J.Christine
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- 1y
Anyone else???
It seems like my husband brings out more O.C.Dness in me when he's home, does anyone else have the same problem or similar one???
JillianjohnJillianjohn
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- 1y
Yes, it makes sense that a person in this role in life would bring around more themes. This is something I welcome when my husband is around. It’s Taken many years but he plays such an important role, it only makes sense that many themes play out when he’s around ;) it’s not the best feeling but I always make sure to talk to my NOCD therapist when this happens. It helps a lot.
JordTheNordJordTheNord
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- 1y
I’ve experienced this before too with certain ppl. It’s unfortunate. Would you like to elaborate on the HOW he does?
J.ChristineJ.Christine
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- 1y
Well he never says I've done a good job at anything I do, so I try harder in all I do. I feel the same with my Mom as I always have since a child. Or my husband's mom makes me feel the same. It's like nothing is ever good enough. Sometimes I think it's them that has the problem but now maybe I'm seeing that it's really me it's got me messed up
JordTheNordJordTheNord
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- 1y
@J.Christine It looks like a love language issue! You have a love language of affirmations where it’s very helpful and beneficial for someone to verbally compliment you. I’m the same way! Of course we have to learn that not everyone is going to be like that BUT it still matters on who we are spending so much of our time and getting along with. Also, I’ve experienced the same with my own parents( specifically mom) not too enough. Not everyone is like that though. I would recommend communicating with your husband that if he could up his “game” in the compliment department that would be greatly appreciated and helpful to you’re overall well being. OCD or not
Emmnala Emmnala
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- 1y
Yes. I’m constantly on him about washing his hands and telling him to leave things how he found it haha. I think it’s just men being men.
JordTheNordJordTheNord
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- 1y
@Emmnala I find this comment fake news 😎 lmao no I get it but not all of us are like that. It’s like the unfortunate ones of my gender saying “women just being women”. not all women are fitting into your tiny stereotypical box. I get there are slight patterns but look at society’s culture to them (women). Which I agree the same for my own gender look at society’s bullshit expectations of men
Emmnala Emmnala
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- 1y
@JordTheNord Oh trust me I know I was just joking
J.ChristineJ.Christine
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- 1y
@JordTheNord I do use that method cuz one time I had a psychiatrist tell me that a person doesn't know if they're doing something that irritates you until you tell them. So I do that with everybody I know especially my husband and I've used that method so much that it's now a skill that I perceive well. But my husband has this little thing that I guess it amuses him to see me struggle or something like that. And it sounds I'm a little dramatic also he gets his kicks off of it but me it hurts my feelings I'm very emotional person and where my feelings on my sleeve.
J.ChristineJ.Christine
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- 1y
@J.Christine And I wear myself out trying to do things to the best ability that I can because I'm trying to make it good enough for let's just say everyone not just my husband I guess
JordTheNordJordTheNord
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- 1y
@J.Christine I’m so sorry to hear that! You or anyone should not be treated like that. I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe couples counseling would be beneficial?
J.ChristineJ.Christine
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- 1y
@JordTheNord Yeah, maybe not I may need to let it go
JordTheNordJordTheNord
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- 1y
@J.Christine What you mean?
NicaNica
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- 1y
OCD latches onto things and people you care about, so yes, makes sense.
JilynJilyn
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- 1y
I have more ocd at home than at work or social settings,church,etc…
J.ChristineJ.Christine
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- 1y
Me too
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