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- Chloejade97
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah my hat goes off to you for being brave to write this! I sometimes panic about certain fetishes but it's all phases for me. I feel like if you have a certain fetish it will feel good - but if you have to fight it I wouldn't say it's a fetish. It's hard to explain but say with watersports - I'd even say myself I've come across videos with it in it - and no its not my fetish but it didnt turn me off. And so I'm at peace with the fact that im fine with it - but if I were to worry about liking it, It would probably be more intense than it is.
thank you both! it was so difficult admitting that
Even if this was a real fetish, there’s nothing wrong with it!! Well done for facing your fears and writing this :)
I’m really proud of you for talking about this. For a second, I had to do a double take to see if I didn’t write this post. I had a similar experience. I freak out over my fetish and am working really hard personally and with a therapist to accept it as normal. I’m also undergoing ERP to deal with panic attacks from watching people wet themselves, so you’re not alone! Thank you for being so courageous. You inspired me to write this post and divulge things I never thought I would.
You're brave for actually going out of your way just to talk about something like this. Anything "false" that just serves to worsen your anxiety and keep you obsessing about it is part of the OCD.
No problem:) I think accepting first that theres nothing majorly wrong with it - to get rid of that anxiety- will allow you to see clearer about you feel about it, you know what I mean? Sometimes I think, my anxiety clouds my head sometimes that I dont know how I actually feel about something.
Ok so I’ve been kind of upset about this all day so I figured I would share this. I’m really nervous doing it because I don’t want to get judged for it. I feel so guilty about it all the time. So a couple of years ago I was babysitting a family friends kid, and they were crawling all over me, jumping up and down, and I wound up having a groinal response (I really don’t wanna say the kind.) I kind of put it in the back of my mind and forgot about it, but around last year I remembered and latched onto it and it threw me into my OCD spiral. I remembered this happened maybe two other times before that, and of course I felt weird and guilty by it. I didn’t experience any sexual arousal, yet this happened to me. I always had sexually intrusive thoughts ever since I was a little kid, so perhaps I was just having a groinal response to when that was happening because I was thinking “omg what if...” or whatever, but of course I can’t remember my thoughts. Now I know what a groinal response is and that they come in all shapes and sizes (lol) but because this happened *before* I realized I had POCD, my brain has convinced me that it was some kind of genuine attraction and that I wanted to do something bad
Anyone else read about "groinal response" and "arousal non-concordance"? Basically anyone can feel a slight "twinge" of arousal at a random time, but for people with OCD, they immediately latch onto it and think it MEANS something about them. This is how many cases of HOCD, POCD, BOCD, etc begin, I'd imagine. I can have felt something one time 3 years ago and nothing since then, but still be worried it "means" something about me. Or, sometimes that first incident causes repeated intrusive thoughts every time you come in contact with that thing, so it become a self fulfilling prophesy. I can be doing fine for weeks and then suddenly start worrying about one of these again. Anyone else have any experiences similar?
Hi just for reference, I’m a girl, I’m almost 17 and I’ve been boy crazy for pretty much all my life. I- I don’t even know what to think anymore, I identify as straight and enjoy thinking about men sexually and emotionally, but I can also masterbate to women weirdly enough? I’ve been diagnosed with pure ocd and I have no desire to have any sexual or emotional relationships with women in real life, and I’ve had hocd for over a year now, but I can masterbate to weird things sometimes and I know I’m not supposed to but I compulsively search things up very often and from what I’ve found most people would say that it would mean that I’m bi. The idea of being bi or gay has made me hyperventilate and cry god knows how many times, at this point I wouldn’t even be angry if I was bi or gay but I know that I’m not. My head keeps telling me that since I can masterbate to gay thoughts or lesbian thoughts sometimes that it means that I’m not straight even though I have no desire to do anything even remotely close to that in real life. This is one of my worst themes of ocd so far as compared to other people who have hocd they don’t get turned on or finish thinking about these things and I do but I don’t identify as bi or gay. I just, I don’t know what to do anymore? I was hoping someone on here goes through the same thing? And I’d really rather not hear that it’s just me denying it, I have a few people I talk to and occasionally when I bring it up they just say I’m in denial so I really don’t know what to do anymore.
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