I've always liked woman I'm 20 years old and I always 100% believed I was straight. can I just become gay? It just came out of nowhere 5 months ago and now it seems like I like guys and I'm becoming gay. How can that just happen?
Omg i get this. But for me it’s the opposite. I always thought I liked girls but idk if it’s true or it’s just intrusive thoughts.
I just don't know how I could just turn gay? I've always liked woman
@Anonymous So u don’t think you like men anymore?
@janae kirmales No I've always liked woman and now since like 5 months ago I've started thinking I'm gay or I might be gay and idk how that could just change
@Anonymous It doesn't just change. You're in the right place, try to look up doing exposure or find a therapist to guide you
@jdd Thank you! But why does it feel like I'm attracted to guys I'm so confused
@Anonymous False attraction, why did you start thinking you're gay??
@Grm2 ⬇️
@emilyvictoria Thank you so much! I appreciate you responding. Would you say I sound like I have hocd?
@emilyvictoria Again thank you. Does it make you truly feel attracted to the same gender?
@emilyvictoria And it's hard for me to find woman fully attractive like I used too
@emilyvictoria - Do you mind me asking how old you were when you went through so-ocd. I'm currently 24 and it started at 21. Whenever I try to sit with uncertainty and not figure it out my brain yells at me "but you have your answer and your just denying it"
@emilyvictoria At times idk if I have the desire or not I'm just so confused I don't want to be gay but at times it seems like I do. It's so weird again I'm just confused
@emilyvictoria Honestly I feel like all of that! But it's hard to tell my thoughts from my intrusive thoughts. Is that ocd too?
@emilyvictoria So it all has to be OCD and not actually us!
@emilyvictoria That's awesome That your feeling a little better! So do you think it's all just ocd then for yourself?
@emilyvictoria Well I'm happy your getting there! I think I might have that too! I don't I have OCD a lot too
@emilyvictoria Yeah I am! It's helped some but I think some of the trouble I do myself with putting situations in my head and testing myself constantly and then I do that so much I think that's why I feel attracted to guys
@emilyvictoria Yeah honestly I feel like I really like guys and idk why I honestly can't tell anymore if I like it or not I am worried I'm actually gay I've always liked woman so much
I honestly don't remember I think possibly what really made it worse was a guy that was gay hit on me and was saying inappropriate things to me and I also have a really hard time finding woman attractive and idk why
The mind is very powerful if you tell it something it will believe it even if it ain't true. It can mimic stuff sometimes it feels like an entity of its own controlling us but it's all an illusion,, feelings and sensations too so watch what you feed it
@Grm2 Ok thank you. It just feels so real like I'm actually attracted to guys even tho for my 20 years of life that's never been the case
@Anonymous Yes I know that feeling you got to be strong and loyal to your true self
@Grm2 So I'm not gay it's just ocd? Because OCD pops out of nowhere being gay does not
@Anonymous You know the answer to that asking it's just reassurance, trust yourself
So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
can i turn gay? and suddenly start liking gay and men sexual parts even though i never liked them before i scared i will start doing it and lose my attraction to females
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