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I had a very bad addiction to it, I recently quit after 15 years smoking it its been 8 weeks tomorrow. Thing is with me I abused it for too long smoked too much and smoked at the wrong times. If you can keep it under control its mostly ok but I was never one who could just smoke it occasionally lol. All or nothing so I went for nothing. It was so hard quitting but I had to do it. I miss it. I'm looking into cbd only weed now no thc non of the psychotic stuff, cbd is great for anxiety, depression, pain etc
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- 6y
I’m not sure if this is true but it’s my understanding that you can’t be addicted to weed anyway. And if you are, it doesn’t say anything bad about you. In terms of your mom, you briefly mentioned her not listening to you. Have you tried having a therapy session with your mom present so your therapist can back you up? That’s helped me a lot. If she still doesn’t listen, is there any way you can avoid her, or at least avoid being alone with her? That would be my main recommendation
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- 6y
Also I think you can get addicted to weed, it’s just a very Mild addiction if that makes sense
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I don't want to tell you what to do or say you're an addict I don't want to scare you but just be careful! Long term smoking can mess with you ? especially if you abuse it. But it doesn't happen to everyone. And I'm in the UK the weed we have here is shit and street dealers mess with it too much and use chemicals to grow it and 'enhance' it. I'd never wanna scare anyone just like to advise them to be cautious
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- 6y
I quit because it made me worse there was no fun in it anymore I didn't smoke with friends in the end just always smoked alone I thought it helped my anxiety but it made it worse in the end. But honestly cbd is brilliant. It's the thc that can mess with our heads
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- 6y
Wait til things have calmed down and try to have a talk with her maybe? But I don't know you don't want to get more stressed out if you got stitches and recovering from that ?
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- 6y
I suggested we do a session with my therapist but I get the feeling she isn’t going to go even though she says she will. I once had my last therapist try to call her and advocate for me but she ignored all her calls so my hopes aren’t very high that she will actually attend.
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And the thing is if she is so worried about my stitches, why is she willing to have me be a crying mess and ACTUALLY irritate my stitches, but not ok with me smoking a little weed to calm down so I can AVOID that pain
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I’m not looking to quit weed, reduce my tolerance yes. It genuinely helps me a lot so I dont want to stop using it.
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- 6y
That's fair enough as long as you take breaks and don't overdo it. I smoked it everyday for like 15 years ? some days I'd just smoke all day. Wish I'd been more sensible on it I really do. It really started to make me worse so I had to quit
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- 6y
I sometimes smoke all day, but only if there’s nothing better to do lol
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How old are you?
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I'm 29, started smoking when I was 14, from the age of 15 it was everyday and from the age of 18 it was excessively never having days off. It was bad I could literally count on one hand how many days I'd had off and that was due to being in hospital or being really ill ?? never thought I'd quit it was so hard but so glad I did
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Man I guess i am some kind of an addict, but to be fair, I also take trazodone everyday and need it to function so is it really much different from that? And if I am an addict does
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That mean my mom is right to treat me this way? Like I really don’t know if I’m just a shitty addict or if my mom is legitimately being controlling/toxic.
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I’m 17, 18 in October. My parents have previously been understanding of my cannabis use so this is a weird 180
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No she should be more supportive and I will say being an alcoholic is much worse! Oh you're still young then just make sure you be responsible about it like I said take breaks don't rely on it too much and if you're ever feeling really low that's definitely not a good time to smoke it although you'd think it helps
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My dad was always OK about it but my mom different story she went absolutely mental when she found out I smoked it when I was in my early 20s she thought I quit many years ago she doesn't know I carried on and quit 8 weeks ago. My dad was always cool about it until he realised it was making me worse
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I mean, I basically use it as a replacement for Xanax, so when I get really bad anxiety I do tend to smoke, what would you recommend i do instead?
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I'm sure she's just being caring?
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Smoke a little less and get some cbd cbd is great for anxiety and its safe. I'm not gonna tell you to quit no one can tell you that. Oh shit I really hope I haven't upset or offended you in anyway ?
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I realize she’s doing what she’s doing because she cares, but she’s not thinking about how i am actually affected by her words and actions, I’m mostly upset that she pushed me into the panic attack in the first place and then got mad at me for wanting to do something to not panic. (If I cry it REALLY hurts my stitches, far more than smoking does. the main reason she doesn’t want me to smoke right now is because of my stitches)
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Don’t worry man you haven’t offended me at all, I appreciate all your advice and completely get that you’re just lookin out for me, you’ve been nothing but respectful. for me thon it depends on the strain some make me worse some make me better. I definitely do want to smoke less though, I’m not happy with how high my tolerance has gotten.
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I notice that high sativa strains mess with my head big time, especially green crack. Indica always helps me out though, even with my tolerance at an all time high (pun intended haha)
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I'm glad I didn't upset you I'd hate to think I did. Absolutely just looking out for you and offering advice, yes that's very true about different strains! I remember having some green crack before it was one of the strongest I'd ever had! If you can, look for strains that are high in cbd, not sure if it's legal where you are? But that would be an option. The thing is with the UK with it being illegal and all sold through dealers it can be pretty dangerous ?I wish you the best of luck anyway and sending love and positivity to you ☺️❤️
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- 24w
Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.
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- 16w
LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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