation Just keep being you and try to have confidence in yourself, there’s only one of you so just make sure you know your worth too

stuckonathought

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous I brought it up to him and now I think fucj I was just overthinking and now I look psychotic because I don’t care if he has female friends like at all irs just the last guy to have a “female friend” left me for her so now I’m a little bit aware fnag soemtimes it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. He said “why? I haven’t spoken to her in months I was only saying hello” to which I just replied “whaha I know, you said that Murillo times 😂 I was just thinking Jesus he’s either gonna fight her and kill her or I need it up myself for this competition” I thought it was a joking way to say I’m a little bit worried I’m gonna loose you but I understand you were drunk so I trust you but I don’t trust anyone my raging trust issues are coming through and I’m worried he’s gonna think I’m psychotic

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Ruminationstation Have trust in it for the time being then unless he gives you something to doubt it, try not to overthink it he was drunk and said stuff like everyone else does, he talks to you so he must like you for you, hopefully it all goes well for you

stuckonathought

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous Yeah I deleted that messaged and continued to just joke about him being drunk. I know that I just don’t trust my thoughts and I can’t help but overanalyse and overthink everything

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Ruminationstation Yeah try not to but easier said than done, that is completely normal I do the same all the time overthink everything

Mazy420

Date posted: 24w

Advice on this situation 😭

I’m at a loss about what to do. I’ve been with my partner for about a year. I’ve wanted to be with him for 3 years and now I finally have him, I got out of a really toxic 11 year relationship about 4 years ago so I’ve had plenty of time to heal, things where going so great at first in our relationship and I’m still very much happy with him, I love him more than anything, but the past 5 6 months I’ve been having a constant fear that he’s gonna cheat or watch 🌽behind my back any chance he gets , I know that’s a touchy subject for some, but me personally it just makes me feel that I’m not attractive enough,or feel like I’m not good enough, I’ve never found evidence of cheating, and I’ve found 🌽 in his history once but I told him how I felt and he told me he understood how I felt and wouldn’t do it again,and I know the constant asking everyday and needing for reassurance with it is putting a tear in our relationship, I just want to fix it. Does anyone have any advice on how to redirect my brain whenever I start overthinking about it when I’m not around him? It just puts so much stress on me when I’m not around him cause I’m just constantly in my head about it.

Relationship OCD

cam123

Date posted: 22w

Stressing about my relationship

Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a short period of time....and he's head over heels for me...at least he says so. All the time I'm so scared he's going to break up with me or any time something is uncomfortable I shut down and think I did something or he's thinking about me in a negative way and I don't know how to stop it. He doesn't do anything to seem like he wants to break up with me, but any time he does something a little different then normal I immediately think of the worst. If he's being really quiet I'll be thinking *is he going to break up with me* *does he not want to be with me* *is he just hanging out with me right now because he wants a girlfriend to pass the time* all of that stuff. And honestly I'm so scared..... because what if my thoughts are true?

stuckonathought

Date posted: 17w

Convinced myself of something bad

Basically when I was drunk I was flirting with this guy I usual flirt with he was telling me that nothing could happen because he’s friends with my cousin, so I got really close to him and said oh resllr so you don’t want me, and I can’t remember what he said but I then kissed his like cheek or near his ear to like flirt with him and I’ve convinced myself because he said he couldn’t that basically I’ve harassed him. I left him alone after we’d finished talking but I’m so worried that me sorta going are you sure to him because he kept saying “maybe one day but right now I can’t” and saying “it’s not that I don’t want to” But I’m really scared that I’ve done something wrong. I keep picturing me kissing his cheek and him going like ugh fuck off when I don’t think that happened? I just have the worst anxiety around it right now

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