POCD and HOCD Groinal reposes are normal, but what if my nipples get hard the same time I feel those groinal responses? Is that also all tied in together? Anyone else dealing with that? My mind has been thinking about this and I’m really curious?
I’m a guy 😭 suffering from hocd, I know my heart paces and I feel aroused but I don’t like it and it causes more anxiety. I don’t get groinal responses anymore it’s more of a anxiety of did I jus find him attractive, why am I noticing guys more etc. whereas the thought of being a a guy or sleeping w one is disgusting and distressing. I know I’m not gay so that jus helps me . I’m jus accepting the thought as a thoughg and tryna move on. Hopefully my sex drive comes back 🤣😭 not felt anytbing in days
POCD is a theme for me too… I just can’t tell you how freakin relieved I am to just know I’m not alone. I hope it helps you too!!! It’s TERRIFYING
Any erogenous zones can have responses, it’s completely normal! It’s the exact same as the groinal response I’ve even sometimes get responses in my mouth! - ocd is seriously strange :D Hope this makes you feel better
@LJaPo05 It does! Hearing someone else say it helped a lot. Thank you sm! This one was new for me and I was curious! Now I can battle my ocd with some confidence haha! I really appreciate your comment! Ocd is really weird.
@nanchrach But why do I feel so attracted like jus by looking at them. I don’t want to feel it I jus want to go on with my day. I can acknowledge if a guys goodnlooking but I don’t want to get thoughts of kissing them or being w em. Like when it’s abt girls I like it but with guys I hate it . Is this false attraction?
@Anonymous It’s normal to have all these feelings and thoughts! OCD is a villain and plays on what you align most with for your inner person. Have you started ERP therapy? That will definitely help!
@nanchrach Like if I see a good looking guy on timtok has nice hair good eyes it makes me think I’m fully attracted. We live ina day where boys can compliment boys and girls can compliment girls. I know my preference has always been girls. I haven’t strted erp but I’ve been told my a specialist that I have ocd. And atp it’s targetting sexual orientation. I had it in 2021. Went away in 2022 and I was so happy. Had girls interested in girls wanted to sleep w em. Came back in 2023 august and it’s completely done my sex drive and ruined my life
@Anonymous I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this :( I had SOOCD from 12 years old til I was in college. I had boyfriends, never wanted a girlfriend, even tried to tell myself I’m bi but that didn’t feel right. I know for sure exposure helped me a ton… just like, coming to terms with there being a question mark there bc of my OCD. and opening up to my partner about it has helped me because he’s not afraid of anything I have to say anymore. Lol
@Anonymous It’s normal to find someone attractive without being interested in them. Something my therapist said to me one day was “what if you are gay? Will you still love yourself and live your life to fullest? Will you let this stop you?” And that really helped me realize that at the end of the day it doesn’t matter if I’m gay or not. That a thought is a thought and does not define me or my character. I am in a loving relationship with my husband and I still struggle sometimes with HOCD but I just remember to tell myself “maybe I am maybe I’m not.” Facing my OCD with uncertainty has definitely helped and my inner person has peace and I begin to trust in myself. It gets better!
@hthrchrry OMG or maybe I had HOCD!!! Either way. I’ve made really amazing gay friends, I’m an out and proud ally, I don’t avoid movies with gay characters… I used to avoid all of that stuff because of triggers
@hthrchrry Sorry if this is too forward, but did u ever feel arousal? I’m a guy, so I can literally visually see my private parts if I’m aroused and I have gotten a full erection from it many times, so it must be true then
@hthrchrry It’s scary to open up to my partner because I feel she ll think I’m acc gay. It’s like idk how to do this anymore. I’m starting this whole maybe I am maybe I’m not thing and it’s kinda helping until false attraction happens. My sex drive been depleted as I don’t feel anything to girls no more. ☹️
@nanchrach I do hope so. I do hope I can live my life with my girl forever. And that I can jus leave it to uncertainty and still be happy
@Anonymous Hey! That’s ok! Yes I have… but I have never wanted to literally be with a woman. Does that make sense? Is it helpful?
@Anonymous I suggest looking up arousal non concordance and groinal responses online and it can better explain what you are going through. You can also look up on the NOCD app in the search bar and type those in there and read up. Very educational
@hthrchrry Yes that makes sense for me too, but now my brain is trynna force me to also like men romantically 😂 and that “it’s the last peice in the puzzle, imagine a scenario of it and u will embody it and accept it and be gay and happy” but I won’t imagine it this time idc
This has been stressing me out, i don't find many specific scientific articles on groin response or similar topics, this makes me wonder if we all actually have a more serious problem? None of the therapists i've been to seem to think about OCD when talking to me and i'm not even diagnosed with anything, i'm always wondering if this means that i'm bad and i'm just hiding behind a false thing. Maybe my therapists would not comprehend that fully and i 100% understand them, apart from thoughts i have other things like groinal responses, that's one of the most uncomfortable things to say because i'm always afraid that by describing it, they'll suspect something way worse. It is worrying that i have not been able to find anything else for that topic on the internet apart from what this same app posts or the same old sources, i cannot find a big study very focused on it and that scares me
Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?
hi does anyone ever get a random grounal response then feel aroused but you don’t want to be like before i had the thought i was feeling a little aroused then i had a random thought and it had the ground response and i felt aroused i don’t understand.
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