How do you guys deal with family members who don’t understand OCD well and try to take it upon themselves to fix your problems? I’m staying with my mom right now while I recover from a partial thyroidectomy, and the way she’s been acting is beginning to really mess with me. I understand she is doing these things because she cares but she isn’t listening to me and what I really need. The other day she decided it would be a good idea to trigger me on purpose trying to do “ERP”, which I haven’t yet started in a clinical setting and I am certainly not ready to do at home, much less without warning. I’d been doin really well that day up until then, managing my anxiety on my own, but I’d hit my limit at that point and decided to smoke some weed to calm down, at which my mom found it appropriate to say I was like an alcoholic jonesing for beer. I just wanted my medicine so I could calm down and not cry, which irritates my stitches a whole hell of a lot more than smoking does (I’m one of those people who can suppress the coughing). Idk I’m sorry that was long, the whole thing just makes me feel like shit about myself, maybe I’m just an addict after all but idk it just seemed a little unfair for her to basically screw with my mental illness, and then chastize me for wanting some relief. I realize smoking can irritate the stitches a little bit but it hurts a whole lot more when I cry. It’s worth mentioning that I have PTSD as well, partially due to how my mom acted when I was a young kid, and she doesn’t accommodate it the best.

I had a very bad addiction to it, I recently quit after 15 years smoking it its been 8 weeks tomorrow. Thing is with me I abused it for too long smoked too much and smoked at the wrong times. If you can keep it under control its mostly ok but I was never one who could just smoke it occasionally lol. All or nothing so I went for nothing. It was so hard quitting but I had to do it. I miss it. I'm looking into cbd only weed now no thc non of the psychotic stuff, cbd is great for anxiety, depression, pain etc

I’m not sure if this is true but it’s my understanding that you can’t be addicted to weed anyway. And if you are, it doesn’t say anything bad about you. In terms of your mom, you briefly mentioned her not listening to you. Have you tried having a therapy session with your mom present so your therapist can back you up? That’s helped me a lot. If she still doesn’t listen, is there any way you can avoid her, or at least avoid being alone with her? That would be my main recommendation

Also I think you can get addicted to weed, it’s just a very Mild addiction if that makes sense

I don't want to tell you what to do or say you're an addict I don't want to scare you but just be careful! Long term smoking can mess with you ? especially if you abuse it. But it doesn't happen to everyone. And I'm in the UK the weed we have here is shit and street dealers mess with it too much and use chemicals to grow it and 'enhance' it. I'd never wanna scare anyone just like to advise them to be cautious

I quit because it made me worse there was no fun in it anymore I didn't smoke with friends in the end just always smoked alone I thought it helped my anxiety but it made it worse in the end. But honestly cbd is brilliant. It's the thc that can mess with our heads

Wait til things have calmed down and try to have a talk with her maybe? But I don't know you don't want to get more stressed out if you got stitches and recovering from that ?

I suggested we do a session with my therapist but I get the feeling she isn’t going to go even though she says she will. I once had my last therapist try to call her and advocate for me but she ignored all her calls so my hopes aren’t very high that she will actually attend.

And the thing is if she is so worried about my stitches, why is she willing to have me be a crying mess and ACTUALLY irritate my stitches, but not ok with me smoking a little weed to calm down so I can AVOID that pain

I’m not looking to quit weed, reduce my tolerance yes. It genuinely helps me a lot so I dont want to stop using it.

That's fair enough as long as you take breaks and don't overdo it. I smoked it everyday for like 15 years ? some days I'd just smoke all day. Wish I'd been more sensible on it I really do. It really started to make me worse so I had to quit

I sometimes smoke all day, but only if there’s nothing better to do lol

How old are you?

I'm 29, started smoking when I was 14, from the age of 15 it was everyday and from the age of 18 it was excessively never having days off. It was bad I could literally count on one hand how many days I'd had off and that was due to being in hospital or being really ill ?? never thought I'd quit it was so hard but so glad I did

Man I guess i am some kind of an addict, but to be fair, I also take trazodone everyday and need it to function so is it really much different from that? And if I am an addict does

That mean my mom is right to treat me this way? Like I really don’t know if I’m just a shitty addict or if my mom is legitimately being controlling/toxic.

I’m 17, 18 in October. My parents have previously been understanding of my cannabis use so this is a weird 180

No she should be more supportive and I will say being an alcoholic is much worse! Oh you're still young then just make sure you be responsible about it like I said take breaks don't rely on it too much and if you're ever feeling really low that's definitely not a good time to smoke it although you'd think it helps

My dad was always OK about it but my mom different story she went absolutely mental when she found out I smoked it when I was in my early 20s she thought I quit many years ago she doesn't know I carried on and quit 8 weeks ago. My dad was always cool about it until he realised it was making me worse

I mean, I basically use it as a replacement for Xanax, so when I get really bad anxiety I do tend to smoke, what would you recommend i do instead?

I'm sure she's just being caring?

Smoke a little less and get some cbd cbd is great for anxiety and its safe. I'm not gonna tell you to quit no one can tell you that. Oh shit I really hope I haven't upset or offended you in anyway ?

I realize she’s doing what she’s doing because she cares, but she’s not thinking about how i am actually affected by her words and actions, I’m mostly upset that she pushed me into the panic attack in the first place and then got mad at me for wanting to do something to not panic. (If I cry it REALLY hurts my stitches, far more than smoking does. the main reason she doesn’t want me to smoke right now is because of my stitches)

Don’t worry man you haven’t offended me at all, I appreciate all your advice and completely get that you’re just lookin out for me, you’ve been nothing but respectful. for me thon it depends on the strain some make me worse some make me better. I definitely do want to smoke less though, I’m not happy with how high my tolerance has gotten.

I notice that high sativa strains mess with my head big time, especially green crack. Indica always helps me out though, even with my tolerance at an all time high (pun intended haha)

I'm glad I didn't upset you I'd hate to think I did. Absolutely just looking out for you and offering advice, yes that's very true about different strains! I remember having some green crack before it was one of the strongest I'd ever had! If you can, look for strains that are high in cbd, not sure if it's legal where you are? But that would be an option. The thing is with the UK with it being illegal and all sold through dealers it can be pretty dangerous ?I wish you the best of luck anyway and sending love and positivity to you ☺️❤️