jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

Rocd and hocd

Hi ! I have hocd and my ocd told me that if I discover that I could prefer woman more than my parter I would have to leave him unless I'm lying to myself. After overthinking it, I came to the point that it could exist a women that would be sexier, more understa,more nice than my partner. I came to the idea that it was okay and because I love him and I don't need more , and I was afraid about this thought because I'm just scared about homosexuality. But no matter what I tell to my fear, I'm still afraid about it because I feel like I'm mentally blocked about it and that I have to leave my partner to go with a women , and if I don't do that I will never feel relief . The fact is that I know that's ocd and I don't want to do it. I love my partner and I just want to undo this blocage. How can I do?

kira!

Date posted: 1y

I hear you and that sounds incredibly difficult to experience. I feel it’s important to remind you that you don’t HAVE to do anything, regardless of however you feel. OCD loves making you feel like you are trapped and the only escape is to do what it tells you to do, such as leaving your partner. It seems like you might be stuck in that cycle of the fear feeding itself and making your thoughts worse, more intense, and/or more distressing. It may or may not help you, but I would play around with the idea of simply doing nothing. Ask yourself the “what if that happens?” when the thoughts arise and then consider the possibility of you simply doing nothing about it. There is a world that exists where these thoughts do not bother you and that world CAN be this one, I promise. I’ve been plagued in the past by thoughts (although, heterosexual) where there was a possibility of a smarter, funnier, more attractive person than my boyfriend and what helped me was accepting the fact that that might be true. Or it might not be. And saying that I’m okay with it either way. Again, this may or may not help, but this is what had worked in my own experience. Good luck, my friend, much love 💛

toni12

Date posted: 1y

So how are you now are you straight do you have still thoughts.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

Hi kira ! Wow ! Your message is amazing and so helpful Thank you sooo much ❤️ BTW could it be possible to enter in contact with u so you tell me more about what you went through? I would be so grateful

kira!

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 Well actually I’m not straight, I’m technically bisexual, but all of my intrusive thoughts never involved women, just men for some reason. I do still have thoughts but they don’t cause much distress, if any at all. I’ve worked hard to consistently respond to my thoughts with things like “So?” or “Yeah, maybe that’s true, maybe that’s not” or “Even if that’s true, I really don’t care” or even “I’m not really sure if that’s true and that’s okay. I don’t need all the answers right now”. OCD always made me feel like something urgent needed to be done or like my situation was hopeless. I’ve discovered that neither of those things are true. I’ve tried being curious about my thoughts and observe them rather than immediately reacting to them, if that makes sense.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

Really thank you so much I'm reading your message at least 3 times

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@kira! Man this is kiling me l always liked womans never mans but this shit destroyinge me l dont have so much anixty now but l fear that l am gay or bisexsula so anoying.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@kira! Hi Kira! Can I send you a private message? I didn't saw a possibility to do it on the app, but your experience with your thoughts about a men being better than your partner are really alike to my actual experience, and i would really like to hear about it How can I contact you? If u are okay for sure

jennyfoster07

Date posted: 1y

@kira! Hi kira ! I'm sorry I've accidentally blocked you on this account

toni12

Date posted: 1y

How old are you?

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@jennyfoster We are in same shit l have 22 male l dont have partner but thoughts kiling me am l gay or not or bi all day night now for 3 months.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 I understand you. Have to tried therapy? Videos about hocd on YouTube are amazing Erp therapy also , and there are support groups on WhatsApp and Facebook You can ask me if you need links Personally, I'm still stuck with ocd ( with this last thought that I wrote up) but about my other thoughts I've learned and understood sooo much. I feel this journey is totally possible to heal from In fact I really hope so...

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@jennyfoster Yes l been to tyerapist she said that l have obssesive thoughts and she give me medicament they calm me but l think about that all day.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 You should see another therapist I'm really not in for medication Also there are YouTube channels very good about hocd if you want I can send you links

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@jennyfoster I can say this medicament help beacouse l was in big depression like 10 days l did not leave house l look all videos on youtube literaly evrything about hocd but they just calm but l know that l have to solve my problem on my own

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 Omg same I just started to try to solve it on my own cause I feel like nobody could really understand...but I'd die to have someone to speak about it on a daily basis that also went through it and that could give me support

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@jennyfoster Same just dont search on forums beacouse you will see a lot of people with problems there and your mind with this condition will put in your head like is your problem. Best advice one man give me go into your fear dont avoid man gyms or womans in your caise alow thoughts to be there just dont reac its hard but try.

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 Do you know how to unblock someone on nocd?

jennyfoster

Date posted: 1y

@toni12 I've blocked kira accidentally...

toni12

Date posted: 1y

@jennyfoster Try in setings

yaya_zz

Date posted: 13w

Sexual ocd

Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think

Sexual Orientation OCD

anonymouscookie

Date posted: 7w

so ocd and bisexuality

Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.

Mimo116

Date posted: 6w

So-ocd,please answer

Can hocd create mental feelings or things that resemble inclinations Without a physical response?, but such as arousal and mental attraction, for example, I have so ocd and I'm afraid that I might like women.So, in the last period, when I look at photos of girls, especially beautiful ones, I feel something strange or attracted,sometimes their bodies.And I'm confused as to what that might mean, it's like sexual orientation, is this from me or OCD produced by it?'The feeling is like the feeling of discovering new inclinations and this breaks me, I just want to reconcile with myself in any sexual orientation or identity, but I just can't feel comfortable and reconcile with the fact that I may like women or it may happen in the future.And I have these feelings that telling me messing around the girls would be fun, and I feel something like desire, but I never come to terms with this.. I'm going to be 15 years old, I know, I'm not supposed to think like that, I don't have the right to determine who I am now because im young, and I shouldn't continue to dream of marrying a man..My mind keeps reminding me of the fact that I'm a teenager and the likelihood that everything will change is high, but right now, I'm not asking for anything but rest.I want to love myself and reconcile with her.

Sexual Orientation OCD

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